I reached out to a therapist the other week. I heard back very quickly from her. Without knowing anything about me, she wants to start me off at 2 visits per week. It feels like a bit much.
I agree and you should tell her that.I reached out to a therapist the other week. I heard back very quickly from her. Without knowing anything about me, she wants to start me off at 2 visits per week. It feels like a bit much.
Agree it does seem a bit much. Surely an introductory session would be the best approach where you actively engage in two-way dialogue to establish what you require and how best to achieve that e.g telephone conversation only therapy sessions rather than face to face. Definitely get back in touch and air your thoughtsI reached out to a therapist the other week. I heard back very quickly from her. Without knowing anything about me, she wants to start me off at 2 visits per week. It feels like a bit much.
I found her through an organization that aims to make therapy accessible. Her fee on that site is half of what she normally charges.The cynic in me is thinking it's a red flag, as she would earn twice as much from two visits a week as opposed to one.
Be honest and just say you’d like to ease back into therapy with one sessions not twoI found her through an organization that aims to make therapy accessible. Her fee on that site is half of what she normally charges.
Based on our correspondence, I don’t think she will go for less than twice a week. I didn’t have a good feeling about her suggestion but I wanted a gut check. My goal is to be in and out of therapy.Be honest and just say you’d like to ease back into therapy with one sessions not two
Cut your grandmother off completely. You are presumably an adult? So, regardless of the proximity of where you currently live, you do not have to have anything to do with her. She’s toxic - she’s not an old dear getting cranky in her old age, she’s just a bitter nasty woman who frankly doesn’t deserve any of you! Ignore her. Don’t engage in any more of her tit. Your parents should also heed the same advice.i’m so annoyed and upset right now
i feel like my grandmother is VERY toxic. i love her i really do and she does so much for me however
growing up i was a competitive horse rider, if things weren’t perfect she’d shout at me, threaten to sell the horse, not talk to me for hours on end all because i didn’t score high enough etc.
i stopped competing and she stopped coming so all seemed good for a while
during lockdown it was surprisingly ok.
for context, we live next door to each other (i with my parents and my grandparents next door and we have for most of my life)
as we started coming out of lockdown there was one major row with her and my father in which she screamed down the phone to my poor mother, that she was either going to drive her car into a wall or duck off to scotland and never speak to any of us again - baring in mind this was all because of my father (her son) having an opposing view of a friend his - it was rather minor.
i’ve only recently found out that my mother has had all sorts through the years. my father and grandmother had a business together and that was very stressful but my mother always was the middle man who apparently has been threatened, had plates and chairs thrown at her etc. it broke my heart to hear and i feel like i haven’t fully recovered from hearing my grandmother say she wants to kill herself or leave us all over the phone
i’d like to point out i am a student still so can’t just leave.
tonight’s incident was a bit less out there but she had text me for some help on her computer which i told her the exact steps in what to do and even sent a video tutorial
she couldn’t do it, which of course is my fault
i apologised, even offered to go round and help to which she just said forget it, go to sleep
i know i’m in the bad books now and probably won’t be spoken to for around a week now lol
idk what i’m expecting from this post i just needed to get that off my chest
thank you
goodnight
I'll second this. This woman sounds evil and deranged.Cut your grandmother off completely. You are presumably an adult? So, regardless of the proximity of where you currently live, you do not have to have anything to do with her. She’s toxic - she’s not an old dear getting cranky in her old age, she’s just a bitter nasty woman who frankly doesn’t deserve any of you! Ignore her. Don’t engage in any more of her tit. Your parents should also heed the same advice.
thanks guys, i’ll be honest i’ve thought about it for a while, and i’m just getting the balls to do it lolI'll second this. This woman sounds evil and deranged.
If this woman is your “best friend” then why can’t you just ask her this question yourself? Ask why she bends over backwards for these people she hardly sees now and who she slags off? You need to get it off your chest regarding her seemingly making more of an effort to go to their party when she didn’t make your birthday. Maybe she’s not as close to you as you’d like to think?Ugh, having a bit of a pity party and annoyed at various aspects of my life!
My best friend... we went to school together but were in different peer groups at the time. Became good friends after uni and were both 40 now. Her peer group from school largely still live in the same town while we both live in a nearby city. Since she moved away (maybe a 20 minute drive) they've barely bothered, she doesn't get invited out, they don't make an effort to go see her. The last time maybe 3 of them made an effort was her wedding reception 7 years ago had! I had a party for my 40th which she couldn't make but she went all out for one of the girls parties over the summer. Someone she's not seen for 4 or 5 years and will slate relentlessly! These were the popular surfie kids at school, I don't get why she's still so desperate to be part of the clique who haven't really grown up in 25 years!
My kids... every Easter, valentines, Christmas, Halloween etc I always do little themed sweet bags for their friends. One of the parents will always turn up at our door later with ahurriedly boughtbag of wispa bites or something. I see all these pics on Facebook though of my kids friends at parties, play dates, after school teas and mine never gets invited along. I don't mention it because I don't want to upset them buy it must hurt their feelings when their friends are talking about it at school. I've decided not to do the sweets again.
You didn’t mention that in your original post so I asked the question. I guess at the end of the day, if there’s a group of kids and their parents who are close and who all get on well and have a socialErr yeah, I've regularly had thher friends over, organised cinema, trampoline trips, spoken to parents and made an assumption. It's bit of an assumption I haven't isn't it!
I don't know if it's your first time reaching out to a therapist, but I'd say be wary because some therapists will tell you you need two sessions per week otherwise your progress will be "very slow". On top of these sessions being quite expensive to begin with (which seems to be a factor they never consider when making this request), they also can be very emotionally taxing depending on the issues discussed. A lot of therapists tend to try to lure in any client by requesting multiple sessions per week from the get-go, but good therapists will let you choose your pace. I've had various therapists and reach out to many for an initial session and found that those who tend to request multiple sessions per week are only after the money and their work isn't always efficient. The best therapist I had let me choose my pace.I reached out to a therapist the other week. I heard back very quickly from her. Without knowing anything about me, she wants to start me off at 2 visits per week. It feels like a bit much.
It is not my first time meeting with a therapist. I am not keen on feeling emotionally taxed. A younger me would have thought I need to be brutal with myself to see any progress. I let her know that it’s out of my budget — the program runs on a sliding scale and she’s already opted for the high end.I don't know if it's your first time reaching out to a therapist, but I'd say be wary because some therapists will tell you you need two sessions per week otherwise your progress will be "very slow". On top of these sessions being quite expensive to begin with (which seems to be a factor they never consider when making this request), they also can be very emotionally taxing depending on the issues discussed. A lot of therapists tend to try to lure in any client by requesting multiple sessions per week from the get-go, but good therapists will let you choose your pace. I've had various therapists and reach out to many for an initial session and found that those who tend to request multiple sessions per week are only after the money and their work isn't always efficient. The best therapist I had let me choose my pace.
A gift shouldn't be about the monetary value, its the thought behind it. I think they sound like necky fuckers and should be grateful with any gift they receive. By the time the baby had puked down the front and shat up the back, they'll be thankful for anything they have to hand that fits and is clean.So my brother is having a baby with his wife. Weve already been told were not allowed to buy any disney clothes which is fair enough but now we're not allowed to buy any supermarket clothes either. It has to be from next or john lewis ect. Am I wrong in thinking this is a little unfair? Im on the sick so dont get alot of money, so I can't really afford 'brand' clothing.