It costs the person whose wedding it is as they’ve paid out for your place. A friend of mine stopped speaking to me when I didn’t attend her wedding, despite collapsing and having been found by my landlord slumped in the bathtub because I was so ill, as I cost them money. maybe she’s avoiding the bride & groom from losing out? Or she’s not as ill as she moans about? XxWhy is she going to a wedding if she's sick? Why would you want to go and pass it on? Selfish really.