Hey everyone, I just found this thread,
I've spent the last few days switching between joyless, angry, nothing and obsessive. Crying for no reason and closing the net around me because I dont want to let anyone in.
I put effort into things and it goes to waste.
It's like being on a rollercoaster but you spend more down going down than you do going up.
Hi there, for me, the most important thing is having support that does not judge, does not try to "fix me" with suggestions to "take a walk, eat healthier, etc." and doesn't ask or assume that the sadness is because of the support's involvement. I.e., I hate when I am having a bout and my mom takes it personally.Hey guys, hope you're all keeping well. My partner was diagnosed with depression yesterday, and has another app with the doctor soon to discuss a plan going forward.
I'm just wondering, do you guys have any advice on how I can help? What I should/shouldn't do? This is all very new to me and I don't want to do anything to upset him, I just want to be there to help. Thank you
Thank you! I am just very conscious of saying/doing the wrong thing and being unhelpful! I hope you are doing okay, all the bestHi there, for me, the most important thing is having support that does not judge, does not try to "fix me" with suggestions to "take a walk, eat healthier, etc." and doesn't ask or assume that the sadness is because of the support's involvement. I.e., I hate when I am having a bout and my mom takes it personally.
I found this instagram account to be super helpful for not only myself to understand what it was that was happening and to not feel so alone, but for others to understand what it means and the different ways depression can manifest: https://www.instagram.com/realdepressionproject
I can say that the fact you are reaching out to know how to best support shows already what a great partner you are and that your spouse is very lucky to have you. <3
Please don’t apologise lovely. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I wish I could offer some useful advice, I hope someone here can (only if that’s what you want though).I don’t know where else to post this. Can’t email the samaritans for the fifty billionth time. I have to be honest and two faced and say I have always lurked this thread and not contributed because I find it hugely triggering and comforting in equal measure.
I wish I could get this beast off our backs.
Anyway, i’ll be vague as I don’t want to be triggering.
Basically I only show/let any emotion out maybe once every few years. I don’t cry or feel sad, I just have a detached apathy to everything. This week has been just too much for me with things changing and I just could feel actual bad feelings rising rather than burying them so I sh’d for the first time in 6 months or so and it’s just brought it all to the surface. I will never get any better, circumstances can never change for me. So i’ve sat here sobbing like a child for the last half an hour, pointlessly.
Anyway, sorry for dropping in and being depressingLove to you all.
(Mods please delete if i’m not allowed to mentionself harm.
Thank you, Sidey B.Please don’t apologise lovely. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I wish I could offer some useful advice, I hope someone here can (only if that’s what you want though).
All I can say is that you’re not alone. I can relate a bit because even though I’m going through a pretty bad depression at the moment I hardly ever cry. I used to use unhelpful methods to deal with mental distress, and even though it’s better not to, it’s harder to cope when you don’t have that “coping method”. Ugh I don’t know if I’m making sense now, sorry.
Please, please be kind to yourself today, easier said than done. You’re such a thoughtful, compassionate person, and you don’t deserve to be going through this xx
I'm so sorry to hear that @Maid22 but I can definitely relate to that feeling of being alone(even though in my case I'm not) and that no one cares and yes even suicidal occasionally ?You are me, my oh stopped me twice, that was many years ago, the thought still lingers but meds have helped.
I also have no friends, if my oh wasn't here, I could fall, or even die in my house and no one would know, it's something I've had to live with as being an Introvert and practically a recluse, , being let down by so called friends over the years, would find it difficult to trust again, thank god for my dogs!!!!
This thread is a safe place to write things down, hugs to all who live with this demon, it's shit!!!
Oh I'm so sorry to hear thatMy depression and more so my anxiety is bad this week. My younger brother was diagnosed with stage 1 lymphoma today & needs rounds of chemo and radiotherapy. The whole process of diagnosis has made me feel extremely stressed obviously but now I’m in a deep pit of depression thinking why the fuck does this have to happen to a child?
I just think life is so shit.
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