Hi everyone, I've not posted on here before but just asked for the link from the Hinch thread.
@horseybox1982 I was familiar with your situation from the Hinch thread but blimey, you have a lot on your plate now, I know it doesn't help practically but I really am keeping everything crossed for you that your situation picks up soon, you sure as hell deserve it, you're so strong!
@☆MagicRoundabout☆ Keeping my fingers crossed for you as well that all your appointments go well, I'm so sorry to hear that you can't go to your daughter's wedding! Hopefully there will be a big party a little further down the line which you can all look forward to.
My issue I need some advice with is on no way the scale of other's here, but you're all such a lovely bunch and I feel like I need some wise words now: I'm one of the younger members on the Hinch thread and (in a good way!) you ladies have a few years life experience on me, so I feel like you can give me good advice.
How can I deal with my boyfriend giving me the silent treatment? I'm 21, he is 23, and we have been together 5 years. It has always been a cyclical problem, where in the early days I would rack up 30+ missed calls crying begging him to answer me. We would have conversations about him needing to communicate better to me, as for me this is a dealbreaker. It has got better over the last year, but recently, he has given me the silent treatment three times in the last month. The first time was bank holiday monday, the second was last tuesday, the 10th, and the latest is from last night.
The reasons for it, in my opinion, are trivial. The first was that he wanted to spend Bank Holiday Monday in Wales (about a three hour drive from us), and I said the weather gives rain and wind, so for the sake of a six hour round trip, I'm not sure its worth it. I suggested we instead went somewhere more local (which we did); on the drive there we barely spoke as he was sulking, but during the day out we had a great time and he stopped it! The second time, he was moody because I wouldn't stop over at his house Thursday to Sunday because his parents swanned off on holiday leaving him to babysit his little brother (another incredibly sore point in our relationship). I said no to stopping for that length of time as its currently my final exam/assessment/essay period for my degree, which finishes on this coming Monday, so I need all the time I can get. Its not like I'd see my boyfriend anyway as he works those days, so I would basically only be there to look after his brother. I said no, and didn't go. Last night, he went ahead with his parents and booked for us to go out somewhere next Thursday evening: I said I couldn't as its my best friend's birthday and we're going out (not that I want his parents tagging along with us anyway). He asked me at 7:30, I replied why I couldn't at 8, and I didn't hear from him until 8 this morning. Bearing in mind we usually call for an hour before going to sleep to catch up, and there was no acknowledgement of why he'd just frozen me out.
I no longer rise to it anymore and just "carry on as normal" in the hopes he will realise his behaviour isn't acceptable or mature, but he just hasn't said a thing. Part of me thinks he knows he's doing it, but is doing it to get a rise from me. I really don't know. Problem is, he says I'm amazing and that he wants to save for a deposit for a house to move in together, and that he can see spending his life with me. I feel amazing when things are good - when they're good, they're really good! But I don't like being dropped at the smallest thing; I would never do that to someone, so I just struggle to deal with it. What do I do about this?
Thank you all xxx
ETA we separated this time last year for about two months, of which I instigated, but got back together.
came in here to just say things out loud that I can’t say to anyone else in my life rn. 
If anyone needs someone to talk to!x x x
