It sounds like he might be suffering from depression with what happened. You will need to sit down and discuss this, especially if it's a strain on the household finances.
You need somethinf to distract you. A hobby or visiting friends etc. When I had severe anxiety I found journalling really helped. Also spending time in nature ie walking.
Well he is a tit dad, he's not taking care of his kid or his family. He knows. Maybe you need to let it hit him fully. No soothing him, no placating his ego. You don't need to argue with him either, but stop disagreeing with him, which we're so often doing. If he says "I'm a tit dad" - don't disagree. If you're up for it you can even nod and say, "The way you're acting with finding work and supporting this family? Yes, you're behaving like a tit dad.". Make it about his behaviour instead of his being - maybe it will help him see reason.
I can totally understand this. It’s partly why I’m self-employed! I cannot do chit chat, it’s so draining.
Thank you, yes I’ve got some time off next week and have been saying to my husband that I would like to do two nights at one of the local hotels that have family rooms. He’s very reticent about it I don’t think he realises just how on the floor my MH is. I will look up Dr Neff, thanks so much for your reply, I genuinely appreciate your words.I can totally understand this. It’s partly why I’m self-employed! I cannot do chit chat, it’s so draining.
I think it’s unlikely anyone even thought anything of it, everyone is too busy checking out their own ‘zoom face’ and thinking about their own insecurities. I definitely don’t think you made a twit of yourself!
You’ve identified really well that you are exhausted and need a break. How can you provide that for yourself? Annual leave? Staying somewhere different for even a couple of nights and walking around somewhere you haven’t spent all your time, just for a refresh?
There is a lot of research to support the benefits of offering ourselves self-compassion. It sounds like you’ve had a tough time and that’s part of why you are feeling like this. Acknowledge that it’s difficult and allow even these negative feelings to be there but don’t blame yourself for feeling them. Likely anyone would.
Dr. Kristen Neff has lots of free short guided meditations on self-compassion. I’ve found them helpful when I was feeling very upset and isolated. I hope you feel better soon.
Also, SO many zoom meetings could probably just have been an email.
I’ve had similar with my partner, we’re both going through stuff and he just doesn’t seek comfort or rest in the same way as me. Plus MH is so personal, sometimes people really just can’t understand.
to deal with but even a few hours outside of routine helped.
I remember this well. Sorry they’re not sleeping well/at all and that it’s obviously affecting your sleep too. It’s so exhausting and draining when this happens. Hang on in there
it will hopefully settle back down again soon. Those pesky developmental phases 
I really hope that since you posted this, you’ve managed to get some much needed rest!I can identify with this. There are definitely things that I ‘don’t want to do’ that once I’ve done them, I realise how important it is to stretch outside of that comfort even briefly, but keep doing it. Be gentle with yourself but also believe that you *can* do difficult, uncomfortable things - because you can and it’s most likely worth it! 🤍
So hard to do but I think you are right!Not a similar situation but I also come from a drama free family. Honestly so lucky growing up.
Then my dad passed away and my mum has become an absolute nightmare. My brother and his wife live with her so it’sna constant source of drama and I’ve found it incredibly difficult to deal with, this is ongoing for 8 years
What I have found is to be supportive to my mum who needs and outlet for her anger/depression/etc but I absolutely do not get involved with their day to day life.
My suggestion would be to do the same. Listen to your mum and be supportive but do not interfere in their relationship. Ultimately they are adults who are also just human, faults and all.
Yes please delete the app. Find some if the great (positive) threads on here and get involved, as the poster said visit friend or just get out in to nature and smile at people once a day. Do I sound mad? I was very depressed and hated the meds. In the end I started taking saffron supplement and now feel positive and have started to laugh and enjoy things. Good luck xxx
Do everything within your power to see her face to face on her own before the wedding. This sounds like Domestic Violence and Coercive Control. Both criminal offences.
It’s difficult to do this as he has moved her away from the area “half way” between there homes but when I suggest going to. Meet for coffee I don’t get a reply, I don’t know her address she had broke connections with a lot of people in our group of friends but I still kept in touch but was horrified to see this infront of my eyes on holiday
Do you know where her family are? Do you know where she works?
I know were her mother is but she does not be well he sisters are scattered around Iv a fair idea were she works it’s also in a new area to her
The problem is no matter how I approach it she doesn’t ever see the wrong she see’s everyone is jealous of her being happy I went through it before advising her about a boy she didn’t listen ended in a row that I was jealous I distanced myself moved on she got back in touch gave her a chance some of the things she said were very hurtful but I forgave that I don’t know if I could go through it all again to end up being the baddy she can be very manipulative
