Rxt156
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Oh wow that is the best phrase I’ve ever heard ‘50 year old pick me’ that’s exactly what she is. She is jealous that you are young and someone likes you. She needs to know that her behaviour isn’t appropriate. You’re gonna have to be blunt and she isn’t going to like it, based on what you’ve said I can see her taking it badly and making out she’s the victim but tough titties old lady. Her behaviour is weird anyway but even worse considering the age difference between you allHi Guys,
Hopefully you don’t mind me posting here but i’m not sure where else to go for advice. I’m hoping I won’t ramble on too much but here i go.
I started a new job at the start of the year with a couple of other new starters. I got on really well with a guy here and we became friends quickly, at the time he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. A few months passed and i started hanging around with his friends and him and we really started to like each other. Only recently though have we started going on dates as we didn’t want to rush anything. These dates have all been great and we both still really like each other.
However, one of the other new starters at work has been acting strange recently. She and I were close friends until over the last few weeks when my opinion of her has really changed. She’s 50 and i’m in my early twenties. I pinpoint the change in her behaviour to when i told her me and the guy had been on a proper date. Before this she was very supportive of me and nice. I’m going to list her odd behaviours since this though:
1) she pointed out a scar on my arm and asked if i was going to get it covered, i said no and she replied with ‘ew, i definitely would’
2) constantly talking about a boob job she had when she was younger (she’s never mentioned in before now but recently hasn’t stopped)
3) pointed out a spot i had when in a conversation with me and the guy
4) i had an awful migraine that lingered for a few days, she copied every symptom but made a huge deal about it in front of the guy
5) started talking to him in a strange baby voice? whilst perched on his desk
6) stormed out of work nearly crying so he’d follow her (which he did)
7) constantly texting him about the football despite not knowing as much as she thinks she does and consistently calling lamine yamal jamal…
8) just constantly pointing out my flaws in front of him
She recently mentioned how she’s not been sleeping with her boyfriend as he’s not interested so i’m wondering if that’s why her behaviour is so strange but it seems like odd timing? I was one of few people in work who liked her until this and she’s still following me around constantly.
Me and the guy might go to make a coffee together or go shop at lunch just to spend some time together but she keeps following us and just not allowing us any alone time. He hasn’t noticed and doesn’t see her as anything but nice and if i point it out i’m just going to look jealous. I’m just not sure what i’m supposed to do? He’s not my boyfriend yet either so i feel like i have even less of a right to say something. She’s went from someone i really liked and trusted to making snide remarks so suddenly.
She spends a lotttttt of time in the pub with a bunch of guy friends and doesn’t seem to have any meaningful female friendships. I hate the term but she’s like a 50 year old pick me…
I’m just not sure what exactly i’m supposed to do? i’m not into confrontation but i fear that if she carries on i’ll blow up on her or it’ll affect my relationship with the guy.