The advice thread for random problems #5

[Kim Mild]

I have a mini pill question maybe you can help with.

I’m almost a month in taking cerazette mini pill. Not for contraception (I’m sterilised) for heavy periods.

Now the problem is, I’m feeling very low on it. Moods are shit. Headache is awful.

I want to stop taking it, I’d rather heavy periods than feeling like this. Feel anxious too constantly.

How soon and how long will I bleed for once I stop? Anyone taken it briefly and stopped?

Don’t know whether to just stop, have a withdrawal bleed and wait for my period

I recently took the minipill but stopped, mid pack before my 3 month trial was up . I stopped due to bleeding and being moody. I stopped bleeding about 2 or 3 days after stopping taking it , then it was nearly 4 weeks before my period returned.

 

[becca7721]

I know, sorry, this wasn't directed at you but at the hiring people at your company

It’s ok, I’m sorry too. I didn’t mean to put it so bluntly!

 

[Snippysnips]

Was on the train today for 5 hours, it's 2 hours later an I feel like am still sitting on it moving even though am sitting still, is this motion sickness? or something else? an what's the best thing to use to rid the feeling? It's still a few hours till a suitable bedtime

 

[littlepup]

Soooo I brought it up this evening.... he has now packed his bags and left. I truly believe right now it was more of a case of gut instinct being right and him no longer being invested 🥲 I just can't see how me approaching my feelings has ended it all. Happy saturdayyyyyy

I’m so sorry. I actually typed out then deleted how I I’m ok with my fiancée doing this because it’s harmless but with my ex it fed into my fears and it’s about what I knew deep down.

Is he playing this as like “can’t be with someone who questions him” or has he said he’s actually looking for a way out? If the former, don’t let him gaslight you, it shouldn’t be enough in a stable relationship to cause him to leave. You should be allowed to be open about your feelings to at least discuss them.
Lots of love to you x

 

[Jas28]

Does anyone compare themselves to others? And if you had a friend who said they’re not comparing themselves to others anymore would you assume they think they’re better than others and self righteous. I have a friend who does this constantly and such a negative way of thinking. I’ve told her I don’t want to engage in those types of conversations anymore where put self down and now she thinks I think I’m better than her?! I’m just trying to be kinder to myself so I make better choices

 

[Mamacita]

Yeah, thank fuck we don't have kids either. I guess it's more normal than I thought not to be interested

I think it often happens, especially to women, in long term relationships. Honestly not really sure how to help it tbh, my hormones are all in appropriate range so not sure what it could be

 

[tomato_paste]

I'm sure the artist will go through it all with me, but please can someone talk me through the perfect tattoo aftercare routine please? Getting my first one on Monday and it'll be easier if I can buy anything I need over the weekend. Thank you!

I bought something called "Second Skin" (there's other knockoff brands which are great as well), which is a wound plaster specifically made for tattoos. I bought mine off Amazon. Ask your tattoo artist about if you're unsure about it but I personally would never go back to regular tattoo aftercare with the painful scabs and the blood plasma everywhere and the Sudocrem etc.

For one of my tattoos the artist applied it directly after and I left it for about a week; the other wasn't happy about Second Skin (he's old school) so I applied it myself at home by cleaning off the Vaseline thoroughly with soap while not scrubbing (!) the skin and then putting on the wound plaster.

It's gonna look a bit gross because the wound fluid will collect under the bandage, but it's actually really good for the wound to have that plasma there as it promotes healing. And it means your tattoo will not form scabs that might peel off and take the colour with it. All my tattoos I did with second skin are super crisp and healed beautifully.

The tattoo might be a bit warm to the touch, but shouldn't be hot - a bit of warmth is normal from the healing, but hot indicates infection and might need antibiotics like any regular wound.

Edit: forgot the best part - you can shower immediately, and without the faff about drying off and accidentally ripping off the scab as well!

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

Can you attend the Police station where you reported this in person and ask for reasons why that it has been dropped? It sounds horrific for you.

 

[Doodlebug005]

That is definitely good to prove ownership, but I assume you've paid for everything as well? Food, vet, playthings, etc and can prove that? If so, nobody will put your legal ownership in doubt. I would ignore her comments, but do prepare a folder with copies of receipts and a print out of the microchip data in case she ever calls the coppers.

See also here where someone had the same question:

https://www.justanswer.co.uk/law/o3gba-i-ve-question-ownership-cat-given.html

I agree totally with you - who is paying for keeping the cat alive…. she is not contributing- she rehomed cat- looks straightforward-
re the messages @didisaythatoutloudoops if it is on whatsapp just archive her chat - she can message all she likes but you don’t have to look at it unless you choose- I am putting a bit of space between myself and someone and her message could be sitting there for a week before I think to look you don’t need to answer to her - and if she moans about no reply I would reply with something vague - maybe - distracted& busy with family stuff - all fine with cat

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Question about best before dates.

A friend with her husband has opened a new shop. I went to buy some things and all had expired “before before”. I mentioned it after he asked me why I was looking at dates and didn’t I trust them, and he went for me calling me stupid and it’s totally ok to sell as it’s not “use by”. BUT the food doesn’t have a “use by”, then he had a go at me about lying about my age - he’s determined I’m almost two decades younger than I am (yep I took it as a compliment, which actually made him worse) so yep he’s a git

I know best before doesn’t necessarily mean anything, but how does someone (business/customer) know if it’s ok to sell if there’s no use by? I’m worried for my friend (for more than one reason now having met her husband!).

She’s illegally giving out free carrier bags because he says it’s fine (in wales it’s not and is very strict, they’ve moved here from England where the rules are more relaxed).

I don’t want her business to fail or her to get into trouble.

Make your friend aware of your concerns. Her husband is going to get them in trouble with this.

Personally I would let the local council know what is going on. They won't just shut the shop down but give them advice and time to improve

Also if her husband acts like that in general it's a concern and I would probably avoid them both. He can end up causing you a lot of trouble

 

[becca7721]

The poem title is “desiderata” I don’t know why it got cut! Sorry.

 

[Bloody orange Hell]

I do it and it suits me. I do far better getting up early. If I get up at 7am I feel uncomfortable and out of sorts.

I think for it to be successful it needs to be your natural circadian rhythm - I’ve always been an early bird. However I also have menopause induced insomnia so it isn’t always easy and I am always tired. I’m always tired if I get up later though.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

What is the easiest way to book hotel rooms for a work trip? There's 10x of us so will need 10x individual rooms but booking dot com thinks a 5 bedroom apartment will suffice as it assumes couples...
I'm looking at airbnb as well which is easier but my boss wants some hotels thrown in the mix too - the problem is, we've left it pretty close to the event so the cheaper hotels have been snapped up and the rest are around £9k for everyone we want .

What about two apartments? I would even contact the apartment building and see if they’d do a deal for renting two

 

[littlepup]

It’s been happening since March of this year, I do have gallstones & did ask if they may be contributing well my gallbladder as it’s enlarged but was told no by my GP, it’s the pain more than anything sometimes the stabbing/sharp pain in my pelvis takes my breath away long with the feeling my lower back feels bruised (it’s not) then my periods I only finished my last period on the 13th of this month & started it again today, just feels never ending, I’m 44 so feel like nobody is listening to me. I’ve had swabs for STI’s came back negative & then that’s where the conversation ended, nothing else no suggestions just it’s normal for my age to have this many periods & pain too. Peri menopause wasn’t even suggested just that I’m too young for menopause.

Sorry it should have been page 12 of the last document. It looks like they should be offering a hysterscopy or ultrasound. I know referrals for anything are taking forever though. I know you can get private gynae ultrasounds and investigations around here for under £200.
Window to the womb, while commercial and a bit shit is cheap and does this, they have clinics all over the place.

Do you have any other red flags, IBS symptoms, weight loss, night sweats? Is the bleeding the same as period bleeding in the sense of womb lining shedding kind of stuff?

I’d be inclined to go back and strongly push for further investigation, private scan or not. Don’t just take no for an answer, if they’re not offering blood tests and pill review, ask for it. Mention peri-menopause, they can test if you’re still ovulating with a simple blood test.Could you consider stopping the pill for a while to see if it’s linked? Ask them if it’s worthwhile. Ask them to explain why they don’t think it merits further investigation.

GPs are just that, general. There are huge gaps in knowledge and if they’re lazy they’re not inclined to fill them. Don’t self diagnose but present all of the information and ask the questions. Really advocate for yourself and write it all down before you go in so you don’t get derailed or fobbed off. You shouldn’t just accept pain, even if it can’t be cured it should be explained.

 

[havee]

hi guys so I don't know whats wrong with me, i leave everything to last minute when i know wont be able to do it on time,or even do it and im aware of the stress ill go through but i still do it. for example i have an exam tomorrow worth 60% i don't know anything for it, i haven't attended lectures or anything. this is also with minor things like cleaning my rooms etc. as i tell myself i can do it later so i dont start next thing i know its too late. i want advice on how to improve myself and stop leaving things to last minute where i cant even do them e.g not handing in coursework.

 

[Tommyb]

My period isn’t as heavy as it would be if not on the pill (would leak through a super plus tampon in 90 mins on heaviest days) but it’s not breakthrough bleeding would expect when on the mini pill, I’ve always had period pains but they are just getting worse, I’m am actually considering coming off the pill to see if that will help, I’m hoping the appointment next month I might get somewhere, thank you

I have been on contraception for 10 years. Works perfectly. For the past 6 months every 2 months or so I was spotting. Because it was longer than 2 cycles I went to gp who did a blood test etc all normal. They were then going to do swabs and go from there.

Luckily my health insurance has just kicked olin. Within a week I had an appointment and went to a gyno. Had an internal scan, everything fine and just my body getting too used the the contraception so need to switch or take a break. I do have a cyst but she showed me it's normal. Plus wouldn't cause any spotting.

You need an internal ultrasound. Make sure it's internal. You need to push. Likelihood is it's nothing but pain and bleeding should not be ignored.

 

[avabella]

This conversation took place via message.
He owns the garage so nobody to report him to

And do you have history with this guy? Like do you know him? Or has this all transpired since you took your car in for a service? If the latter I'd be screenshotting those messages all over Facebook tagging his business. I'm freaked out that you're not a bit more... freaked out by this

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

No paint unfortunately, will pocket that tip though thanks.

Nail varnish remover didn't work, going to get some white spirit. Bit afraid to razor as they're a crepe kind of material, but that will be my last ditch attempt. So annoyed as they're fairly new. Thanks to all .

You could try freezing them, it might make the gloss brittle enough to peel/scratch off.

 

[Captainmouse]

So recently a cat has taken to shitting next to our bins. Not sure why, or who it belongs to but I have a toddler so I clean up enough without dealing with this and it’s obviously not safe for him to be near/come into contact with. Any tips for dealing with this?

Used teabags soaked with olbas oil

 

[TheGlossy]

1. Don't think anyone can tell you that, if you want to meet them and continue having a relationship with them then meet them, if not then no.

2. either they said that without meaning it like people often do, you know like saying yeah would be good to catch up cause it's a thing to say, then no one follows up but social obligation of saying that was met. Or they're genuinely just busy and will come back to you eventually

Thanks.

Regarding 2., they reached out randomly. I’d never reached out to them first. A bit strange to send an unsolicited email mentioning a catch-up without following up. Maybe they’ll eventually respond.