Terrible arguments with friends

[ChloChlo]

Funnily enough I'm in the same position with my next door neighbour (we don't talk just say hi, in neighbours thread). He was snapchatting a friend of mine, he was going to take her out. He has a partner and kids

 

[LaurieLaurie]

My male friends always fallout with me about men. We’ve had some blazing rows over them but the dust always settles.

 

[Laur91]

CBA with people like this. If they always had the potential to be like this and we were unaware then I totally think they always had it in them and they were just faking it the rest of the time or hiding it a little too well. How people can entirely turn on their friends ill never know

this is what my friends and family say now, like they say ‘she must’ve always been a [insert expletive here] and I’d even defend her and say but she wasn’t, I knew her but I think you’re right. You think you know someone when youve known them 20+ years but she did it with such ease and zero regret that I just believe she was good at putting on an act all those years!

 

[Molsdol]

I met a fellow mum through school. We were great friends all the way through. Our kids went to different secondary schools. My kid took longer to settle and there were a few issues. He relied on his old friends alot but the mum got funny. Had all the school friends over for a sleepover but couldn't have my mine as she was keeping numbers low. My kid was devastated as this was at a very bad time. He started seeing a girl and they all met up in local village for a hang out. There were some high jinx and I got a call the following week berating me for my style of parenting, what I thought was appropriate. I'd have had no problem being told your kid was messing sort it but she made it so personal. During the call I was in work, really busy and in the background very worried about getting my guy settled. I didn't respond just said I'll ring you back - which I didn't. Two years on we've never spoken which is strange from a daily chat. I feel sad that she peed all over our friendship but I am not great at forgiveness either.

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

Mine was a bridezilla/hen party episode too. I planned her hen party, she told me it wasn’t good enough and asked me to downgrade from maid of honour to a guest. this was my friend of 20 years and I’ve not spoken to her since.

she owes me £1000s in therapy though #trustissues

I think I read about this story of yours on the Hen Do Gone Wrong thread. She wasn't happy with the trip to the beach you arranged, was she?

 

[Norfolking Good]

She was a total head case, unfortunately I was stuck living with her for a year.
Ironically I introduced her to her husband who was a very quiet and kind guy so god only knows what he has to contend with

 

[Sunflower91]

I’ve had a few fall outs with friends over the years. When I was 18 my entire friendship group fell out with me because I told one of the girls the truth- that her bf split up with her because he cheated. Apparently we’d all agreed not to tell her. I stand by what I did and in the end we all made up but it still makes me a bit angry.
My ex SIL was an absolute nightmare. She fell out with me all the time- once because I couldn’t go to her hen do due to university, once because I didn’t like enough of her FB statuses. Then when I split with my ex at the time we were on good terms but two weeks later she was spreading around that I couldn’t be trusted (for no reason I could think of)

 

[Friendsfan]

Thank you, I was very lucky that I have some really wonderful people in my life who have given me a lot of love and support. It was very sad that they being amongst some of my oldest friends didn’t but I am over it now and whilst I still don’t understand it just reading the stories here shows that people do sometimes inexplicably (to us anyway) turn their backs on us and whilst I was angry to start with (really angry!) the passing of my parents taught me to try my hardest to focus my energy on the people who do show me love and just let go of those that don’t. I hold no anger or hate in my heart for them but I do keep my guard just a little way up around most people. Thank you for your kind words xx

This message filled me up. X x makes me happy knowing there are people in this world as wonderful as you.

 

[Norfolking Good]

Yeah in retrospect it was usually all about her and very little interest in me so like a lot of people on this thread it’s a funny relief when you can end the friendship and see the toxicity for what it was.

 

[Gembo]

This message filled me up. X x makes me happy knowing there are people in this world as wonderful as you.

Thank you, I’m really not that wonderful, probably just getting a little bit older and wiser it’s so easy and human nature to focus in on people who have hurt us and/or let us down so when we are doing that we need to remind ourselves not to forget about the people who are there for us, they’re the ones we should focus on xx

 

[Guitarwarrior]

I always think if they turn psycho that they must have always been a bit psycho and have been hiding it all this time!

I think this definitely applies to the person I mention further up. They had form for being unreasonable to the point of cutting off their own family for not bowing to their demands. I believe they get this from their mother who’s just as bad. She never really knew her father growing up but got in touch with him in her early 20’s was great for about 4 months till she cut him off for nothing more than bringing his partner with him on a weekend he came to visit her (and do other things in area. They had a motorbike and there’s some really great rides round the area we live they wanted to ride) she threw a hissy because he should of seen her and only her. Oh and the time she again threw a borderline hissy because her boyfriend at time was living with two friends. Said friends said we don’t mind you staying etc but we’d like you to chip in a fiver every now then for the gas/electric meter (I don’t think this is an unreasonable ask if you’re regularly using someone else’s utilities especially if they’re the type you have to top up)

 

[Friendsfan]

We both got pregnant at the same time, she hasn’t spoken to me since

How weird. You would thought you would celebrate together. . X x

 

[mcfeez]

We both got pregnant at the same time, she hasn’t spoken to me since

Because you both got pregnant at the same time?!

 

[Rxt156]

My ex best friend didn’t show up at my 21st birthday, I thought said BFF wasn’t replying to my messages because was on the way with balloons etc so was busy but nope. All I got was “sorry I fell asleep”... This was the start of us becoming distant then stopped talkin eventually. I couldn’t believe that in the slightest and friend didn’t seem genuine or even apologetic. FYI to give it context it was a dinner, drinks then a night out so the chances of falling asleep from 6pm - 9am is unrealistic. I am still fuming

Did you ask why afterwards or try to sort it??? That does seem odd!