The advice thread for random problems #2

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I've only spoken to them over the phone 2 or 3 times, and in their role they'll speak to loads of people, so my voice might not be recognised

Like others have said be honest from the outset or get somebody else to ring and ask the questions you'd like to know

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone got a recommendation on a tried and tested strapless bra for bigger boobs? Or should I just gaffa tape the bastards

I have one from George Asda, I've tried a few an none seem to do anything, this one is ok, it has that gel like stuff around the edge that sort of sticks to the skin, but honestly I feel like there's hardly anything out there good for bigger boobs, I'd love to just chop mine off an be done with them

 

[TheGlossy]

They’re so hard to get rid of because some retailers don’t accept them online and you can’t use them partially online - your card balance needs to cover the full purchase. Then some stores don’t accept them either.

The 18 months rule started in November 2022. The monthly fees they applied were prior to this new rule.

I had about 20 quid left on two cards after using them this exact time last year. When I checked yesterday, both cards had the balances reduced to zero due to these management fees.

 

[Lalla]

How many days do you leave the house and how much is the depreciation on a new car over a year. Would the new car have a warranty (so no unforeseen costs for x amount of time and do you anticipate spending on your current car in maintenance/repairs liver the next few years. Also would a new car save on or increase tax, insurance, fuel etc could you rent your own car parking space out to someone else.
If really crunch the numbers. It would come down to the costs first and if it’s all roughly evens, then how much would you enjoy driving a new car & convenience for me.
I’d be reluctant to spend a big whack though. And I believe used car prices are predicted to come down soon-ish now that shortage that was stopping new cars being made is coming to an end.

Thank you - all good points to consider.
I bought the car with long journeys in mind as my partner lived 200 miles away. However he's now my Ex, so I'm no longer doing those journeys!
I really only use the car 1-2 times a week, and my son uses it for 2 days every other week. He suggested we get a Range Rover bloody comedian!
My car currently costs me £165 in tax, plus about £500 a year to drag it through the MOT. Need to balance that with replacement car cost whether now or in a few months (tempted to hold my nerve and hope prices drop a bit early next year...ULEZ expansion not until Sept 23 I think). Lots to think about!

 

[CoffeeMamma]

This is really random but I need anonymous help! Today I was trying to get my son’s attention at his grandparents and I snapped my fingers at him. My mother went BAT CRAP CRAZY. Told me never to do that in her house again. Look I’m autistic and have ADHD but surely I haven’t missed some massive social thing here? I never snap my fingers at a waiter or similar- I know that’s rude. But I was just making a noise for attention, because he wasn’t listening to his name being called. I can’t stop thinking about it and trying to work out what I did wrong. I work with kids and do this to get their attention also if repeating their name is ineffective so I’m really nervous now I’ve been making a huge social mistake.

 

[petitspois]

HELP: Boyfriends surprise 40th party
I’m arranging a surprise party at a local bar in town where we have the upstairs 2nd bar to ourselves and an 3rd floor dance floor. Im inviting mostly friends and a handful of family members but with a view to it being mainly drinking and a night out vibe. My problem is what is the ‘etiquette’…? I’ve got a trip planned for his birthday and 2 weddings and the obvious multiple hen do’s that go with it, all before May so I need to watch my money.
Is it expected of me to buy everyone their first drink, ie. Bottles of beer and a few bottles of fizz? I don’t really want to do food either so planning on messaging to say have your tea before you come Advice please!!!

I think people would expect food but be happy to pay for their drinks. Could the venue lay on a buffet? May cost the same as buying everyone a drink tbh.

 

[bookworm1210]

There are lots of routes into teaching now, although it’s not what it was-
There’s a lot of paperwork and classroom management. You can get onto salaried courses and stuff though, my friend did it a few years back

I think I would want to do school based route I think

thank you for replying

 

[JoeBloggs]

We had a big leak downstairs and kitchen end panels and plinths were damaged along with flooring, skirting boards, oak doors etc. It's a huge space and Insurers have offered us a cash settlement which is too low to even cover the flooring costs. But our kitchen supplier have discontinued our kitchen so no longer have any of the things we need to repair. Because they have to replace a like for like and our kitchen is no longer available will they have to replace the kitchen or just say tough shit, accept the money or get fucked? I don't know how any of it works as have never claimed for anything. We've tried calling them but they don't work Saturdays. Which I would have thought would have been their busiest day!

It will all depend on wording of the policy. Unless you have a very good policy I would be surprised if they would be willing to replace the whole thing. But don’t settle quickly, fight it. They hope you’ll take the cash and move on.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Saltwater sandals are really comfy, although they are very flat but they don't rub.

I love my saltwaters, pricey but they last for years.

 

[shadowcat5]

Hi
So a guy who’s blocked me on WhatsApp 18 months ago has suddenly started to block and unblock me but the past two weeks he’s been adding my friends on Snapchat and Instagram and messaging them asking if they know me when it’s clear they do and I’ve even mentioned these friends to him when we were talking. The weird thing is his Instagram use to be private and public now and he’s clearly with his girlfriend but his posts his him devoting his love to her.
I don’t know I find this odd as I told him when we were talking that I don’t want a relationship with him and I’ll oviously always care for him but won’t let him get as close again.
I don’t know what I want from this maybe just a vent but me and my friends are confused over this situation

just block him and tell your friends to do the same. You don’t want a relationship with him so who cares. He’s just being childish

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Thanks for the replies.


We’ve just filled out a nursery admission form and Jane is listed as “important people in my life”, they so regularly talk about her - I think explaining that she helps us is the way to go.
Maybe as she they get older we’ll discuss how we get we get help with things we’re not good at or can’t find time for and we help others with things they’re not good at or don’t have time for.

Little one did the same. I go to their house 2/3 times a week every week and have done since she was born. She doesn’t know a life without me randomly popping up but she doesn’t understand my role in the household, just that I’m a friend who helps at home. I think the relevance to their life is genuinely more important, honestly. We hear in the news about kids who don’t have a safe adult and it’s amazing if kids grow up surrounded by safe people to turn to when things are tough. It will broaden their outlook and they will look back on this time fondly I think, not think it was odd.

 

[DcfcE]

Do you know what’s wrong with the boiler? Check the pressure gauge if you don’t. 9/10 times it’s lost pressure you can easily fix

Somethings gone inside it hopefully getting it fixed tomorrow but it’s hard keeping the house warm especially with a baby

 

[Snippysnips]

What does everyone take to work for lunch or does anybody have any ideas of what I could have to mix things up a bit? (I work in an office with only a microwave and kettle for context). I am wanting healthy ideas but I am so bored of bringing the same things everyday (sandwich, jacket potato, pasta or soup).

Used to make home made egg fried rice to take, tuna mayo pasta, chicken wraps, sweet pancakes an fruit, little home made samosas, home made fritters etc, I'd make whatever the night before an it would be fine for a microwave next day

 

[Kim Mild]

This one is a random one but I’ve tried everything my friends have suggested:
My hair is SO greasy. I assumed build up so used a remover and it left me with the most dry, itchy scalp but still super greasy hair! I’ve also tried enough shampoos to open my own review links. My scalp remains dry and itchy but my hair a greasy mess. Send help!

Do you touch your hair a lot? You could be transferring grease from your fingers to your hair.

 

[Milktray]

So both can be valid. I don’t know why everybody is jumping down the OP’s throat.
It would be annoying for anybody living next door to a baby crying at 2am in the morning. I would hate it.
Ofcourse the parents can’t do anything but why should OP have sympathy for somebody who chose to have a child.
Come on now people if you can’t help with a solution don’t be part of the problem

I didn't jump down posters throat, in fact, I did say that 'I felt for them' as broken sleep is hell.

The poster can't eradicate, they can only muffle. So white noise, soft music and headphones would be better than ear plugs. Keeping a window on the latch would provide outdoor noise and potentially make the crying feel further away.
Exposure therapy...try to relax when the baby is crying, will make it easier to fall back asleep. Being tense and annoyed will heighten anxiety and will make it harder to nod off.

But as I said, generally, with a baby, the crying is a short lived thing...so there will be an end point.
I know it's tough but as the neighbours are not creating noise deliberately, then the poster should take comfort in that.
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Do they definitely work in crime? I know some who does digital forensics and their job is basically making sure employees are slagging off the bosses, comparing salaries or stealing from the company.

Oh yes, definitely. Police force and an investigator. Pictures and everything
Digging my hole everytime I write! Could've just left it to snooping but now my search history contains 'can a forensic see what you've been up to online?'

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

A random and slightly icky one for you all (sorry).

Most mornings for the last month or so I have been retching like I’m going to be sick - not usually bringing anything up just saliva or a small small amount of bile. But on Sunday morning and today I was properly sick with horrible bile and it was awful.

I think it is stress/tiredness but I’m just not sure if this is something to see the Dr about?

I haven’t had sex in 3 years so I’m deffo not pregnant lol!

Book a GP appointment ASAP. Vomiting in the morning can be a sign of something serious. Whilst the odds are this isn't the case for your situation, it's best to get it checked out. Also, it can't be very nice. Hopefully the GP can solve the issue.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

It's definitely not your management fighting your battles for you, at least I don't see it that way an i don't think they would either, she's over stepping boundaries, not respecting you, telling you what to do an trying to get about your business, management really do need to have a word with her, unfortunately they aren't going to be able to help unless they know there's a issue but I do think it would he worth having management talk with her

Some people will never back down unless they are basically told too like a child

I’m off now for a couple of weeks but I might see how she behaves after and if she says anything about my rosacea I’ll have wins than if it continues I’ll go back to my supervisor as she is aware of 90% of what has happened and she if that would eventually put her in her place.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Any ideas on what I could get as a thank you for my counsellor? Want to get something small to say thank you when our last session rolls round

I got mine a notebook, she was a stationery buff but also it’s useful for lists, notes etc. I got it from Getting Personal and had her first name put on with some joke about world domination

 

[Snowjoke]

I brushed my teeth last night and went off to bed, woke up a few hours later with the most disgusting taste in my mouth. Like a kind of ear wax and stomach bile mix. Had a drink of water which made it worse. Jumped out of bed and brushed my teeth again, it settled it a bit but not fully. Went back to sleep, woke up and the taste was in full force. Brushed my teeth, had breakfast, trying to get the taste out of my mouth but its still there. Its affecting everything I eat or drink. Google isn't very helpful. Any idea?!

My taste was like this when I had covid

 

[Rxt156]

Would anyone have any advice how to go about asking the GP for something for anxiety. I know it sounds so basic but I have really bad health anxiety so even ringing them is a big deal for me

I hate talking to on the phone and explaining problems to doctors. If it helps I always think that they’ve probably seen 10 people before me and will see another god knows how many after me that they really just want to know what’s wrong so they can try to help. No judgement they just want to do a good job (and have probably seen someone’s horrible bum that day which is way worse imo). Good luck