CONGRATSI am the OP and also pregnant! Due in Autumn. Very happy and excited and know that it is the right decision for us
Edit to say I quoted the wrong post. Sorry to hear that you can't have xx
CONGRATSI am the OP and also pregnant! Due in Autumn. Very happy and excited and know that it is the right decision for us
Edit to say I quoted the wrong post. Sorry to hear that you can't have xx
0-1 was the hardest for me because your whole life changes, but as someone mentioned above I still didnāt find it overly difficult. 1-2 and 2-3 we didnāt feel much difference at all!See I got told people found 1-2 harder than 2-3. But I would still worry, yes my boys would i both me at school if I had another? X
I married one of four (between him and his siblings, they produced 2!!) and my daughter did too! My husband was never affected by having only one child the way I was and when, after her first, my daughter suffered temporary infertility, my son-in-law was content with one, too! Thanks for the lovely reply xMy Mum was an only child so had 4, I obviously was 1 of those 4 and I had 1 as I wanted to give my child the time and attention that I never got. Out of the those 4, I have 1 child, y sister has 2 and the others have none. Maybe my Son will have 4 and repeat the cycle
This is my biggest driver, but on the other hand I also feel my daughter is extremely happy, so socialised by nursery/school, friends and cousins....if we were to struggle, would we risk her happiness (albeit maybe temporarily during the baby years)Having a sibling would be really good for you're child. I would never have just 1 child but that's just me
This sways me towards having more than one. Newborns and toddlers and even young kids are all-consuming, they will love you no matter what. When the kids get older and start pulling away from their parents I imagine that's when you might regret having only one. I have family friends with an only child. She rarely spends Christmas day with her parents and she may not have kids of her own, whilst they're desperate to be grandparents. They've put all their eggs in one basket. Writing that out, it sounds selfish, but the decision to have kids or not always involves personal considerations.Remember, babies are only little for a short while, although you will still be responsible for them til adulthood, they won't be little.
Don't think of live in terms of having more little ones , think of life a few years down the line with big kids/ adult children. See how that sways your decision. Whatever you choose, you just end up coping and getting on with it
I have 4. Everyone told me going from 2 to 3 was the hardest and I'd have to agree. My first 3 were all boys and very close together in age though. I had 3 kids under the age of 3 at one point, but yours are a much more manageable age for having a newborn.I have two boys aged 5 and nearly 2. I never wanted a third, but my only sibling has recently moved away and it has triggered me to want a third! I kind of feel like an only child. I also look after the elderly and as crazy as it sounds itās a lot of pressure for only children to look after their parents, which realistically when my parents are old it will be all on me as I live close to them. Can anyone tell me that had 3 children what the transition was like is it a good/bad idea? Our wedding has been cancelled for next year so we are getting married in 2022. If I get pregnant after my wedding I will be 32, my partner 30.
thank you!Congratulations
See I got told people found 1-2 harder than 2-3. But I would still worry, yes my boys would i both me at school if I had another? XI have 4. Everyone told me going from 2 to 3 was the hardest and I'd have to agree. My first 3 were all boys and very close together in age though. I had 3 kids under the age of 3 at one point, but yours are a much more manageable age for having a newborn.
i have one child and Iād love another, it actually scares me thinking she may be alone if I donāt have another! I admire the good relationships between siblings when theyāre like best friends. Me and my sister arenāt extremely close but she has helped me out when I needed it most, I donāt know what I would have done without her when I gave birth to my daughter, she was always there to help with anything and everything.This is my biggest driver, but on the other hand I also feel my daughter is extremely happy, so socialised by nursery/school, friends and cousins....if we were to struggle, would we risk her happiness (albeit maybe temporarily during the baby years)