Support for anyone that needs to vent #2

[WilmaHun]

I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but I just need to get it out as there’s no one I can talk to.
I’m really worried about my mum. She’s not eating, my dad says he’s noticed her taking a lot of otc pain killers, she’s lost a lot of weight and generally just looks rough. Whenever he tries to talk to her she just snaps and says she’s “having an IBS flare up and will be fine in a week”. It’s been more than a month now. I have IBS so I know what she’s describing isn’t what I experience.
Dad asked me to talk to her and everytime I try she changes the subject or snaps. I offered to go to the doctor with her for support but she told me to butt out.
This happened a few years ago and she was adamant she was fine, she looked so poorly. It ended up with her in hospital by ambulance. The doctors said her blood count was the lowest they’d ever seen and they were surprised she could walk and function. She ended up having an emergency hysterectomy.
Im so worried about her I find myself ringing and texting her constantly to check up on her, I’m so scared there’s something seriously wrong but for some reason she’s petrified of going to the doctors. Im at my wits end I don’t know what I can do to help.

 

[sweetbabymango]

Today is my birthday! Feel like absolute shit tbh and I've cried a couple of times today as I'm emotional as fuck. My period is also due any moment so that's inevitable anyway. Time is flying, I'm getting older and I feel stuck. I'm not in a relationship, I have to change jobs in a matter of months and I hardly have any close friends. If it wasn't for a couple of ex colleagues (who I miss dearly!), that probably felt obligated to wish me a happy birthday, my phone would have been dead all day. I didn't even tell anyone at my current workplace that it's my birthday because I'm sure no one cares enough. Maybe I'm expecting too much from everyone but it kind of hurts my feelings when cousins, aunts/uncles and distant relatives don't find 5 seconds to send a message or leave a post. Yes we're not super close but we're not complete strangers either. Though to be fair even my own father hasn't given a shit about me in years so maybe it runs in the family lol. So yess..feeling extra lonely today and sadly don't see the situation getting better anytime soon.

 

[barbiegirl2000]

Just had my partner of 6 years break up with me and honestly I’m angry and upset. Annoyed cause I feel like I’ve just wasted the time of my life with someone I thought was going to be with forever. Don’t really have any friends to talk about this with so just venting on here.

 

[Peaches_xox]

Not sure if this is the right thread to put this on but I just have to put this somewhere. Sorry if it’s depressing.

I’m miserable. I don’t think I’ve ever been so miserable in all my life. My relationship is awful but I feel like I can’t leave. I guess I’m scared? Or not ready? I’m very lonely as I spend a lot of time alone (wfh, partner out a lot but even when he’s here we’re hardly best friends) I have a 5 year old and now I’m starting to feel like he deserves better then me because I’m just not my full self at the moment.
I don’t know how to make myself happier? Or better. I spoke to a friend earlier who said ‘come on babe cheer up don’t feel like that’ and I just cried when we hung up.

 

[WotsitG1]

I need to feel sorry for myself and rant. Mention of Miscarriage

We were 16 weeks pregnant this time last week, went to routine app and sent over to hospital for a scan… babies heartbeat had stopped. Had surgical treatment Monday. I just feel pissed off with life. This was our third loss. (15 weeks and 7 weeks). We had ivf to achieve this pregnancy. Just feel like why us, what did we do so wrong to deserve this!!! I don’t know if I have the strength to try again, but I don’t know if I have the strength to say that’s it and live with that choice. Atm I just feel pissed off life keeps kicking us!!

Sorry for the rant

 

[justmeandmycat]

My grandparents are both in hospital. They are also in active war zone. I haven’t slept a wink.

 

[Octopies]

Maybe he was just concerned she was in a smock dress which is your classic ‘pregnancy dress’. Not every thing has to be seen as someone being nasty for the sake of it. Just a different perspective.

I don’t wanna go on about this so won’t keep posting but it’s *always* offensive to ask someone if they’re pregnant, whether you mean it nicely or not commenting on anyone’s body is rude

 

[Octopies]

Sorry got nowhere else to post this

Just been to see a band at an Arena with my partner, had tickets around 6 months.
Was really looking forward to it, bought a new dress, did my hair and makeup. Thought I looked quite nice - had a baby 8 months ago so confidence not what it was…….

Halfway through the show a man came up to me and said ‘excuse me, are you pregnant?’

I was taken aback but managed to say ‘no and that’s quite offensive.. I had a baby recently’

He said ‘why the maternity dress?’ And walked off.

(Was wearing a smock type dress, had felt really comfortable……..)

I left the arena in tears. Told my partner and he was fuming but I made us get a taxi home. Cried all the way home

Why are people so cruel, I’m trying my best

 

[GoofyPrincess]

I live abroad so haven't seen my parents in over 2 years because of covid/travel restrictions. Now travel has opened up again but annoyingly I still can't travel because of visa restrictions so I can't make a trip home anytime soon. Now, I totally get that is on me and it was my choice to move abroad but my parents are planning a 4 week holiday in the same country I now live but won't even spare a few days to stop and see me on route and they even need to connect planes in the city I live!

My mum was messaging me today again all about the holiday and I messaged back saying well if you're connecting planes here why don't you stay a few days to see me. She replied blabbing on about the holiday again but didn't even answer my q.

I know I could travel to go see them while they are here in the same country but the stubborn part of me doesn't want to as I'm annoyed and upset that they don't seem bothered and won't make any sort of effort on their part to see me

 

[strawb]

i just feel like i'm always everyone's second choice. that's all

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I need a rant and possibly some advice.
My 17 year old daughter has rang me crying from work. She works in a fast food place, with her abusive ex boyfriend. Nearly all colleagues have taken her exes side and are being horrid to my daughter, throwing food at her, slaming food down and blaming her for food etc being spilled. Even 1 of the managers is doing this, only 1 person is being nice (a female manager). I've told her she needs to report them but she's scared. Part of me wants to go down there and call them all a bunch of cunts but I can't do that (even if I could I can't drive and hate confrontation lol). It just feels like one thing after another and I'm struggling to cope and know what to do for the best.

She’s 17. Tell her to walk out the door and never go back. She can find a new job tomorrow.

 

[oliviaobivia]

I have been working as a vet for two years now, and yesterday I euthanized a pet for the first time, a dog who I saw regularly over the past 6 months, I feel so sad and can’t seem to lift my mood. I feel like calling in sick on Monday. It is making me wonder can I do this forever?

 

[Tui]

Sick of my husband. I feel so under appreciated. On mat leave with our first child and I feel like he has no conception at all of how much work it is to entertain a small child and sort out housework and how lonely and grindingly repetitive it is. He definitely thinks he works harder than me. He never compliments me or shows any gratitude or appreciation. He doesn’t make me feel attractive. I can’t remember when he last bought me flowers. He’s a great dad and he does his bit around the house but I feel like he is my colleague not my husband and he infuriates me so much now. He’s laid asleep next to me right now and I want to punch him in the head I am so frustrated with him because he just seems so unbothered by me and how I feel if he ever bothered to ask, which he doesn’t (I obviously wouldn’t punch him!).

 

[Bogwoppit]

Feeling like absolute shit, my whole weekends are wasted, I’ve got no friends to spend the time with I’m sad, miserable & lonely, my kids have gone to their dads today so I’ve just sat in my bed crying like a sad bitch, I’ve come off social media cos I’m sick & tired of seeing how everyone else is happy all loved up or off out with friends to the pub etc…. I’ve got no money gone way past my overdraft so my direct debits haven’t gone out, kids keep saying there is no food in & I literally can’t afford any till I get paid on Thursday, I’m too proud to ask my parents for money cos I feel like a failure if I do. I just don’t know what to do I really don’t, sorry rant over x

 

[candyland_]

Can I have a rant. I got on a bus for a 5 minute journey yesterday. The minute I got on the bus, the driver was really rude. I can't describe it, but he looked at me as though he despised me, even though I'd never met him before, as though he was angry to stop and let me on. I asked for my ticket politely and paid. He didn't speak, just glared at me. As I got near my stop I rang the bell. A couple with a dog looked over and recognised that they'd need to move their dog for me to get by. They struggled with the dog, hauling it in repeatedly, so I got up to get past the dog so they wouldn't have to keep restraining it. The bus driver then literally screamed at me, in a really aggressive way "sit down until the bus has stopped". I have stood on the bus many times as there were regularly not enough seats. It was so aggressive that the other people on the bus looked scared. I don't know what it is, but I just found his behaviour really disturbing. When you're female and older you get some men who treat you with utter disdain. But I felt really unsafe with this driver and I came in and instructed my teenager not to get the bus on her own. I'm not sure if he was one of those men who despises women or it was because I wore a mask. I came into contact with family, neighbours and work colleagues in the last 2 weeks who tested positive, so was being careful. Please tell me if you think I'm over reacting. But his behaviour really disturbed me. It was so weird.

I would be a cunt back and report him, I’ve done it in the past when bus drivers have been vile. The ticket often has enough information on for them to know who the driver is.. driver and journey number etc.

I think people are getting worse at being twats. Yesterday I offered someone with a basket to get served ahead of me with my (small) trolley of food. He said actually yes I will and then the second he jumped ahead he said I haven’t got fucking time to be stuck behind you all day it took me about three minutes to get served when it was my turn but it’s a never again offer for me.

 

[Sheabutter]

Cleared my parents’ birthdays without an insignificant amount of damage to my mental health. Next up is my own birthday where they manage to make it all about them. Yaaay.

 

[TheGlossy]

I think I'm already tired of 2022 and wonder "what else now". I've been off for the past 3 weeks dealing with my grief and anxiety. My team lead rang me during my time off to tell me he's leaving the company and despite me getting annoyed at him a few times, he was the only decent person in this team because the rest of them are pretty bad. His own manager also left last week. Both of them wanted to promote me this year and while I've been looking for a new job, I have to say I'm gutted the two persons who wanted to put me forward for a promotion are now gone because it means the promotion will probably not happen if I stay there and all the hard work gone down the drain. I'm quite worried about returning next week after three weeks off because now that my manager is gone, it will be a complete circus. It was already bad before, but now, things will just fly off the handle.

All my job applications are getting rejected within 48 hours whether it's for a lateral move, an upwards move or a different industry. I haven't received this many rejections since I finished college. I simply don't understand at all. I thought with 7 years experience, I could find something decent elsewhere, but apparently not.

On top of this, my rent is getting increased due to inflation (not much, but I'm on a roll clearly).

 

[Kofi Annan]

My husband has returned to the office instead of WFH. He has just completely abandoned helping whatsoever in our home.
We are a large family and I also work the same hours as him, albeit WFH. Whereas we use to share the housework, he has trotted out the "my day today was 11 hours long due to commuting" line a few times now and I'm barely holding back absolutely unleashing hell on him.
He's come home each night to a home cooked meal, a warm, clean home, washing done and kids fed. I then play taxi (he doesn't drive, another long story) to ensure he goes to football, the kids go to football, etc. The shopping is done by me whilst they are off doing that. He hasn't once washed up or done any chores since this change 2 weeks ago and it's wearing very thin.
I've resolved to giving him another couple of weeks to settle in but after that, he better prepare himself. I won't be taking much more of his selfish attitude.

 

[ouroboros]

Men who spit on the ground! I've just left my apartment to a crowd of guys clearing a flat (from a reputable company, so not cowboys) and the road is littered with globules of spit. It's has to be the most deliberately anti-social and revolting habit that any civilised human being can adopt!

 

[GiftedNotFree]

God I need to rant about this. Last summer I bought an old house that needs a lot of work to bring it up to modern standards. I knew it wasn’t going to be cheap and I have enough money (or at least I thought!!!) to do the renovations. I’m a single woman and I’m not kidding when I say: EVERY single tradesperson I’ve had in, even just to quote, has given me some degrading comments about ‘how I can do this / how much money it will be / oh you’re on your own? You’re paying for this yourself?’ It’s really starting to grind me down. I KNEW it would be a long slog (and it is!) but I didn’t anticipate feeling deflated as hell with each interaction I need to have in order to get it done

Like…. Just let me live!!! Why criticise my choices TO MY FACE while I’m attempting to recruit your services!?!???!!!! Argghggghh.