This is a fairly new thing. So I imagine a lot of older vehicles won’t have a long historyNo, I'm only looking at old cheaper cars. Im poor
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But why though? Most older cars have a lovely long list to peruse to see if a particular fault is recurring.
Could the car have been declared SORN and kept off the road for a period of time so it wouldn't have had an MOT in that time? Or could it have previously had a private plate on, which has now been taken off so the MOT history would show on the private plate rather than the current one?
Ahh yes thank you, private plate makes sense. Shame that it buggers up. I would never buy a car where I could not see the MOT history
That would be my personal dream life but you have to be aware that the whole (partial) self sufficiency thing is work all year round, all the time. If you ever want to go away on a holiday you'll need someone watching your animals and plants (at least in the growing season). I'd recommend John Seymour's "The complete Book of Self Sufficiency" for a lot of insight into what's expected. That link for archive.org has the really old edition, there's a newer one you can buy, but the contents are the same. He had his Farm in NI as well so a lot of stuff will work 1:1 for you.
Leaving everything you've ever know is sure to be hard as well, but I'd drill into it. What exactly are you going to miss? Is it friends? Them popping 'round for a cuppa with ease? Is it having an afternoon in town? Is it being able to pop into Tescos for bits any time? Is it your family? When you know what exactly you're going to miss, you can find strategies to compensate for it - or find that that's impossible. What about the kids needs? Are they going to be harder to take care of, or will it be easier? Will the kids have an ok time getting around to their hobbies / friends? Get to school? Etc.
Also don't forget the benefits - your relationship with your husband will surely benefit, as will those with your children if you both have more time at hand. You also might find a different kind of community, especially if there's some sufficiency farmers around that you could get in touch with. I have an acquaintance who's a self sufficient farmer with her partner - she used to be in Media, a literal corporate stereotype, but met him and moved to the countryside. Her life is completely changed for the better, and their farming community has brought her some amazing friendships.
It could be the garage they use hadn't converted to the online system yet. I thought it was made mandatory years ago but coincidentally I saw an article today that mentioned from this year paper MOT certificates will be scrapped. As I say, I thought they already had been but apparently not.
ETA the private plate is a good shout. I've just tested it using the only private reg I know off the top of my head and irritatingly it's less than 3 years old so hasn't had it's first MOT yet.
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Assuming you'd be arranging a test drive, the owner should be able to show you previous Mot records. Even with the online system you still get a print out of mileage/ advisories etc.
Alternatively, if you're able to obtain the VIN you may be able to find the MOT history using that.
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I would!! To me it sounds like paradise! But I understand your doubts, pity we can't dm on here, I'd be so interested in a plot !
Ex police car? They don't have mot history, because we had one and it didn’t have mot history til it had the mot when we bought it.
Or the car was overseas and has been imported.
What kind of car is it?
No, although that might be a reason for some, not the ones I'm looking at. Old VW I'm going with the private plate.
The things I’d warn against is things like healthcare and, the impact of rural living on kids. I live (very) rurally in Wales. Healthcare tends to be very limited and services rurally are first to go, there’s a tendancy to forget locals and only have services Easter to October, like where I am, includes some shops. We have a really bad drug and alcohol problems where I am. There’s nothing for kids to do outside of church activities (not for everyone); nor are there many churches left anymore as no funding. Jobseeking is 3 hour radius due to lack of jobs and getting to/from school can be hellish even if there is transport provided (which is unlikely) in my county we had five secondary schools, all with sixth form twenty years ago, we now have three, two in ‘centre of population’ (15,000 people), the other over two hours away and one sixth form with no transport possible (its a requirement to continue post 16 now). Council are aiming for only one secondary school.
Lot of thinking to do - I love living where I do BUT it’s being ravaged by the economy and second home owners who come out of season expecting things to be open that aren’t. We are losing our last bank in the county. Last year there were more than a dozen. Internet/mobile access can be poor as well.
ETA whilst not very nice it is a fact that second home owners have ruined communities where I live. Services are based on use and when you have a village that over 80% is unused most of the year, and then only high season for a few weeks they lose all their facilities. Example, village had a cottage hospital, spar shop, museum, two banks, butchers, buses every two hours and pubs ten years ago now has none of those things.
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Much to think about.
Sell house for 200k, land and new build for 150k seems very conservative to me. Has he looked into equipment, hired labour, weather, length of time to order materials? Where would you all live whilst building is happening, what if there are delays? 50k left over will be sucked up pretty quick if one or two things go askew.
Is husband sure he’d get a steady stream of work in new area, are there already established construction companies everyone is using? Will you have to buy new cars? Where will kids go to school? What if kids don’t settle in and you have nowhere to live/live in a half built house?
I’m not necessarily trying to put you off but seems like a fantasy of his, has he thought about the details?
Kids plural so I'm assuming at least 3 beds.
I think £150k for land and build is possibly unrealistic.
I'm building a house in the middle of a village.
The cost to disconnect the electric on the existing property is £2720 ex vat, just come out and remove the cable off the end of the property,
To reconnect we either have to wait until the new build is up and pay £3k or if we want a supply while we build it has to go underground at a cost of £21k all ex vat. It's approx 15 meters. They wont do a temp builders supply anymore. It's absolute madness.
I would also look at the buildings safety act, I don't know if it applies in NI, it only came in 2022. It's making it extremally hard for self builders.
Architect fees, planning fees, biodiverstity etc has been approx £15k just to get to the go ahead stage. Bat surveys were approx £2k! We still have to have building regs drawings at around £2.5k. We're nearing £1k in skip hire just clearing the land.
And we're not green, we've done this before, my partner is in the trades. The costs have just sky rocketed and the current legislations creating jobs for the boys are costing us thousands.
The cost to disconnect the electric on the existing property is £2720 ex vat, just come out and remove the cable off the end of the property,
To reconnect we either have to wait until the new build is up and pay £3k or if we want a supply while we build it has to go underground at a cost of £21k all ex vat. It's approx 15 meters. They wont do a temp builders supply anymore. It's absolute madness.
I would also look at the buildings safety act, I don't know if it applies in NI, it only came in 2022. It's making it extremally hard for self builders.
Architect fees, planning fees, biodiverstity etc has been approx £15k just to get to the go ahead stage. Bat surveys were approx £2k! We still have to have building regs drawings at around £2.5k. We're nearing £1k in skip hire just clearing the land.
And we're not green, we've done this before, my partner is in the trades. The costs have just sky rocketed and the current legislations creating jobs for the boys are costing us thousands.
I think rural living is hardest on the kids and as much as you gain, you lose. It depends what sort of children they are, how sociable, adaptable, how much they enjoy being outdoors etc. Winters in a static caravan (if you're considering that) are so harsh, particularly if it freezes but summers are glorious. It's all a reward/sacrifice juggle but I think it depends on the age of the children if it can be made an adventure or if they just feel isolated.
I agree, I think this is definitely important if OP is looking into moving, I mentioned before my aunt stayed away up in the country, out her 4 kids only one has remained, the other 3 left as soon as they could, although they lived their whole life living in the country, staying with us an other cousins showed them what it's like outside of that an they used to get a bit jealous at how easy it was for all of us to be able to go into town with friends or go bowling, to the cinema, go round to each others houses etc
It's really hard to grasp how country living is because even if you go on holiday you are still viewing it as a vacation especially if you are going out to the country in spring/summer which can be nice as you can get out and about, honestly the best way to get a feeling into what it's like is going in winter if you can, see how it feels, it will give you a idea on how the winters can be, the weather, if things are open, how easy or hard getting about will be, how the kids will feel if there's nothing open an will mostly be at home
Hello all! Update for you on my previous post - in short, daughter resigned from her job (amicably) and her boss has decided make her life a living hell for her 5 weeks of notice.
He's continuing to belittle, humiliate her, tell her to do one thing on the phone and claiming a totally different thing once she's done it - in front of colleagues. Banning her from meetings and shouting at her for not knowing what was said in them, etc. Worst of all for her, only one colleague has reached out to her to ask if she's ok. She hasn't asked them for anything, but she's really quite hurt that not a single one will even ask privately if she's doing alright - they're watching the boss act like this and burying their heads in the sand. She's hurt because they were a small office and all very close, and she's certainly helped them through tough times.
The doctor has put her on anti-anxiety medication and is willing to sign her off on sick leave until the end of her notice, which is now about 3 weeks. She knows going on it would absolutely burn any bridges, and leave her colleagues in a mess, which is why she's reluctant. But I'm really worried about her mental health - I've never seen her like this. She's in tears all day long, even at the weekend. This just isn't her. She's trying to keep a brave face up but I can see her crumbling each day.
Any advice? I want her to just take the sick leave and tell them to F off, but I'd appreciate any input.
He's continuing to belittle, humiliate her, tell her to do one thing on the phone and claiming a totally different thing once she's done it - in front of colleagues. Banning her from meetings and shouting at her for not knowing what was said in them, etc. Worst of all for her, only one colleague has reached out to her to ask if she's ok. She hasn't asked them for anything, but she's really quite hurt that not a single one will even ask privately if she's doing alright - they're watching the boss act like this and burying their heads in the sand. She's hurt because they were a small office and all very close, and she's certainly helped them through tough times.
The doctor has put her on anti-anxiety medication and is willing to sign her off on sick leave until the end of her notice, which is now about 3 weeks. She knows going on it would absolutely burn any bridges, and leave her colleagues in a mess, which is why she's reluctant. But I'm really worried about her mental health - I've never seen her like this. She's in tears all day long, even at the weekend. This just isn't her. She's trying to keep a brave face up but I can see her crumbling each day.
Any advice? I want her to just take the sick leave and tell them to F off, but I'd appreciate any input.
My advice is 100% for her to take the sick leave. Reassure her that it's extremely admirable that she doesn't want to leave people in the tit but her health is the priority. She can then have the three weeks to recover and be in the best place possible ready to start the new job.
You've probably said all that already so it's not advice really, more reassurance that you're doing the best you can to support her.
Sick leave definitely. There is nothing to be gained from going in the remaining few week
The bridges have already been burned. She will never turn to this boss again for a reference or future job. She will never go to these colleagues for catch ups or advice now that she’s seen their true colours. They’ve done the bridge burning, she doesn’t need to stand in the fire for the next 3 weeks.
Sick leave, lots of good sleep, deep clean her space, new bedding, clothes shopping for new job, lots of fresh air and coffees, good headspace and renewed confidence for the new role.
I'd take the sick leave an never look back, her colleagues have shown true colours an I wouldn't want anything to do with them after how they have acted by not making sure she is ok
Take the 3 weeks as a rest, do hobbies, go for a walk, for swimming, go for little days out, go to the cinema, a meal out etc just anything that will let her rest an get back on her feet
Agree with the others. She owes them nothing, let alone her health. The guy is a bully and a grade A mole. If she can’t advocate for herself, do it for her. He can’t be allowed to take any more from her than he already has done.
How much would you be looking to pay to get a fridge an freezer fixed? I don't know if the springs are away on the doors or if it's the seal around it, I can close it over but it's not staying tightly shut an can easily be pulled open again with barely any effort
The fridge an freezer are both built into the kitchen units as well so not something I can outright replace like a standalone am there's 0 room for a standalone
Can it be a joiner or does it need to be someone more specialised since it's a fridge an freezer
The fridge an freezer are both built into the kitchen units as well so not something I can outright replace like a standalone am there's 0 room for a standalone
Can it be a joiner or does it need to be someone more specialised since it's a fridge an freezer
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