I think you speak for many of us. I doubt that any of us in long term relationships can say that there haven't been times when the going has been tough but have come through those times stronger because of it. Some, like you and Mrs Geordieboy have experienced separation, others have been challenged by work, financial strain, ill health, family worries or maybe pure exhaustion. (Our youngest didn't sleep through the night until he was 4 years old and started school and hubby was on permanent nights. I was pretty close to giving up!) I know that I am not the same 20yr old that Mr J married and the man with silvery streaks in his hair and glasses is not the blonde Roberrt Redford lookalike in a dashing uniform that I married - and we're stronger for it!
I hope that Dan and Annalise can be given the space they need to sort out how they want to move forward. If either read here (and why wouldn't they?) the cruel comments will not help either of them and will post likely cause further damage to a fractured family.
I totally agree with you
@Jeeves, for all the reasons you have stated.
BUT, the difference here is that Dan and Annalise, between themselves decided, for whatever reasons, to embark on a YT vlog about their life.
You, me and lots of other people have decided not to, for obvious reasons.
Therefore, some, and I 100% stress some, people feel that they have been duped, especially their Patrons. I am in no way invested because I personally have never, ever felt the need to give money to any YouTuber.
You, quite rightly, suggest giving them space and, for what it is worth, I again agree.
BUT, let's not forget, one day after Dan's announcement about their split was made public up pops another vlog - thereby in doing so, they have not given themselves space perhaps.
IMHO, if they truly want/or need space, then sorry, that should not have happened, or, have been filmed/published.
And, for the record, I too agree with you, no-one ultimately needs to make any kind of vicious comments, IMHO, just observations, which at the end of the day, may or may not be how it all plays out.
Anybody who feels the need to put their life on YT, just like any other person in whatever form of media, has to be prepared to take the rough with the smooth.