The advice thread for random problems #2

[queenbees]

Was out today and hit a little bollard in the car. No damage done thankfully. But received a call this evening to say that I also hit a car. I did stop and take a look around me after I’d hit the bollard and didn’t see any damage done to the car next to it. But they’re claiming it’s on cctv footage and I’ve damaged their back bumper which is a bit strange seeing as I was literally parked next to their car and drove out of the space. Their car was facing the same way. No damage done to my car but this particular person is claiming that my paint is on their car but there’s not even as much as a scrape on mine?? Asked for photos and they won’t send! What do I do

 

[xbxbx]

Not a problem but a general query:

I’ve been gifted an Amazon voucher and I have no idea what to buy! I don’t use Amazon often and when I do it’s mostly for little things I can’t find in stores (hair oil, spices etc).

The voucher is for £20 and I want to make the most of it. Anyone a frequent Amazon user and can give me ideas of some things I can buy?

I’ve been trying to learn how to do gel nails at home so my first thought was buying some nail art brushes or gel polish but I’m open to other suggestions.

Also I realise this is very vague and there’s a million things to buy on Amazon but my mind is blank

 

[Snowjoke]

Does anyone know if you contact your GP can they print out information from your file such as letters from consultants and also a list of your prescriptions?

 

[Slaybutter]

Seems about right ordering from there Would still give it a go though

Hahaha never again for me

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not a problem but a general query:

I’ve been gifted an Amazon voucher and I have no idea what to buy! I don’t use Amazon often and when I do it’s mostly for little things I can’t find in stores (hair oil, spices etc).

The voucher is for £20 and I want to make the most of it. Anyone a frequent Amazon user and can give me ideas of some things I can buy?

I’ve been trying to learn how to do gel nails at home so my first thought was buying some nail art brushes or gel polish but I’m open to other suggestions.

Also I realise this is very vague and there’s a million things to buy on Amazon but my mind is blank

If you enjoy watching tv then get an amazon firestick. Curently £26.99 but wait for January sales to see if it goes down in price.
Really good for streaming on your tv and ot has all the apps on there so it’s one thing for all your services and you can take it on holiday

Otherwise I normally get really random bits. The last three things I bought was doorstops, garden hard bristle broom and pro-kolin for the dog

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Any cheap travel suggestions? I have a mate needing to go North East- Liverpool Eurovision weekend and it’s looking at over £100 on trains. She doesn’t drive.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

This one is a random one but I’ve tried everything my friends have suggested:
My hair is SO greasy. I assumed build up so used a remover and it left me with the most dry, itchy scalp but still super greasy hair! I’ve also tried enough shampoos to open my own review links. My scalp remains dry and itchy but my hair a greasy mess. Send help!

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

Would anyone have any ideas on how I could get a stain out of a suede trainer?

Do you know what the stain is?

 

[chickhicks86]

I appreciate this thread is probably for more heavy/life advice, but I have a ridiculous question right now.

I froze some puff pastry when I bought it, but took it out weeks ago to defrost in the fridge and completely forgot about it. I have just found it now right at the back of the top shelf in the fridge. It's a new unopened pack, use by date is 6th Nov. I can still use it right?

Or has freezing and then allowing it to thaw for so long caused some sort of hideous bacteria to be able to thrive?

Nah, bin if it's been in there for weeks after defrosting.

 

[EasterEggs]

A random and slightly icky one for you all (sorry).

Most mornings for the last month or so I have been retching like I’m going to be sick - not usually bringing anything up just saliva or a small small amount of bile. But on Sunday morning and today I was properly sick with horrible bile and it was awful.

I think it is stress/tiredness but I’m just not sure if this is something to see the Dr about?

I haven’t had sex in 3 years so I’m deffo not pregnant lol!

 

[Milktray]

I’m really sorry to hear you were made to feel that way and I can understand why, just my personal reaction would have been anger.
I’d be like, “honestly what do you want me to do, because you’re not sleeping I’ll try smothering them? Not as though the baby’s distress is my absolute priority not to mention my own and partner’s lack of sleep. Now I’ve got to think of the neighbours”

Even if the family are trying to let the baby cry it out it’s their prerogative within their own home.
OP needs to get some ear plugs and maybe think about checking on the neighbours who could be really struggling. Perhaps reassure them that they are understanding. Unless the neighbours are awful, neglectful parents who aren’t attending to their baby I can guarantee there’s nothing they’d love more than the baby not to cry, especially at night.

Indeed...I agree with you 100%. Its normal noise and I would much rather live with a crying baby than some of the noise I've had to put up with!

In fact, my problem is neighbour related because I found out my neighbour is a spy ...well I'm over exaggerating but is a digital forensic (and I only found out because I was snooping!) so my paranoia and anxiety is now all over the place. Even writing this, makes me feel like I've got Big Brother watching. What if the neighbours know I've been snooping?! I'm a Tattler, so it wasnt just a quick nose on Facebook. I'm literally making myself ill over it.

I'll swap for the screaming baby!

 

[CoffeeMamma]

The reason I ask is because sometimes taking a different trainline/coach from the next city can be a lot less expensive. My local train to London is about £15 but if I go a town over I can get tickets from £3!

But it looks like a quick google shows that tickets are about £30 one way

Newcastle - Liverpool on the day she needs to go is minimum £80 it’s her fault for leaving it last minute and the fact it’s Eurovision!

 

[shadowcat5]

Not sure if this is the right place to post but I came off my pill almost 2 months ago. Had my first period last week - all seemed fine just the usual. I was on the pill in the first place because they were so bad i'd be sick.

I don't know what to do about the pill now though. I was very lucky in that I never had any side effects and it stopped my period completely. I am worried about the long term of being on the pill and all the horror stories but not having a period was really great as the mental side effects really take their toll and I get really bad fatigue.
I just don't know what to do for the best. There's a bit of me that thinks just take the easier route now and deal with the outcomes if they come later down the line but there's a part of me that is concerned.

I'm all confused

 

[TheGlossy]

if you have no genuine interest then it really isn’t worth it - the apps are hard going. they will sap your self esteem and can be seriously exhausting. you have to be in the right frame of mind for them. you mention a number of times in your post that you have zero interest in dating right now, you’re not interested in meeting someone through an app, you’ve done it before and it wasn’t great…. what is making you want to give it a try now?

all i can reiterate is that they’re tricky and you have to be prepared to invest time into them for sometimes not much reward. if you’re not in the right space to want to meet someone right now then that’s cool, but it means the apps probably aren’t the right thing for you.

I agree. Dating apps are an investment. You have to sit down and swipe then engage in a conversation which may or may not lead to anything. It’s taxing and I’m not sure I have the energy for that. It’s all about mind frame.

My self-esteem is quite good so a dating app won’t change that but I hear your point.

I don’t think apps are right for me. I want to meet someone the old fashioned way but it hasn’t happened and I don’t have a lot of options as to where to meet someone. I think your post raises good points. Online dating requires investment.

 

[no-no]

Does scaffolding usually make a lot of noise once up? My neighbours have some up and it’s clanging away, it’s not even that windy.

 

[Snowjoke]

My Washing machine is leaking… any ideas on what it could be? It seems to be washing ok but the spin cycle is really loud

 

[Frenchie]

How long have they been together? Did the friendships break down since she’s been with him? Cutting off their partners from their support networks is a classic abusive behaviour unfortunately

Ummmmm year roughly possibly bit more, yes it caused problems at her work as his ex worked there
She took him in and said you can stay if you work etc etc, he never has, she’s now lost it all

 

[LisaVita]

Can anyone recommend any protein chocolate bars? Like actual chocolate not a flapjack, brownie etc.

 

[lozzapaloozza]

I just got a missed call from a number and they left a voicemail claiming they’re from my bank and they want me to call them back? Is this a scam? It wasn’t my branch’s number but just a random number

 

[Rxt156]

Got a night out planned this weekend. Not sure how to wear a blazer without it feeling like I’m going to work ?!!! Seen a few on boo hoo but how to make sure it looks more casual than formal? Ty everyone