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Mindful about derailing - I lost full sight in one eye in my 30’s. It was my better eye! For me (and my ophthalmic consultant confirmed) it’s not necessarily about the size of the print, the choice of font has a massive impact as well. I can read smaller text in a good font but struggle with bigger text in a bad font. And CAPS just blur.

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I'm actually in hospital (i was paralyzed by an ms relapse) and the OT has worked a lot on this. Such clever stuff. Poke me tomorrow to reply properly about this when I'm less spaced out on drugs.
 
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I'm actually in hospital (i was paralyzed by an ms relapse) and the OT has worked a lot on this. Such clever stuff. Poke me tomorrow to reply properly about this when I'm less spaced out on drugs.
Can't believe you're still there here's hoping you'll be home soon🤞 ❤...( sorry for derailing further 😬)
 
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Thanj you !Being here has kind of wiped me out from other threads since I'm not in the community so have nothing to contribute!
You've got plenty to contribute x I love reading your posts ,we don't always have to be around people to know whats going on the pandemic has proved that ...you deserve the George Cross for patient services rendered ,you're one strong lady and an inspiration to your kids ,hang in there x...you know what to do if you see a man with an umbrella ;)
 
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The last two days I seem to have developed a really strong sense of smell, smells that don’t usually bother me have really been making me feel sick. My last period was only last week so can’t be pregnant, does anyone know what’s wrong? 🙁
Have you have covid? I had it in August and lost my sense of smell for a few months. But when it came back fully it was as if I could smell things I’ve never smelt before. I can smell things from the next room that others can’t and some foods smell awful now.

I’d also do a pregnancy test just to rule that out too.
 
The last two days I seem to have developed a really strong sense of smell, smells that don’t usually bother me have really been making me feel sick. My last period was only last week so can’t be pregnant, does anyone know what’s wrong? 🙁
Before losing my sense of smell with covid, for a day or two of being sick things smelled strange and very strong. I couldn't be in the kitchen when my partner was cooking meat for example and it was making me gag. Do you think you could have covid?
 
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Before losing my sense of smell with covid, for a day or two of being sick things smelled strange and very strong. I couldn't be in the kitchen when my partner was cooking meat for example and it was making me gag. Do you think you could have covid?
yesterday morning i woke up with a sore throat and this morning feels like I’ve got a head cold. I might get a test to be sure.

Have you have covid? I had it in August and lost my sense of smell for a few months. But when it came back fully it was as if I could smell things I’ve never smelt before. I can smell things from the next room that others can’t and some foods smell awful now.

I’d also do a pregnancy test just to rule that out too.
no I havent had Covid as far as I know
 
I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.
 
I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.
My advice would be to walk away. For whatever reason he isn't prepared to make an effort. This is likely nothing to do with you and won't be because of anything you have or haven't done. He doesn't seem to be ready to commit to a relationship. You mention it's not the first time he's upset you. He isn't making you happy.

If it was me I would send a message of explanation and then immediately delete and block. The hard bit is sticking to it though. You can only do it if you mean it, otherwise it just continues a negative pattern.

Sorry you're in this situation, it's hard when someone plays with your emotions.
 
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I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.
Delete him, move on, you don't even need to give him a reason if he asks. Find a relationship with someone who is invested in you.

Some things grow into something amazing, some things don't. I wouldn't see it as any sort of failing on your part, you tried, the friendship was one sided, and you didn't click sexually. I'd just stay classy and not talk about what went down in the bedroom though to anyone irl.
 
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Delete him, move on, you don't even need to give him a reason if he asks. Find a relationship with someone who is invested in you.

Some things grow into something amazing, some things don't. I wouldn't see it as any sort of failing on your part, you tried, the friendship was one sided, and you didn't click sexually. I'd just stay classy and not talk about what went down in the bedroom though to anyone irl.
Thank you. Just don't like the thought of hurting people but it's draining my mind thinking about why he's being like this. His reaction last time I deleted him was surprising to me because it made it look like he cared. I haven't spoken about our bedroom antics with anyone, hence why I could on here because it's anonymous. I feel better now I've had your perspective so thank you again.
 
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Thank you. Just don't like the thought of hurting people but it's draining my mind thinking about why he's being like this. His reaction last time I deleted him was surprising to me because it made it look like he cared. I haven't spoken about our bedroom antics with anyone, hence why I could on here because it's anonymous. I feel better now I've had your perspective so thank you again.
He wants to keep you on a hook. Nope.

He doesn't care about hurting you, so don't care back! It's quite empowering!
 
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I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.
If you have feelings for him, then reach out and tell him how you feel and what’s currently on your mind.

He’ll either:

1) reciprocate it back to you that he feels the same
2) he’ll tell you he doesn’t feel the same
3) he’ll ignore

If he goes with 2 or 3 then you know to delete him and move on from this.

There shouldn’t be this level of confusion so early on if you’re both interested and invested in each other.

My harsh advice (even to myself) always is: if they like you, you’ll know and if they don’t like you, you’ll be confused.

Not worth the hassle girl! Also, hope you start to feel better covid-wise x
 
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I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.
I call this the push me pull me game. They push you away until you look like you are going and then they pull you back. Dont play it. Delete and block and don't be tempted to stalk or pm. You deserve 100% better. and while you are playing push me pull me you have no room for the right person to come into your life.
 
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Hii, i hope im not on wrong thread.
Soo i also talked about this to my friends in Formula 1 Wags thread. There is this one boy at my dads town (my parents are divorced) and my best friend gave me his snap and that how I found him, so i sended him a snap a few times but he just opened it, so i did little digging on his insta ( we all done it at some point before you attack me) and found out that he is also F1 fan, my plan is to post om my private snap story me watching f1 race hoping that he will start snapping me back, my question is Should i do it, is it worth it??? Thank you
 
Hii, i hope im not on wrong thread.
Soo i also talked about this to my friends in Formula 1 Wags thread. There is this one boy at my dads town (my parents are divorced) and my best friend gave me his snap and that how I found him, so i sended him a snap a few times but he just opened it, so i did little digging on his insta ( we all done it at some point before you attack me) and found out that he is also F1 fan, my plan is to post om my private snap story me watching f1 race hoping that he will start snapping me back, my question is Should i do it, is it worth it??? Thank you

When you say you've snapped him a bit before have you been saying things which warrant a response, or something else?
In my opinion it doesn't sound like he's all that interested. You should never feel like you need to go out of your way to subliminally impress a man. Just be yourself and if that's not for him there will be so many other better matches for you out there ❤
 
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Hii, i hope im not on wrong thread.
Soo i also talked about this to my friends in Formula 1 Wags thread. There is this one boy at my dads town (my parents are divorced) and my best friend gave me his snap and that how I found him, so i sended him a snap a few times but he just opened it, so i did little digging on his insta ( we all done it at some point before you attack me) and found out that he is also F1 fan, my plan is to post om my private snap story me watching f1 race hoping that he will start snapping me back, my question is Should i do it, is it worth it??? Thank you
How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

As this all sounds very childish. From his point of view, a random person added him. (As he didn’t give you his username. Your friend did) so you are a complete stranger to him. Which is probably why he didn’t snap you back.

Don’t go to so much effort over a stranger. If he’s interested in you, he’ll contact you back.
 
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How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

As this all sounds very childish. From his point of view, a random person added him. (As he didn’t give you his username. Your friend did) so you are a complete stranger to him. Which is probably why he didn’t snap you back.

Don’t go to so much effort over a stranger. If he’s interested in you, he’ll contact you back.
Im 17 😬😬 sorry for not gving you more details I didnt wanted to be long. We kinda met one time when i was at my best friends grandmas house and he was playing basketball at the basketball court across the house and my best friend knows him, he didi introduced him self to me and I did sme thing but that was it, and also he bascially adds everyone on snap, and even have his snap in his insta bio, and I just realise know that he have really have snap svore wich doesnt have to mean anything but still
 
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