Tattle Turds #2

[GoLibrarianPoo]

It's hard to tell with me. Sometimes I make decisions out of excitement and it takes a while for how I truly feel to come to the surface. I think I probably just underestimated how hard it would be to leave. Maybe when I get there I'll be fine. But I still don't wanna go.

I do that too, get all caught up in stuff and get carried away a bit Baby hormones might not be helping either?

Have you spoken to the Mr about how you are feeling or are you trying not to worry him?

Bless you I get that too, the you'll be fine when you are there but you still don't want to leave, it's hard to be stuck in the middle of yourself like that

Is it that you'll miss things here or are you having a bit of a freak out that you're just making a bad decision or a mix of both do you think? x

 

[KindnessMatters]

Two questions then.

Why did you join?
Why did you choose your screen name?

I’ll go first

I read the Markle thread for a couple of months and joined because I couldn’t see
all the attachments in the posts as a lurker. I’m nosey.

I chose my screen name because Ena Sharples was a real old gossipy battle axe in a long running soap opera in the UK. When I was a kid there were women like her everywhere and if you said ‘oh she’s just like Ena Sharples’ people would know exactly what you meant, a gossipy old cow.

ETA - you’re well underway with the discussion already!

I joined after I saw AE bullying someone for their looks and told her to be nice. Needless to say she blocked me And then I saw the links to Tattle and came to see what it was like. Came for a peek, stayed because of the great humour from you guys.

I chose my screen name in part to remind myself to be a nicer person and think twice before I post (I try)

My first name is Kerry

 

[GoLibrarianPoo]

Could I be really cheeky and ask if anyone fancies doing a wee spoiler box catch up for me on what's been going on in Maliceland please?
I'm not sure I can be bothered going in and trying to find the info if it's still a bit of a drama going on - shocking laziness!

 

[Caitlyn130]

I do that too, get all caught up in stuff and get carried away a bit Baby hormones might not be helping either?

Have you spoken to the Mr about how you are feeling or are you trying not to worry him?

Bless you I get that too, the you'll be fine when you are there but you still don't want to leave, it's hard to be stuck in the middle of yourself like that

Is it that you'll miss things here or are you having a bit of a freak out that you're just making a bad decision or a mix of both do you think? x

I gently suggested we stay here until the baby is born and he freaked out and grabbed my arms and said, word for word, 'no no no no no no no don't do this, we have to go, we have to go.'

And then eventually much later after much discussion he said if I really don't want to go, we don't have to. But he really wants to go.

I honestly just think we have it so good here and I'm 16 weeks pregnant - and we're going to move to an apartment in the busiest part of New York City and that's where we're going to bring our baby home to? Would it be so bad to wait until the baby's born and move then? And move into a house in the suburbs and not make a hasty move into a city apartment because the whole thing is so rushed? Every part of this has been rushed from the beginning.

Anyway, we'll be moving on Saturday morning and I hope I'll be a bit less grumpy about it then. On the plus side I have a LOT of things from Pottery Barn waiting for me at the new apartment.

I do feel better after letting it out, so thank you.

 

[KindnessMatters]

We’re a covid household as of this morning so feeling pretty bloody bummed out! We’ve avoided it to this point and very glad we are both triple vaccinated but still, bummed out!!

Hope you're all doing ok, if there's anything we can do to help let us know **hugs**

 

[Caitlyn130]

Could I be really cheeky and ask if anyone fancies doing a wee spoiler box catch up for me on what's been going on in Maliceland please?
I'm not sure I can be bothered going in and trying to find the info if it's still a bit of a drama going on - shocking laziness!

You know what I've read every page of the last thread and yet I could not give you an update. I don't know wtf is going on.

 

[GoLibrarianPoo]

I gently suggested we stay here until the baby is born and he freaked out and grabbed my arms and said, word for word, 'no no no no no no no don't do this, we have to go, we have to go.'

And then eventually much later after much discussion he said if I really don't want to go, we don't have to. But he really wants to go.

I honestly just think we have it so good here and I'm 16 weeks pregnant - and we're going to move to an apartment in the busiest part of New York City and that's where we're going to bring our baby home to? Would it be so bad to wait until the baby's born and move then? And move into a house in the suburbs and not make a hasty move into a city apartment because the whole thing is so rushed? Every part of this has been rushed from the beginning.

Anyway, we'll be moving on Saturday morning and I hope I'll be a bit less grumpy about it then. On the plus side I have a LOT of things from Pottery Barn waiting for me at the new apartment.

I do feel better after letting it out, so thank you.

Ok well not the ideal reaction but everyone is entitled to a knee jerk emotional response and I can see why there would be a few very good reasons he'd want to get home asap.

I can also completely understand your reasons ^ for wanting to postpone a bit

Are you wanting to buy after you are wed? Wondering if it would be possible for you to buy sooner but compromise on staying in the UK till the house sale is sorted Did you get a chance to sit and discuss the practical pros and cons of going now vs going later?

Bless you it is all happening very quickly, but that's not necessarily a bad thing just in and of itself if you see what I mean? I can be off put when I feel things are happening too fast all of a sudden, I think it's natural to want to slow down a little and just be sure of your footing.

Would it help to go worst case scenario or are you in a place right now that that would make you more anxious? Just thinking about how if I go through that thought process at least I can put some theoretical/ possibly practical safety nets in place, but as I said last thread not recommended if you are feeling particularly anxious and panicky already

Sorry it's like playing a game of 20,000 questions with me sometimes Don't worry if you don't want to answer any or miss some or whatever, just whatever you feel comfortable with

For whatever it might be worth to you, I'm absolutely sure no matter what that you are going to be just fine! You are clearly a capable and smart young woman. Although there are some obviously new elements to this move that add extra dimensions to it, you've done this sort of thing before and you can do it again!

@Caitlyn130 ok no worries
I think I'll take the dog out, make a cuppa and attempt to read the newest thread then May the odds be ever in my favour and all that

 

[Ena Sharples]

You know what I've read every page of the last thread and yet I could not give you an update. I don't know wtf is going on.

Spoiler: Me Neither

The bits I read were:

'those kids needs to be taken away from her now'

'there are rules in the US and UK and you can't take kids away just because the mum is pissed everynight and can't apply lipstick correctly'

'someone needs to take those kids away from her now.'

'as previous posters have said, that's not gonna happen, there is a criteria and Alice hasn't met that yet'

'I can't believe she's got those kids still, someone needs to take them away from her now.'

'Oh duck my life'

....................

Then a bit of off topic discussion about Raquel Welch being inappropriately dressed at her son's wedding.

I have always thought Raquel was a godess, she got all of the lucky genes. I must have been Genghis Khan in a previous life to have gotten the genes I got.

I've probably missed some stuff out, but the above caught my attention as I skimmed through it.

+ I think A looks better in her recent IG, she's matched her lippy with top, you can't knock a girl for trying.

 

[clarkees]

Could I be really cheeky and ask if anyone fancies doing a wee spoiler box catch up for me on what's been going on in Maliceland please?
I'm not sure I can be bothered going in and trying to find the info if it's still a bit of a drama going on - shocking laziness!

Spoiler

Alice remade her cameo intro video and she doesn’t look like she’s just fallen out of bed but didn’t include any of her film work as a ‘you’ll know me from’ so is clearly relying on Twitter drama fandom. Tone has gone private, no idea why. Lots of discussion about custody/possible outcomes following the divorce and court hearings. About it!

 

[KindnessMatters]

I've contacted my supervisors at my university and for the first time have told them I'm suffering. I hope to meet them on Monday.

I have contacted my university supervisors and asked them to meet on Monday, and, for the first time, have let them know that I'm suffering immensely. Hopefully they will be able to help. I've tested positive for Covid so am isolated for the week but hopefully the week after can get out of here.
I had the one glass of wine, no more. Mixing that with pills is not something I ever do - I don't want to be like AE - but I feel alright. Just absolutely emotionally drained. I'm at my utter limit so am going to get some sleep.
Thank you for all your kind advice. It is so reassuring to know that there are good and kind people in the world.
The same goes for all of you. Thank you.

Oh dear @Autisteuse I've been worried and wondering if you were ok because I hadn't seen you around for a while. I am so sorry to hear what you're going through - and to get Covid on top of it! I can't offer any better advice than what's already been given, but if it's ok with you I'll keep you in my prayers and will be thinking of you. Get as much rest as you can, physically and emotionally, and know everyone is here for you whenever you need us. Take care xoxo

 

[GoLibrarianPoo]

Spoiler

Alice remade her cameo intro video and she doesn’t look like she’s just fallen out of bed but didn’t include any of her film work as a ‘you’ll know me from’ so is clearly relying on Twitter drama fandom. Tone has gone private, no idea why. Lots of discussion about custody/possible outcomes following the divorce and court hearings. About it!

Well done you! Thanks very much

@Ena Sharples Brilliant!

 

[Ena Sharples]

I gently suggested we stay here until the baby is born and he freaked out and grabbed my arms and said, word for word, 'no no no no no no no don't do this, we have to go, we have to go.'

And then eventually much later after much discussion he said if I really don't want to go, we don't have to. But he really wants to go.

I honestly just think we have it so good here and I'm 16 weeks pregnant - and we're going to move to an apartment in the busiest part of New York City and that's where we're going to bring our baby home to? Would it be so bad to wait until the baby's born and move then? And move into a house in the suburbs and not make a hasty move into a city apartment because the whole thing is so rushed? Every part of this has been rushed from the beginning.

Anyway, we'll be moving on Saturday morning and I hope I'll be a bit less grumpy about it then. On the plus side I have a LOT of things from Pottery Barn waiting for me at the new apartment.

I do feel better after letting it out, so thank you.

Nothing is permanent or forever. You could give it go and then if you don't like it, it's OK to say 'it's not working for me' and decide what you want to do instead.

It's a big change, you are carry a bubba inside and it's not surprising you are apprehensive. A very normal response to a big life change.

If it's any consolation, I envy you masses. xx

 

[Penguin86]

@GoLibrarianPoo

Spoiler: Some videos

 

[Caitlyn130]

Ok well not the ideal reaction but everyone is entitled to a knee jerk emotional response and I can see why there would be a few very good reasons he'd want to get home asap.

I can also completely understand your reasons ^ for wanting to postpone a bit

Are you wanting to buy after you are wed? Wondering if it would be possible for you to buy sooner but compromise on staying in the UK till the house sale is sorted Did you get a chance to sit and discuss the practical pros and cons of going now vs going later?

Bless you it is all happening very quickly, but that's not necessarily a bad thing just in and of itself if you see what I mean? I can be off put when I feel things are happening too fast all of a sudden, I think it's natural to want to slow down a little and just be sure of your footing.

Would it help to go worst case scenario or are you in a place right now that that would make you more anxious? Just thinking about how if I go through that thought process at least I can put some theoretical/ possibly practical safety nets in place, but as I said last thread not recommended if you are feeling particularly anxious and panicky already

Sorry it's like playing a game of 20,000 questions with me sometimes Don't worry if you don't want to answer any or miss some or whatever, just whatever you feel comfortable with

For whatever it might be worth to you, I'm absolutely sure no matter what that you are going to be just fine! You are clearly a capable and smart young woman. Although there are some obviously new elements to this move that add extra dimensions to it, you've done this sort of thing before and you can do it again!

@Caitlyn130 ok no worries
I think I'll take the dog out, make a cuppa and attempt to read the newest thread then May the odds be ever in my favour and all that

I'm going to have to go. This person has been the most patient and catered to my every single want and need without blinking and I'm not sure if you can tell but...sometimes I can be a handful.

We want to buy as soon as possible, we just don't know where yet which is the problem. We need to find the right town and factor in commute to NYC.

I think you hit the nail on the head. It's going to so fast and I just want to catch my breath. Hopefully when we're there I'll feel like i have chance to. Probably better to get the move out of the way now than have a baby and then move.

@Ena that was a great summary!!!!


ETA:

I joined after I saw AE bullying someone for their looks and told her to be nice. Needless to say she blocked me And then I saw the links to Tattle and came to see what it was like. Came for a peek, stayed because of the great humour from you guys.

I chose my screen name in part to remind myself to be a nicer person and think twice before I post (I try)

Do be careful with the first names and stuff.
(Don't be like Caitlyn ) Is it too late to convince any of you my name is Rachel? Haha

I'm curious what made you eventually come over to Tattle. You had a lot to say about Tattle back in Nov/Dec on Twitter that wasn't very nice (I hope you'll agree that's a fair observation), and I wonder what changed your mind? Don't feel you have to answer if you don't want to! No judgment / pressure here - everyone can have a change of heart. And being open about it might be a good way to build some trust that seems to be missing, if that's something you want.

 

[Penguin86]

This you hun? @KindnessMatters
Can't believe the cheek of you to mock us on twitter and then come and join like nothing happened. Your username sure is ironic

Spoiler: Screenshots

 

[clarkees]

This you hun? @KindnessMatters
Can't believe the cheek of you to mock us on twitter and then come and join like nothing happened. Your username sure is ironic

Spoiler: Screenshots

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When was this posted? I sure feel daft for trying to be understanding and nice to somebody right now

 

[GoLibrarianPoo]

I'm going to have to go. This person has been the most patient and catered to my every single want and need without blinking and I'm not sure if you can tell but...sometimes I can be a handful.

We want to buy as soon as possible, we just don't know where yet which is the problem. We need to find the right town and factor in commute to NYC.

I think you hit the nail on the head. It's going to so fast and I just want to catch my breath. Hopefully when we're there I'll feel like i have chance to. Probably better to get the move out of the way now than have a baby and then move.

Ok I'm getting my slightly stern Ape face on for this... You categorically do not have to do anything. He wants you to, and he does sound quite lovely from what you have said of him but neither of those things = have to <- said with love

I get that it might feel daunting to say "I'm sorry but right now is not the right time for me" because you might worry that he might hear "not now, not ever pal!" and that you might feel it's a bit late to do anything about it but I'm sure it would be possible to postpone by a few months if it came to it

Also slightly stern face here - Everyone is a complex mix of all sorts of things. I bet you are not a handful at all! *wags finger*

You are allowed to feel the way you feel, you are allowed to disagree with people and have your different opinions. You are allowed to get upset and irrational (which I don't for one second think you are being btw), even have a shout on occasion or any of the other things you might be worrying about that make you "a handful".

It doesn't make you a handful at all. It makes you human FWIW I think you are incredibly cool

What you do about this is important for you both. It is important to you both. So you both have to make a decision together for the best of both of you, sometimes that requires compromise. The challenge is not to throw your wants and needs out the window completely under the guise of compromise.

Whatever you decide to do I really believe you are going to be fine, it might just be that you are having a wee blip and tomorrow or Saturday you'll look back and think "don't know why I worried so"

On the plus side being there is probably going to make finding a house go a lot faster! So once you are there you can start the house porn! I also think moving country with a baby comes with it's own challenges so like you say there's that too.

I do think you've got valid concerns lovely but like @Ena Sharples says, if the worst comes to the worst at least you can say you gave it your best and figure it out from there

When was this posted? I sure feel daft for trying to be understanding and nice to somebody right now

I don't think you should ever feel daft for being lovely Being understanding and nice to people are wonderful qualities x

 

[Penguin86]

When was this posted? I sure feel daft for trying to be understanding and nice to somebody right now

November/December

 

[House of Tea]

When was this posted? I sure feel daft for trying to be understanding and nice to somebody right now

Wtf? When? How etc?

 

[clarkees]

November/December

Still when they were on here actively participating within the threads… mmmmmhm