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Look at me and youāll see fresh hair, waxed brows and manicured nails but my head is a whole other story.
I saw this yesterday, itās so true in different ways for all of us
Love this, especially about it being true in different ways for us all.
I wish none of us were going through this, itās just such a relief to be able to talk to other people who understand and donāt judge or get freaked out.
Took one for the team and had a shower.
Donāt feel any better! Just feel more knackered.
Save yourselves the energy and donāt bother xx
Edit to add I didnāt even contemplate washing my hair. It just got shoved up high out the way.
Donāt feel any better! Just feel more knackered.
Save yourselves the energy and donāt bother xx
Edit to add I didnāt even contemplate washing my hair. It just got shoved up high out the way.
Good on you
I'm thinking about it but really can't be bothered! As for hair washing, I've always hated washing it, I leave it go for as long as poss and also put it up.Is work the only factor, or are there other things adding to it?What to do for burnout from work?
Are you able to take some time off?
I reached a point where I was (finally) signed off, long after my GP first wanted to. I kept refusing, saying I was okay and work was what was keeping me goingā¦ Actually it was masking how badly I was coping overall.
Taking time off felt alien to me, but it was necessary.
If you feel able to, you need to do it xx
I just want to pop in and send big hugs to everyone on here. I think feeling down can be particularly hard when SM is bombarding us with images of people living up summer, their holidays etc.
In terms of washing, it was the biggest bone of contention when I was at my worst. Each day ended with an argument about whether I had washed, changed, cleaned. After a few days I was forced into the shower (always at night with the light off). The cycle then started again.
I also want to express my sadness at how posters can come in and tell people to āshake their life upā. If it was that easy, would we be here? Would we be cycling through different drugs trying just to get through each day? Would a science teacher be so out of it with their desperate thoughts that they set their microwave on fire but really DGAS? How many of us have (or had- in my case for the first ) successful careers, happy family lives, friends? Depression isnāt here because we choose to ruminate. It strikes without warning for numerous reasons and it can lift (or not) without warning for numerous reasons.
Sorry to go on- you are all so strong.
In terms of washing, it was the biggest bone of contention when I was at my worst. Each day ended with an argument about whether I had washed, changed, cleaned. After a few days I was forced into the shower (always at night with the light off). The cycle then started again.
I also want to express my sadness at how posters can come in and tell people to āshake their life upā. If it was that easy, would we be here? Would we be cycling through different drugs trying just to get through each day? Would a science teacher be so out of it with their desperate thoughts that they set their microwave on fire but really DGAS? How many of us have (or had- in my case for the first ) successful careers, happy family lives, friends? Depression isnāt here because we choose to ruminate. It strikes without warning for numerous reasons and it can lift (or not) without warning for numerous reasons.
Sorry to go on- you are all so strong.
@Into_the_tunnel i absolutely agree, I find the posts about āwhy donāt you just xyzā infuriating and I have to ignore them. Itās not as simple as changing jobs when you canāt even manage to get out of bed.
Your comments about washing - Iām not sure whether you had an internal argument with yourself, or if it was someone elseā¦ Iām so sorry if it was someone else. Iām sure they thought they were helping, but thatās not the way to support, is it
Weāre always here if you need us, even if youāre avoiding SM xx
Your comments about washing - Iām not sure whether you had an internal argument with yourself, or if it was someone elseā¦ Iām so sorry if it was someone else. Iām sure they thought they were helping, but thatās not the way to support, is it
Weāre always here if you need us, even if youāre avoiding SM xx
Thank you. It was someone else. It is fine@Into_the_tunnel i absolutely agree, I find the posts about āwhy donāt you just xyzā infuriating and I have to ignore them. Itās not as simple as changing jobs when you canāt even manage to get out of bed.
Your comments about washing - Iām not sure whether you had an internal argument with yourself, or if it was someone elseā¦ Iām so sorry if it was someone else. Iām sure they thought they were helping, but thatās not the way to support, is it
Weāre always here if you need us, even if youāre avoiding SM xx
I think, looking back on it, after 4 or 5 days of not leaving the house/bed/sofa each time I needed to be clean. I never felt better though. Ever. Why would I care about something being clean when I didnāt care about that thing in the first place? Which, if you havenāt been there, canāt be understood.Xxx
Yes, itās so hard to explain to someone. I would never have understood it, before I was in it xxThank you. It was someone else. It is fine
Xxx
I think there are some people who donāt understand the difference between feeling a bit down, and actually suffering from depression. When I donāt have depression I can easily cheer myself up, see things in a positive way etc, but just now I literally canāt, itās how I know itās genuinely an illness.
Things like changing job / going travelling / going on a spontaneous weekend away alone are so far beyond what Iām capable of, that I canāt even process the thoughts needed to begin to think about them!
To get into the shower this morning was such a long process, I was exhausted before Iād even turned on the water.
4 years ago if youād told me that, Iād have had no way to understand that difficulty.
Edit to add I think thatās why I posted here in the first place yesterday about not knowing when Iād last showered etc. - because I desperately needed someone to tell me I wasnāt alone, and I knew that I wasnāt the only one to be feeling that. I hoped it might make someone else feel less alone, too
To get into the shower this morning was such a long process, I was exhausted before Iād even turned on the water.
4 years ago if youād told me that, Iād have had no way to understand that difficulty.
Edit to add I think thatās why I posted here in the first place yesterday about not knowing when Iād last showered etc. - because I desperately needed someone to tell me I wasnāt alone, and I knew that I wasnāt the only one to be feeling that. I hoped it might make someone else feel less alone, too
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I really felt for you when you posted that last night, but you definitely made a lot of us feel less alone, and yourself.Things like changing job / going travelling / going on a spontaneous weekend away alone are so far beyond what Iām capable of, that I canāt even process the thoughts needed to begin to think about them!
To get into the shower this morning was such a long process, I was exhausted before Iād even turned on the water.
4 years ago if youād told me that, Iād have had no way to understand that difficulty.
Edit to add I think thatās why I posted here in the first place yesterday about not knowing when Iād last showered etc. - because I desperately needed someone to tell me I wasnāt alone, and I knew that I wasnāt the only one to be feeling that. I hoped it might make someone else feel less alone, too
I know what you mean about things changing job/travelling. Thereās so much Iād love to do. I get so frustrated with myself because I should feel lucky that Iām physically able to. Mentally itās a different story though.
I honestly think it is possible for things to get better for all of us, in time.
I washed my hair yay! I still donāt think it should be easy for anyone else though.
Haha, I forgot to switch the hot water on, and Iāve still not dried itCan you come and do mine??
Seriously - well done xx
Ah itāll dry by itself while you watch tv!Haha, I forgot to switch the hot water on, and Iāve still not dried it
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