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Rxt156

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Hi Guys,

Hopefully you don’t mind me posting here but i’m not sure where else to go for advice. I’m hoping I won’t ramble on too much but here i go.

I started a new job at the start of the year with a couple of other new starters. I got on really well with a guy here and we became friends quickly, at the time he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. A few months passed and i started hanging around with his friends and him and we really started to like each other. Only recently though have we started going on dates as we didn’t want to rush anything. These dates have all been great and we both still really like each other.

However, one of the other new starters at work has been acting strange recently. She and I were close friends until over the last few weeks when my opinion of her has really changed. She’s 50 and i’m in my early twenties. I pinpoint the change in her behaviour to when i told her me and the guy had been on a proper date. Before this she was very supportive of me and nice. I’m going to list her odd behaviours since this though:

1) she pointed out a scar on my arm and asked if i was going to get it covered, i said no and she replied with ‘ew, i definitely would’

2) constantly talking about a boob job she had when she was younger (she’s never mentioned in before now but recently hasn’t stopped)

3) pointed out a spot i had when in a conversation with me and the guy

4) i had an awful migraine that lingered for a few days, she copied every symptom but made a huge deal about it in front of the guy

5) started talking to him in a strange baby voice? whilst perched on his desk

6) stormed out of work nearly crying so he’d follow her (which he did)

7) constantly texting him about the football despite not knowing as much as she thinks she does and consistently calling lamine yamal jamal…

8) just constantly pointing out my flaws in front of him

She recently mentioned how she’s not been sleeping with her boyfriend as he’s not interested so i’m wondering if that’s why her behaviour is so strange but it seems like odd timing? I was one of few people in work who liked her until this and she’s still following me around constantly.

Me and the guy might go to make a coffee together or go shop at lunch just to spend some time together but she keeps following us and just not allowing us any alone time. He hasn’t noticed and doesn’t see her as anything but nice and if i point it out i’m just going to look jealous. I’m just not sure what i’m supposed to do? He’s not my boyfriend yet either so i feel like i have even less of a right to say something. She’s went from someone i really liked and trusted to making snide remarks so suddenly.

She spends a lotttttt of time in the pub with a bunch of guy friends and doesn’t seem to have any meaningful female friendships. I hate the term but she’s like a 50 year old pick me…

I’m just not sure what exactly i’m supposed to do? i’m not into confrontation but i fear that if she carries on i’ll blow up on her or it’ll affect my relationship with the guy.
Oh wow that is the best phrase I’ve ever heard ‘50 year old pick me’ that’s exactly what she is. She is jealous that you are young and someone likes you. She needs to know that her behaviour isn’t appropriate. You’re gonna have to be blunt and she isn’t going to like it, based on what you’ve said I can see her taking it badly and making out she’s the victim but tough titties old lady. Her behaviour is weird anyway but even worse considering the age difference between you all
 
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Former_Antelopee

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How does redundancy insurance work? Do you have to send proof you are looking for a new job whilst claiming on the insurance?
 
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Pixiecow

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I’ve realised that my driving licence has expired and as I forgot to change the address I haven’t had any reminders. Does anyone know exactly how much trouble I’m going to be in for this? Is it a renew and update my address now or a pay £1k and resit test situation? It’s been 6 months 🤦‍♀️
 
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Snippysnips

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hi,

so took my child to the dentist who was angry but caring i guess fella, annoyed that i didn't bring my child to a dentist earlier as he is 12 now. anyway he mentioned my child having a decay tooth and a baby tooth. he said my child will need an extraction, now because he was angry at the start i just wanted to leave as i have social anxiety so didn't ask which tooth he is extracting the decay or baby tooth. now that i'm researching about it it says extracting child tooth should be avoided unless necessary as it can cause speech problems etc. the appointment is on Monday what do i do.
I'd think if it was only the one then it would be fine, I had four out at that age for braces, they weren't my baby ones though but my speech was fine even with having two at each side out

My aunt had a bunch of baby teeth taking out as a teen because her adult ones just weren't moving an again was fine speech wise, so they might be removing it because his adult one just isn't wanting to move until its out, once the baby tooth is out the adult tooth should move down quite quickly an it will help align his teeth
 
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Snippysnips

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I’m not sure what they’re made of, fairly sure not steel, but they’re heavy and if you like I can take some pics of the ones I have? I think the price for licensed stuff is because of the license fee rather than them being special and better quality than the normal.
re finishing time, when you’re done distance wise, it’s over. If you’re miles behind you can extend it but it’s basically over when it’s over.
Thanks, I decided to go for it an signed up to the harry potter one, the only downside is my Fitbit isn't really matching on the app, I done 12k steps today, went onto the app an it said 9934 so come off it an went onto Fitbit thinking it was because maybe that hadn't updated, went back onto the app an it had went down to 3490 steps an wasn't updating to match, so I've disconnected it an will enter it manually at the end of the night with what my Fitbit says I've done, I've set myself for 35 days to complete my 70 miles thinking it should be more than enough time, but it's good I don't need to keep changing the time if I do more than than what I was aiming for

I'd love to see your pics 😊 they do look good but I was worried they would be like cheap plastic, so if they are heavy then at least they will be made of something better
 
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havee

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im back again with rent arrears. found out rent account is only on my moms name presumably intentionally done by my 'dad'. but he is the one that brings the income etc but doesn't pay the rent. letters come to my mum she cant read them, i read them we're being evicted, causing a lot of stress. this happened last year as well but my dad isnt accepting the rent as a requirement tat he has to paying. council isnt really understanding. what can i do, even if i go to advice bureau they need my dad and his income etc just so stressed and depressed
 
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Jadejones9596

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Hello all,

I am just looking for your opinions on this…

I am 34 and still in my childhood home with my mum. She’s a tad controlling sometimes but overall we get on so well, we watch all the same things and love each others company.

What are your opinions on people being at home in their 30s? I’ve been exploring moving out but in all honesty I don’t want to leave. My cat is here too and I couldn’t bear leaving her. Should I just suck it up and go though?
 
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piquant

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Can anyone recommend any good websites for wall art? I've just redone a bedroom and it's a bit plainer than I wanted so need some jazzy wall art to brighten it up. Not worried about cost, just want the right thing but there are so many websites I'm not sure where to start.....
I've see some quite good stuff on Fy ...haven't ordered anything yet but they have a wide selection of prints/ frames etc
 
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TheGlossy

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Speak to the bank, it may well be a simple admin error their end.
I did. It’s sorted. They said that if early payment is made, the direct debit doesn’t come out.
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On another note - does anyone have chronic issues with UPS claiming they attempted to deliver a package when they never did? I was at home today and can 100% attest no one ever came to the door at the time they claim they did. Every delivery with them is an absolute nightmare and calls to customer service does nothing.
 

Snippysnips

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I'm really frustrated and I'm hoping someone can help. Signed up for UC when my son was little as we needed it. Got a full time job 1 year ago and attended the meeting to prove I no longer needed UC. One month later they messaged saying I needed to complete a form so I did. Month after that they called and I contacted HMRC who agreed yes, no longer entitled, not to worry Coffee it's all sorted.
Every single month since they have called, texted and emailed to demand something from me. This month they said if I don't reply by X date they'll close my claim (which I have been asking them to do for a year). So I was like "fine I just won't reply". Well they're now calling, texting etc 2-3 times a day to "remind" me and I don't know what else to do. I just want to be left alone, I've done everything I was meant to!!!
Take a screenshot of you telling them you want it closed then block every way of communication like the phone number an email address, then if they send any letters to the house send the screenshot of you saying to them you want it closed an you will take them for harassment if they continue to send things out, because at this stage it really is harassment
 

Snippysnips

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I’ve got a brother inkjet printer that’s been really reliable. I really didn’t want tying to some stupid ink contract. I’m on my second set of inks in a couple of years but I don’t print that much generally. I went mad at first and printed out a whole years planner 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 (that I didn’t use).
Thanks I'll prob check it out, if I could just print out a ton of my cards I probably wouldn't need to use it again for a few months as well
 

littlepup

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How can I watch Tell Them You Love me in the UK without Sky?

I have Netflix and it is on Netflix in the USA, but in the UK it is only on sky documentaries.

I have a very basic package from virgin media and do not want to commit to a long contract to access sky
NOW TV has it. £9.99 a month cancel any time.
 

Thank(space)you

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Long story short a couple of weeks ago I had an argument with someone and kicked them out of my house. They left their ear stretchers here.
How long do I keep them before I throw them? They've not messaged re collecting them and I don't have their address to drop them off or post.
I don't really want to message them to arrange collection either
 

CoffeeMamma

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I guess he'll have to ring them and sort an appointment then- the thing is they haven't called or text him once only me
 

Bobbleowl90

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I’m covering a managerial role at work for somebody on long term sick. One member of staff (admin staff, part time - job role is very easy , no big responsibilities) is making things v difficult for me. Saying the jobs too difficult, moaning, ringing me all the time. I’ve offered solutions, I cover when she’s not in and it’s not difficult in the slightest. She has now said she will leave if the person I’m covering leaves as she won’t work for anybody else.

How do I deal with someone like this? Taking it to my ops manager on Monday but it’s draining me now.
 

Snippysnips

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I believe the Vauxhall Adam is also discontinued. Not really sure what that means in terms of availability or how it would affect you if you bought one but it’s worth keeping in mind!
Ah thanks, I didn't know that, I guess it would depend on when it was discontinued, my last was discontinued in 2003 so if it needed parts it was insanely hard, I suppose if it was only a few years ago with the Adam then it might not be so bad
 

Snippysnips

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Looking for advice on any good websites to look at to get an idea on general outfits, I typically shop at places like new look, Matalan, river island, Primark etc but whenever I look I feel lost on what to go for to make a nice outfit, I know sometimes sites pair stuff on the models but a lot of the time the new stuff is on its own

Really am just wanting to browse on sites that have the latest trends so I can see to get ideas if that makes sense
 

AshMay

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Thanks everyone, I will suggest doing something else but I'm struggling to think of something else - we did bottomless brunch last year and afternoon tea the year before. I thought somewhere we could drink and play games might be fun but someone I know got into a massive fight at one of them recently which definitely puts me off going there. My son suggested some bar that's full of table tennis tables however this unlocked a childhood memory of how I hate table tennis 😂😂
I need to think of something else - oh also it has to be daytime.
This is why I never do anything for my birthday as I can't make a decision.
For game activities - Boombattlebar, Fairgame, Flight Club, roller skating (Flippers, Roller Nation), mini/crazy golf (Puttshack, Junkyard), NQ64, VR game places are popping up these days too

Or for something more low key, there are board game cafes or bars with board/arcade games dotted around, or something crafty like pottery painting, paint n sip, candle making etc. Or even karaoke, lots of places you can book a private room for friends.

Hope you find something and have a fab day celebrating!
 
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chickhicks86

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Are you a uni student or college / 6th form? Presuming uni if you're counted as non-dependant? I don't understand what you're saying about their rent being paid depending on their excess income - does he mean that the UC is reduced the more they earn (which is right) or that not all of the rent is covered by UC because you're a non-dependant living at home? I'm really struggling to work out what you're asking!
There are Facebook groups and Reddit subs that have some really knowledgeable people on for matters like this.