She already has with another guy in our company
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Being a generally nice person I must remember to invoke my assertiveness training and rather than being astonished at someone's gall at the questions they ask, I need to reply with either a statement, e.g. using the word patronising or ask them why or what makes them say that.
Then continue to ask why or what to whatever answer they give, which usually ends up being long and rambling until they basically stfu with embarrassment.
Then continue to ask why or what to whatever answer they give, which usually ends up being long and rambling until they basically stfu with embarrassment.
Not sure people can see this but hoping so
So glad I’ve found this thread. I am happy being single since divorcing my husband after being together since we were young. Why people think you need a relationship to be happy?! I had 20 odd years of being controlled/abused so it’s a relief to be ON MY OWN! I have lots of friends and I do things that make me happy and content. If only certain people would accept that. Even if their intentions are good!
Men are cringe. Im waiting for a normal guy. The word is NORMAL.
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Romantic rships have been put on a pedestal. Other types of love can be just as fulfilling if not better..
THIS
a friend of mine follows a “funny” online dating twitter (where the woman outlines her adventures on bumble etc) and sent me a thread from there today like “lol the dream” - but as far as i could tell this woman had gone on a solo trip to spain and spent the whole time on tinder and arranging dates with locals. i mean, you do you but could NEVER be me. on holiday?! a waste! friend has already suggested that we do this when we go away later this year and i was like “……… no thank you.”
that’s one of the saddest things I’ve ever read.THIS
a friend of mine follows a “funny” online dating twitter (where the woman outlines her adventures on bumble etc) and sent me a thread from there today like “lol the dream” - but as far as i could tell this woman had gone on a solo trip to spain and spent the whole time on tinder and arranging dates with locals. i mean, you do you but could NEVER be me. on holiday?! a waste! friend has already suggested that we do this when we go away later this year and i was like “……… no thank you.”
there was a girl who was sadly murdered by a tinder date when she was backpack in New Zealand. Obviously really sad and I’m not victim blaming here but when I watched it I was curious as to why she was going on tinder and arranging dates during what imo is the opportunity of a lifetime.
This is so true! 🩷
a friend of mine wanted to do this when we were in chicago! i was like: girl, i’m here to see the sights, eat some great food and do some amazing shopping, not trawl through chicago tinder to see if a random american dude might be prepared to buy me a drink wtf?!
the thought would literally never cross my mind on holiday tbh.
No victim blaming but cmon
There are certain rules as women we gotta follow to protect ourselves. And I can’t understand the naïveté of some. Being alone with a man in an empty place, locked place, is dangerous. Point blank.
Going into his car is dangerous. Elevator, let alone appartment on the first date. If not even 6 date.
You have to know the person before doing things like that.
and for duck sake stop going in forrests alone. Stop walking in an alley alone. It’s sadly our reality that this is dangerous.
With dates for me it’s in a public place. And I dont go inside ur car, I dont go in ur place. I don’t know u dude. You can’t trust blindly just because he’s handsome or seems nice. Nah some people could hide dark sides. How do u think Dahmer got away with so much at first
And I can’t stand women not being able to say no. SAY NO. STOP BEING SHY OR SCARED. NO ONE CAN EVER TELL U WHAT TO DO LIKE CMON. Stop being intimidated by men. Seriously. Enough. I hate hearing stories of women thinking they HAVE TO do xyz. YOU DONT. You don’t have to do tit. And if u force urself because u r scared of being alone, IT’S BETTER than being with an abuser or mole. I mean cmon have some self respect. Be tough.
but at the end of the day you do what u want Im just saying I wish things changed with women.
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My pet peeve are women obsessing over men. Obsessing over boyfriends. All they talk about. Then once they date they kinda dont hang out with u. They take 383838 pics, they post it online with a cringy ass long paragraph about how this is the love of their lives. Then when things go south they obsess, they act like they are now a « bad witch » but they’re not. They need a new boyfriend very soon or they might die. F***k off. I don’t have time for that
RIGHT?! You want to know insider secrets on a place ask a taxi driver, a waiter, a hotel reception, the maid, literally anyone… you don’t need tinder
No victim blaming but cmon
There are certain rules as women we gotta follow to protect ourselves. And I can’t understand the naïveté of some. Being alone with a man in an empty place, locked place, is dangerous. Point blank.
Going into his car is dangerous. Elevator, let alone appartment on the first date. If not even 6 date.
You have to know the person before doing things like that.
and for duck sake stop going in forrests alone. Stop walking in an alley alone. It’s sadly our reality that this is dangerous.
With dates for me it’s in a public place. And I dont go inside ur car, I dont go in ur place. I don’t know u dude. You can’t trust blindly just because he’s handsome or seems nice. Nah some people could hide dark sides. How do u think Dahmer got away with so much at first
And I can’t stand women not being able to say no. SAY NO. STOP BEING SHY OR SCARED. NO ONE CAN EVER TELL U WHAT TO DO LIKE CMON. Stop being intimidated by men. Seriously. Enough. I hate hearing stories of women thinking they HAVE TO do xyz. YOU DONT. You don’t have to do tit. And if u force urself because u r scared of being alone, IT’S BETTER than being with an abuser or mole. I mean cmon have some self respect. Be tough.
but at the end of the day you do what u want Im just saying I wish things changed with women.
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My pet peeve are women obsessing over men. Obsessing over boyfriends. All they talk about. Then once they date they kinda dont hang out with u. They take 383838 pics, they post it online with a cringy ass long paragraph about how this is the love of their lives. Then when things go south they obsess, they act like they are now a « bad witch » but they’re not. They need a new boyfriend very soon or they might die. F***k off. I don’t have time for that
THIS!
and also, i felt it was rude at to me? we were on holiday together, just the two of us, and you want to spend your time trawling tinder?! i was like, girl, i am boring you that much? i’ll go by myself next time
how insecure must you be that you can’t even go on a holiday with your mate without needing male attention
THIS!
and also, i felt it was rude at to me? we were on holiday together, just the two of us, and you want to spend your time trawling tinder?! i was like, girl, i am boring you that much? i’ll go by myself next time
I went on a trip to NYC last month and many of my colleagues were horrified to hear I was going ALONE
Who would I spend time with, eat at restaurants with, travel with? ME! I love my own company, and I got to do what I wanted, when I wanted! I tried lobster for the first time, went to some of the same shops multiple times (without annoying anyone else), got lots of uninterrupted sleep.I also made great friends with a couple of fellow solo travellers at the airport when we found out our flight was delayed by 14 hours!! We spent time chatting and eating together, and it's something I certainly wouldn't have done if I was travelling with someone else. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely or can't have a good time
I am so tempted to go on holiday on my own this year. I can’t decide between a city break or a fly and flop holidayI went on a trip to NYC last month and many of my colleagues were horrified to hear I was going ALONE
I also made great friends with a couple of fellow solo travellers at the airport when we found out our flight was delayed by 14 hours!! We spent time chatting and eating together, and it's something I certainly wouldn't have done if I was travelling with someone else. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely or can't have a good time
this is amazing and you have inspired meI went on a trip to NYC last month and many of my colleagues were horrified to hear I was going ALONE
I also made great friends with a couple of fellow solo travellers at the airport when we found out our flight was delayed by 14 hours!! We spent time chatting and eating together, and it's something I certainly wouldn't have done if I was travelling with someone else. Being single doesn't mean you are lonely or can't have a good time
i’ve been wanting to go to vancouver for a long while but no friends are able to go (for a variety of reasons) - i think i might just bite the bullet and DO IT. life’s too short.
I'm happily single and can't see it changing for a while. Maybe it's the men I've been out with but I really couldn't care less about their prowess at a range of sports, I just want someone who pulls their weight at home without expecting a medal.
A decent bloke with a sense of humour who can look after himself and doesn't look like Shrek seems hard to find.
A decent bloke with a sense of humour who can look after himself and doesn't look like Shrek seems hard to find.
Book the holiday!! I’ve been on 3 holidays by myself and loved it. Twice to Goa - part of the holiday was at a yoga retreat so lots of people to talk to and then last October I went to Ibiza. It was great, planned something for each day. Got talking to another woman at a yoga class who was on her own and we went out for dinner that night across the island and shared a paella! Something I wouldn’t have been able to do on own. On my final night got chatting to an older couple in a restaurant and had a few drinks with them. Then on the other nights I was a hermit and in my room watching Netflix by 9pm or out drinking cocktails listening to podcasts/ reading my book. It was great and if I didn’t plan these things I wouldn’t never have gone anywhere and I love a holiday.
I’m off to Tenerife with a friend next month and I’m actually worried how I’m going to cope being with her 24/7 as I’m so used to being alone.
I’m off to Tenerife with a friend next month and I’m actually worried how I’m going to cope being with her 24/7 as I’m so used to being alone.
Maybe you could split up and go off and do your own things if she’s comfortable with that? I think it would drive me mad being with someone 24/7
I’ve done a lot of solo travel in the past and I really enjoy it as it’s a great way to meet like minded people. I still have really good friends who I’m still intouch with.
There is a thread for those that are interested in solo trips/travel:
Solo travel advice & recommendations
Hoping someone on here is / has been brave enough to go on holiday alone and can give me some tips! I haven't been on holiday at all for about 5 years for various reasons plus of course the pandemic. My husband doesn't like going abroad (won't fly, everything else is too much hassle for him &...
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I would definitely be up for that but I don’t think she would. Shes can’t even go for a coffee by herself but we’ll see.Maybe you could split up and go off and do your own things if she’s comfortable with that? I think it would drive me mad being with someone 24/7
Solo travel advice & recommendations
Hoping someone on here is / has been brave enough to go on holiday alone and can give me some tips! I haven't been on holiday at all for about 5 years for various reasons plus of course the pandemic. My husband doesn't like going abroad (won't fly, everything else is too much hassle for him &...tattle.life
Cool, will take a look!