The advice thread for random problems #7

[Magwitch]

I think it depends on the sex of the 'dog' as to if it damages the grass or not.

I have an unneutered male and no grass damage.

 

[RoseyThorney]

I’m really unsure about what Christmas card to send to my father from my 10 month old daughter. I’ve sent him dad cards from me and hubby for Father’s Day and his birthday and grandad ones from my daughter. His response to the last grandad card was “not sure about being a grandad”… It’s a long story but he’s only met her once and doesn’t have a relationship with her. His wife - who I used to call mum but I have reverted back to calling her my stepmum - is really bitter that I’ve had a baby and she hasn’t (there’s 25 years difference between them) and both my parents had a horrible reaction to my pregnancy announcement. My dad has lost his spine when it comes to his wife it seems.

Anyway, back to the cards… do I just send him one saying grandad from my daughter and a parents one to them both from hubby and I? Will my stepmum kick off if she’s not included in the grandad card? I overheard her telling my wedding nanny that she “isn’t anything” to my daughter because she’s too old to be a grandma… despite being married to my father for almost 20 years.

Am I overthinking this? My parents are a huge source of trauma for me (I’ve done a lot of EMDR therapy) so I’m trying to protect myself from another Christmas argument (after they made me miss last year’s Christmas dinner with hubby and in-laws). Do I just wait to see what kind of card they send to us first and just reciprocate that?

 

[Carapop]

I will keep looking. I've got plenty of tins in/noodles which could do with eating up.
Will phone local stores when I collect my thoughts x
I don't know if it happens to anyone else but it things can go wrong they tend to do so for me.

Did you see my post just above yours? I think ao.com should work (if it delivers to your area). I know how overwhelming all of this feels. I’m so much better at other peoples problems!

 

[Captainmouse]

Has anybody washed a small bean bag item, with the contents in? The washing instructions say you can, but not sure if I should empty first

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Hydro Flask. I put ice in mine in the morning and it’s still there in the late afternoon.

I was looking at hydroflasks earlier put one in my basket as it was 25% off and now it's only 20% off

 

[RandomFrog]

Yes it was a right pain for me when doing an equity transfer. I ended up going into my local branch to make the arrangements in person, it's the best way to do it if you can. Unfortunately far too many people these days still end up losing their life savings to scammers and such, so I do understand why they do it - even if it is a pain!

There is no branch which is half of the issue, I haven't been able to get through to the team who can actually help me all day, I just keep hitting a brick wall

I've literally just got 'if you can't do what you've been asked then tough' basically, not helpful at all, I am genuine and it's all genuine money earnt, if I could just speak to someone who isn't just a standard CS person I'm sure it could be easily resolved. So frustrating just not being able to discuss anything anymore

 

[Jas28]

My manager asked me to do something which isn’t so much higher than my pay grade and I’m not paid to assess. Not sure what I should say but I don’t know why I would have to use my time and mental energy figuring something out which I’m not qualified to do. I don’t know why she’s picking my brains but I don’t want to be rude and I have got my own things to get on with.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Only just found this thread but have a random problem so hoping for some advice! Mine and my bfs house has a large gravel driveway, we didn’t put it down, the previous owners did and they did a massive bodge, didn’t put any membrane done and it’s literally weee central! Also, the neighbourhood cats see it as one giant litter tray! Our cats don’t go there, but neighbours have seen other cats from the area and it’s getting to be a real problem! The half bury it in the gravel, you can’t see it and well, you can imagine it’s a pain and not fun having to go digging around in the stones to fish it out….the plan eventually is to pull up the stones weedkill properly, lay a membrane and put the stones back, topping them up at the same time as it needs more…..loads of people have gravel driveways, but do they all have this problem? Does anyone have a gravel driveway and have this issue or have any ideas/thoughts as to how we can stop it being used as a giant litter tray ideally we’d concrete/resin it, but we can afford that any time soon so it’s not an option sadly and we just have to work with what we’ve got and can afford! Any advice very much welcome!!!!

If you are prepared to clear the weeds and poop, you could look at something like this - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Vuba-EASIH...9397155487-B0FHQVHGSK-&hvexpln=0&gad_source=1

 

[Former_Antelopee]

If you had a leak and can prove you got it fixed you should be owed a rebate from the water company.

Oh we just fixed it ourselves if was just a valve that needed changing

 

[Strawberry13]

I need cleaning advice - how do I get stains out a mattress properly myself - I do have a shark stain action something in the kitchen but my child has obviously spilt something and it’s marked it yellow ? It’s defo not pee

 

[becca7721]

Sorry I’m not well so not explaining properly.

Would the DWP allow me to use the money for debts if the will doesn’t say that’s what it’s for? All it says is “reflection of love”, or would I be expected to live on the money?

Im not trying to not pay my debts, the opposite, trying to show willing and reduce them. Just really unwell, being bullied by my family, without any help and not good with words. Sorry.

 

[Ray1403]

How do people handle stress? I feel stressed with work, I feel stressed with my family (family drama ), I feel stressed with the state of the world! I am stressed!! I’ve never been stoned but I’m tempted to get stoned to chill out!

And I go see a therapist now and again but I don’t think talking will help!

i normally like a long hot bath but my 2.5 year old has recently decided he hates going to bed so i can’t actually remember the last time i had a bath

 

[boomska]

I really want wraps for my lunch next week but everytime I make wraps and try to roll them, the wraps get holes in them or never as tight as they should be. I’ve added less food in the middle to see if that helps - it doesn’t!
Anyone got any videos I could watch that makes it sink in on how to do a tortilla wrap?!

 

[Chocolategoggler]

I’m not a fan of feeding urban foxes. They can find their own food perfectly well and wild animals should not be made reliant on humans for their food. It also encourages rats.

There are a few areas where I work where there’s a huge problem of over-feeding - basically people fly-tipping unsuitable food saying ‘it’s for the birds and animals’. I’ve seen people dumping piles of cooked rice, whole loaves of bread, pasta, curry, mouldy pastry, left over meat and when you confront them, they honestly think they’re helping the wildlife. Mate, come down here at night and the only wildlife eating are hundreds of rats swarming the area.

I read about this regarding a park in a nearby area. The local paper did an article on how people leaving food/feeding the ducks/swans had left the ground littered with food and the pond too.
This has led to the park being overrun with rats especially near the pond.
Visitors to the park were now screaming for the Council to do something about the vermin......

 

[Kim Mild]

Has anyone ever bought or been given a gift experience from websites like Wonder days? Are they any good ?

 

[Former_Antelopee]

we’re due to remortgage next year after 5 years at 2.5% and i dread to think what it’s going to go up to

Mines 2.17% ATM got a 3 year one to start in April which is 5.1% I hope they come down a bit before then so I can get a bit lower

 

[Ray1403]

I'm not planing on making it a big deal with school but I'd i like opinions as it feels off,
My 5 year old swallowed a coin at school school (it happens no fault of school)
They rang me saying she was sick come pick her up (they didnt know at this point)
I turned up and they said she's just admitted to swallowing a coin.
We were quickly ushered off the site, I had to find my own way to the hospital. Which is fine I did, but surely she was under their care so surely yes have a parent attend but for their own back make sure the child attends a&e

you’re her parent so it’s your obligation to take her to A&E not theirs. they’ve done their bit by calling you. how would they have made sure she’d attended A&E?

 

[Dinky]

What about selling the inherited house and buying in your current area?

I have thought about this however the houses where we currently live are alot more than the value of the inherited house. We currently live in a rented flat and live month to month as it is. It would mean having a bit of a mortgage when we have the opportunity to live rent free.

My daughter has sailed through school, good grades, nice friends, she is a sociable wee thing. I know when you move into secondary you make new friends but she would be starting from scratch.

Its tough, move be mortgage free and alot more comfortable. Stay, try and find a home where we could hopefully have a small mortgage but still probably live month to month but then kids would be more settled. Its so difficult.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I'm not planing on making it a big deal with school but I'd i like opinions as it feels off,
My 5 year old swallowed a coin at school school (it happens no fault of school)
They rang me saying she was sick come pick her up (they didnt know at this point)
I turned up and they said she's just admitted to swallowing a coin.
We were quickly ushered off the site, I had to find my own way to the hospital. Which is fine I did, but surely she was under their care so surely yes have a parent attend but for their own back make sure the child attends a&e

I see this probably as you turning up relieved them of the duty to take her.
But a quick google also just showed me a school has no obligation to take a child to hospital.

 

[petitspois]

Anecdotally, as I know the official line is ‘none of them’, but has anyone had experience of a contraceptive pill that didn’t increase appetite or known to be less likely to? Thanks