The advice thread for random problems #2

[disillusionedbythegram]

Can anyone offer advice on smoking/vaping?
Husband and I were both smokers for over ten years. Five years ago we both went onto vapes, and then quit. Neither of us have had any nicotine products since our first child was born (that’s what made us both knock it on the head for good).
In the last six months however, my husband has secretly taken up vaping again. First time I found his vape completely innocently (was hanging up a coat and it fell out of the pocket) and I’m not going to lie I was shocked. It seems like such a bizarre decision to make after being a smoker for a decade and knowing how tough it was to quit. I confronted him and he said sorry, to do with stress, was disappointed in himself and it wouldn’t happen again.
I’ve since found another three, the most recent being this morning. Every time we have the same conversation - he’s disappointed in himself, doesn’t want to be addicted, will stop. Safe to say I do not believe him anymore.

I know it isn’t my place to stop someone from doing something, but at the same time we’re married. We share a home, we have a child already and I’m pregnant. Plus since all of this my dad developed (and survived, luckily) lung cancer. I don’t want this in our lives to be honest. And what hurts more is the lying. He clearly has no intentions of stopping it and he keeps hiding it from me.
He doesn’t know I’ve found the one this morning (I didn’t stumble across this one, I looked for it in his coat pocket because I smelled it on him when he got home last night). How do I approach this conversation?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Thanks, it will mostly be things like candles, keyrings, crochet etc so easy enough things that can be made quickly enough

Am just unsure if you can only put up say 10 of something or a site like etsy expects you to have 100 of something before selling

Well from what I've seen some sellers will sell one of an item and maybe only have 10 items on the site and others will sell 10 of one item. I don't think there are any set rules

 

[minceheed]

Would anyone have any advice how to go about asking the GP for something for anxiety. I know it sounds so basic but I have really bad health anxiety so even ringing them is a big deal for me

I would start by writing down how you are feeling, symptoms and any triggers you experience. When you call the GP you can just ask for an appointment to discuss your mental health then tell the GP you're experiencing anxiety and talk them through your list good luck!
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Would anyone have any advice how to go about asking the GP for something for anxiety. I know it sounds so basic but I have really bad health anxiety so even ringing them is a big deal for me

Forgot to add, explain the physiological symptoms you experience such a racing heart, sweating, dry mouth, these differ for most people but will be useful for the GP to assess and arrange a treatment plan.

 

[Tommyb]

Not really a problem but does anyone have any recommendations for comfy sandals that don't look horrible?.

I'm going on holiday soon and need to find some. Just comfy enough to walk round all day!

 

[yeoooo]

Does anyone know how to shrink pants one size too large in the wash?

High heat wash and then tumble dry

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Does anybody know a way to get mildew/mould spots off fabric garden cushions?. We had a cover on them but they have little spots on!!. I have tried white vinegar and vanish!. Also cannot machine wash them.

Thanks!

Have you tried a nail brush? You could also take it to the dry cleaners and see if they can help

 

[stardust1]

Thank you.

No, I don’t use contraception (not involved with anyone).

are your meals relatively balanced? I’d get a blood test at docs and make sure you’re not deficient in anything

 

[Sharkfan]

This is such a weird question but I’ve thought I had fairly straight hair all my life- both my sisters are curly girls- I had a bit of a moment and had the hairdresser cut my hair into a long bob and it turns out my hair is REALLY wavy and I have no idea how to care for it. It is still fine and inclined to be greasy though… anyone? It is a different type to my sisters so they can’t help

Me and my middle sister have curly hair whilst my little sister’s is wavy. She tends to use the same shampoo and conditioner as us and plaits her hair after washing. She doesn’t use much leave in conditioner as her hair is much thinner and doesn’t frizz as much as ours but we all use silk pillow cases to prevent frizzing. You could try using a curl gel and scrunching your hair to see if your curls come out more- hair usually straightens the longer it gets as the length weighs it down so you probably do have wavy/curly hair but never noticed until cutting it.

 

[xbxbx]

More of a question than a problem.. I found an old purse that has about £25 worth of loose change. Mostly 5p, 10p and some 1p and 2p. Do I need to get coin bags and separate it all before taking it to the bank to deposit? I’m tempted to throw it all into a clear, plastic sandwich bag but not sure if they’d accept that lol. I’m with Halifax if that makes any difference.

 

[becca7721]

Can I ask, what exactly is causing you to not be able to travel at all? How do you get shopping/attend appointments etc?

You can write a letter to the job centre in Llanelli.

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I can no longer get in car/taxi due to deterioration in my (rare, hence not naming it) condition which causes chronic (and sometimes severe) pain and other associated pain conditions from loss of medical/social care and treatment due to covid restrictions. Still wearing same clothes from then, no wash in years. I can’t get to appointments (except via private ambulance which I cannot afford as nhs transport here is virtually impossible to get with medical support and I’ve none), shopping from corner shop, meds from pharmacy next door to shop. On days I’m too ill to do that I go without/eat from hoard.

I wrote to that address months ago, sorry should have said!

There’s no delivery here for food, for meds it’s strictly for those 24/7 housebound and end of life care only.

Ps sorry this is all over the place reply. Not well today.

 

[FullFatWater2021]

My period is now only lasting one day. One really heavy, going through at least a pad an hour, can't leave the house for fear of leaking day. Excessive unexplained weightgain and dark hair sprouting everywhere. Doctors aren't interested. Anyone experienced anything similar?

They used to last 5 days and I'd say for the last 6 or so months it's down to one day.

That sounds like polycystic ovary syndrome aka PCOS. Irregular periods, heavy and the hair. I have it to and mine are permanent atm but I did go through very brief ones in the past and have excess hair growth

 

[TheGlossy]

Can you book a test apply for the permit then change the date?

Keep going you’ll get there.

Thank you. Yes, I can. I might do this actually.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Inflammation markers + low iron for me ended up being coeliac disease- might be worth asking for that to be added to the blood test?

 

[Snippysnips]

They do Often wait a while before putting it up to re-watch but almost everything is available as a ‘watch now’ live option literally as it’s airing on the TV channel.

Hopefully this will be a live now thing with it being the last episode of this actor an she can watch along, not sure why America isn't airing it at the same time when they done so with the rest

 

[EasterEggs]

Hello! Bit of an unusual request but can anyone recommend a florist/company that does preserved bouquets or floral arrangements and delivers to north England? Looking online there doesn't seem to be many companies and I thought surely a Tattler has a recommendation?
Thank you (prefer to order online so I can see what I am getting)

There are lots of nice ones on Etsy!

Bloom & Wild have quite dried bunches too.

 

[Rxt156]

Wondering if someone has some advice.
The wall in my bedroom is wet. I don't know whether it's a leak or condensation. I have the window open and a dehumidifier but nothing seems to shift it. The wall has mould on it. I can clean the mould off (shout out to cillit bang mould cleaner) and it does come off but it's obviously not dealing with the source of the problem. Does anyone have any advice? I have contacted the landlord (I'll refrain from comment on that)

I had this problem. Was a condensation issue from other parts of the house. Moisture from kitchen and bathroom was clinging to the cold walls and making them wet. Best way is to keep doors shut on moist rooms

 

[HoGi]

You can get ring cameras too so all on the same app.

Can also get door sensors and a siren so it would go off if someone opened the door.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Does anyone know how to see a skincare specialist without going to GP? Never been formally diagnosed with rosacea but pretty sure I have it.

My sister was diagnosed via video consultation online during lockdown by some fancy London clinic, cost about £50 to get a letter from them to confirm, which she took to her GP for treatment. An option??

 

[TheGlossy]

My second learner permit has expired and I only have one more learner permit renewal allowed before having to re-sit the theory test all over again etc. You’re only allowed 3 learner permits.

In order for me to apply for my last learner permit, I need to have a test booked. The issue is I failed my test twice and I’m solely reliant on driving lessons as I’ve no one to drive with.

I’m therefore wondering if it’s even worth it for me to reapply for the learner permit and book a test given my track record. Or maybe I should abandon the idea of getting my license once and for all.

 

[tootootoot]

After a bit advice and recommendations.

Has anyone tried to re-waterproof a coat? I've got one that used to be water resistant but it's been washed a few times and I get wet straight away. It's a insulated one with synthetic wadding.

I've a similar kind and used a waterproofing spray from decathlon as I was concerned about washing it with the wadding. It's not incredible but it's definitely helped!