Absolutely mealy mouthed words from the parents, and my heart goes out to the families of all the victims. I would be sickened to know that the parents did so much to obstruct AR getting help/locked up.
Reading this report from Oct 28th, the long screed the father sent to the Early Help team (I believe this was essentially a counselling service?) going
on and on about how they weren’t to share any information about AR to basically any other agency involved with him (youth offending team, social services, pupil referral unit etc) shows the parents - well the father at least - for what they are. All they cared about was keeping their son a dirty little secret. They didn’t want their family tainted by having a dangerous, violent and mentally ill teenage son.
I can only guess it’s the typical African (or indeed Asian) attitude that mental illness brings such shame to your family it’s best to brush it under the carpet and pretend nothing is happening.
My only question is who were they trying to hide it from? By all accounts they were quite an isolated family and they didn’t have other Rwandan families as friends, or anyone else for that matter.
The quote (note at the start he also alludes to withholding info about AR from the Early Help team but might disclose when he’s ready - controlling
wick):
The message stated: "As you are all aware, this service is voluntary. With the child and the family at the centre. When we feel comfortable, we can inadvertently or innocently (share) personal information that no other family shares, not to say that there is something sinister but because not necessary.
"Therefore we trust that you use your professional judgement not to share sensitive, irrelevant information with the youth offending team, social services, nor the school for that matter.
"We treat your service like the service of a counsellor, so we expect a high degree of confidentiality and sensitivity. AR can trust you and say stuff as a child, but we don't expect you to record or share some information with others that can turn our family upside down."
He added: "This is unbelievably important because we are not exchanging our family essence and dignity for some benefits that your organisation provides.
"It is a really sensitive field that my words cannot express. In other words we commissioned you to help us (that is between you and us only) and to help AR receive meaningful education and that is where the school comes in."
He added "I don't get why the youth offending team in charge of punishing AR has anything to do with your assessment report. They should know more than they need to see how their enforcement work and they don't need your input.
"Please don't involve them anymore. Also please share with Acorns (school) only part of the report they need to improve AR's education."
There's a couple of sites where links are automatically removed on tattle, explained for each one below. Hidden links - redirection links are removed as it needs to be clear where a user is being sent. Facebook story links - as they doxx the person that shared it. Try to post the photo or...
tattle.life
Edit: don’t know why Tattle isn’t allowing me to link to the Manchester Evening News
