here it is, i knew i would find it somewhere!@LaBlonde ; thanks for your wisdom. I have definitely spent a long time focusing on creating a fulfilling life and for whatever reason my strength has slipped lately. I just feel like it's all for nothing. Yes my life is objectively nice but I don't want to keep doing this alone for the next 40 years. I definitely need to shake this hollow sadness and try enjoy things again. I love Kim Cattrall, another good quote I read recently went something like 'falling in love can be the icing on the cake, but cake is already pretty good on its own'. Hopefully I can keep that in mind more often.
BBC Radio 4 - Woman's Hour, Takeover Week: Kim Cattrall
Kim Cattrall sets out her themes as guest editor in a frank interview with Jane Garvey.
www.bbc.co.uk
the way that you’re feeling is completely valid. i always struggle with how “easy” other people seem to find it and that naturally leads into well, what’s wrong with me. i’m not unattractive, i’m smart, good job, own house etc but i don’t think i’ve ever really caused strong romantic feelings in anyone.
the only thing i would say is that love can literally happen at any time. a colleague of mine has just married, for the first time, to a man she adores, at 52. the late great betty white didn’t meet her husband, the love of her life, until her early 40s. i have many friends who only really met the person they wanted to spend their life with from their late 30s onwards.
it’s important to make your life, however that life may be, a happy and safe place for yourself. it’s easy to look on social media etc and think that couples have something you lack, but people can feel equally lonely in relationships too. it’s sadly all too natural to rose tint things from the outside though.
the most important relationship you’re ever going to have is with yourself. treat yourself kindly and with love x