Fair enough we your experience.
I think this entirely misses the point. No one is suggesting she should do a low paid 9-5. The point is that she does... nothing. She thinks reading all day is a genuinely busy day. She seems to want some kind of purpose in her - at present, directionless - life. Whether that’s a low paid, high paid, or voluntary role, it doesn’t matter. She just seems to have a gaping hole in her life post-education sitting around achieving nothing at all. I think a lot of people here want that for her because she has the opportunities open to her and she always seemed to want to achieve something, before it all dwindled down to nothing.
Jess, is that you?
Yeah I'd feel the same about it if the genders were reversed, if they're being bankrolled by the other half's parent.
This. I wasn’t suggesting she get a 9-5. But she’s become chronically lazy & claims to be tired (pre pregnancy) while doing next to nothing. There are loads of things she do that would get her out if the house. Free tutoring etc. Or she could do some of her house herself.
I agree about the reliance, I think one of the most important things a woman can be is financially independent, but I also think people should be given a choice without judgement.
Yes!! But I'm totally getting vibes that she's read some comments about how she lacks charisma and that's her way of combatting it and being like 'hey I'm charismatic and appealing and entertaining'
I mean I’m hardly fawning over her or defending her? I just think all this “not fulfilling her potential/ not having a purpose” is projecting.
Speaking for myself, I definitely do judge women of this generation for relying on their husband’s career and income. Especially since you don’t know what life has in store for you. Come a divorce or husband loses his job (or worse) and you’re left with nothing. Plus, I do not like all the financial responsibility to be on one person. That makes it so hard if the one earning money is not happy in their job and wants a career change or something.
Tbh I would probably question it even more... a girl just giving up her job, moving in with her bf, and on his payroll in his house and therefore under his control.
Im not projecting. Tbh pre baby announcement she seemed lazy & bored as hell.
Yeah I'm feeling similar about more to life than labour and if she is happy fair enough. Though I think for me it's not that she doesn't work it's frustration of watching someone who could do anything just sit around reading all day. I have so many things I would love to do if I had the amount of money and spare time as she does. I'm not saying she should go get a 9-5 or do a PhD just for the sake of it but she hasn't even travelled much for someone in her position, even small trips round the UK could fill her time more and be interesting content. She could work with a charity in an interesting role and bring awareness to a cause. Tonnes of things there must be something else she is interested in surely? But maybe she is happy just mostly staying in the house reading which is fair enough but it just isn't relatable as to most people it isn't an option and even if it were it wouldn't fulfil most people. I know I would go insane with boredom and I love reading.
We are all free to decide how to spends our lives after all, and if she wants to be lazy and not do anything, it’s her rightI technically think the same - purely because I do have a busy life and career and would appreciate the downtime. But I know fine well that I’d be bored after a few weeks - maybe even before then - and itching to get back to doing something with my life.
