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Froglife75 said:

Had to pop on and say hi. Reading your stories has me in tears. You just don’t know what people are going through in their lives. You are just the kindest, supportive nusty trolls ever! I’ve had such a rough year and the mrs hinch thread has been my go to when I’ve been recuperating. This week last year I found a lump in my breast and it turned out to be cancerous. I had surgery and radiotherapy and was put on tamoxifen which hasn’t agreed with me. Last week I had my ovaries removed as a risk reducing measure but also because of painful cysts. Menopause is coming for me like a high speed train! I’ve had such low mood because of the medication and I’m dreading the Antichrist that I’m about to become, I was bad enough as it was

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Froglife75 said:

Had to pop on and say hi. Reading your stories has me in tears. You just don’t know what people are going through in their lives. You are just the kindest, supportive nusty trolls ever! I’ve had such a rough year and the mrs hinch thread has been my go to when I’ve been recuperating. This week last year I found a lump in my breast and it turned out to be cancerous. I had surgery and radiotherapy and was put on tamoxifen which hasn’t agreed with me. Last week I had my ovaries removed as a risk reducing measure but also because of painful cysts. Menopause is coming for me like a high speed train! I’ve had such low mood because of the medication and I’m dreading the Antichrist that I’m about to become, I was bad enough as it was

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bringingdownthebs said:

aww hope your day goes quickly!

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sk8ergirl said:

Sorry to hear of the rough year you’ve had darling, just think of to quote Spice Girls ‘look for the rainbow in every storm’
No more periods. Thank. God. No more periods.


I didn’t even realise the time till I wondered why I was desperate for a brew
Can people please stop crashing their cars
How’s the day going ?
I’ve not even had the chance to be a nusty troll but I have had my daily dose of crunky snacks
Feel like Dave the alpaca

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bringingdownthebs said:

it’s… going trying to carry the baby whilst hopping around on one foot is proving quite challenging!! Got major anxiety about my appointment later too! Can’t face more surgery… I’ve had 5 operations (including 2 c sections) in the past 5 years!!

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bringingdownthebs said:

it’s… going trying to carry the baby whilst hopping around on one foot is proving quite challenging!! Got major anxiety about my appointment later too! Can’t face more surgery… I’ve had 5 operations (including 2 c sections) in the past 5 years!!

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sk8ergirl said:

How did it go? Xx

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bringingdownthebs said:

it’s a ‘complex fracture’ which the specialist thinks I may have made worse by walking all that way on it before getting it looked at. Surgery next Monday (providing he can fit me on to his list)… literally will be in one of the operating theatres down the corridor from where my partner will be operating because I won’t let him reschedule private patients on such short notice. I have cried… A LOT. Just waiting in his car now (while he goes to see his post-op patients on the ward) with the passenger seat reclined and my foot up feeling really sorry for myself.

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sk8ergirl said:

Oh darling I’m so so sorry
I’m so gutted for you atleast he’s close by to you
Will you have to stay in? Xx

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bringingdownthebs said:

Close by but can’t see me! Although I think he’ll struggle with that more than me tbh… my last surgery I had was at this hospital but on a different day to when he does his list. He wasn’t allowed in, not even to my room to wait for me, cos of stupid Covid rules (I’m calling them stupid because he works there! So he’s there anyway 2 days a week!!!) He sat outside in the car the whole time waiting for someone to update him on how I was doing.
I’m absolutely dreading being put to sleep again… I get more and more anxious each time I have to go through it!!
They’re trying to get me in and out as a day case but it’s dependent on so many different factors so won’t really know until the day. He’ll be here until around this time anyway next week as he usually only gets home from here around 10/10:30pm on a Monday so I’d have to wait for him even if I was being discharged on the same day. We’ll have to have a proper chat about it this week as we literally only managed to grab a bit of a conversation when he had a tiny gap between his clinic appointments earlier (that was nice and awkward as he called me in to his room like I was a patient with an appointment I hobbled in there thinking “you dick! All these people in the waiting room are gonna think I’m some poor suffering patient when I’m actually your poor suffering fiancé” )

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sk8ergirl said:

Your poor suffering fiancé sorry it’s so sweet you’re engaged now!!

I’m so gutted for you but try & keep calm, you’ll be fine it’ll be over before you even know. Think of it as a nice long uninterrupted nap
Child free.
If that helps at all I hope

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bringingdownthebs said:

haha I know! I still can’t believe it tbh! But I do like calling him my fiancé! Christ knows when I’ll actually get to be his wife! It was funny when I checked in for my appointment tonight as I’d changed my next of kin details to him… the woman at reception was like “and just confirming your next of kin is….” Then raised her eyebrows. I was like “yes. Yes that is my next of kin. Yes it’s the same person you’re thinking of.”

yeah, to be fair, I always say I’ve never had as good sleeps as when I’ve been under GA! I’m sure I’ll be fine… just stressing over it all and wondering how long my recovery is gonna take! Wish he could come and hold my hand while I’m put under that’s a definite no no, though!

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sk8ergirl said:

‘Oooooh check this bitch out? ’ hahaha
Did you have planned sections with your babies? I had emergency for mine
Are you allowed music or anything for being put under? Xx

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bringingdownthebs said:

lol! It was just funny the way she raised her eyebrows but obv couldn’t say anything because it would’ve been incredibly unprofessional!!
I had emergency for my eldest (he was born early) and planned for my youngest (was too scared to go through it all again!) My partner really struggles relinquishing control to his colleagues with our planned section! But I reckon they felt more pressure with him watching when it’s normally him who performs the complex elective sections!

I had music last time so hoping they’ll let me this time.

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sk8ergirl said:

Omg I can’t imagine how that felt for you both
I’ve not actually talked to anyone who’s also had an emergency section
My partner said when he got up to cut our sons cord he could see eveeeeerything I suppose if your fiancé did yours he could officially say he knows you inside out? that could be terrifying

did you have a playlist? What song did you have playing?
I had the Harry Potter soundtrack playing when I was being induced

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bringingdownthebs said:

yeah my ex said it was pretty grim when I had my emergency section! I told him he shouldn’t have looked

Lol I don’t think my partner would’ve been allowed to do my section… I think there’s a rule about not being able to operate on family and friends. Which is a shame, in a way, as he’s one of the best surgeons in the country! I know I’d be in safe hands

I had Taylor Swift on when I had my last surgery and just had the radio on in theatre when I had my elective section… I was too nervous to focus on anything really as I had really bad trauma flashbacks once I got into theatre and my partner had to hold me still so they could get the spinal in, I was shaking so badly he was brilliant at calming me down though! Can tell he’s used to anxious patients!!

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sk8ergirl said:

I did think it would be quite… traumatic? For the surgeon if they were related as if anything went wrong etc or any added pressure they may feel would be hard on them

is it a different needles to the spine with elective? It’s fucking traumatic I’m horrible with needles so I was like you shaking to the core, could barely calm down

what Taylor swift? Her newest stuff is so good (reputation & folklore) xx

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bringingdownthebs said:

yeah I think it’s something to do with not being capable of making logical/clinical decisions or something like that. Cos like… I know him and what he’s like… he’d be trying to save me at all costs if something went wrong!

nah it was the same kind of needle… all the same procedure just calmer and slower cos they’re not in a rush to get the baby out. Once they’d numbed me I managed to calm down a bit and actually enjoy the experience! They made me really comfortable and I got everything I wanted like lowering the drapes so I could actually see him being pulled out of my tummy, delayed cord clamping, skin to skin in theatre etc. it was a very healing experience in the end! We both bawled our eyes out though

I had Evermore on I just love her so much! So much of her music resonates with me and I listened to the Lover album loads when I first met my partner.

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sk8ergirl said:

Oh that’s so wonderful I’m so glad you got the nicer experience of a section. That’s beautiful
We said if/when we have another I’ll elect next time as my sons birth was traumatising

Evermore is so beautiful. Hers and Bon Ivers voices blend so well. Exile is one of my sons favourite songs & cardigan and the 1
I didn’t like her much until reputation but I think her reputation album was kinda like Britneys blackout? Like a giant fuck you?

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bringingdownthebs said:

I’d never push anyone in to it cos it’s major surgery but I’m glad I chose that. I’d have another elective in a heartbeat (no more babies though! Even though I reckon my partner would jump at the chance if I said let’s have another! )

oh cardigan Cheesy but that’s how I feel about my partner and how he’s just boosted me after the mess my ex left me in… like knowing I’m his favourite person and he chooses me every day is just amazing God I think the painkillers have gone to my head

have you heard Closure? I feel like it’s such a clever way of bringing Reputation full circle!

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