Thank you to everyone for your thoughtful replies to my post about being single and unable to drive. You’ve given me a lot to think about and helped me realise most of the problem is in my head! For every problem, there is a solution…
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So I am single by choice, in that I've not met anyone & unwilling to settle. Anyway, I'm usually quite miserable about being single 
however I was at my friend's recently, she's got 4 kids with her partner and he does naff all. Wouldn't even make her a cuppa or watch the kids when she felt a migraine coming on! If she doesn't clean it, it doesn't get cleaned, if she doesn't watch the kids, they run riot. She also works and is at college, (she's 27 not a teenager) and he doesn't work, one of those who won't get a job. They rarely have sex and I just think gosh, I may do it all because I'm a single mum, but I'd much rather that than someone who could help me but chooses not to
however I was at my friend's recently, she's got 4 kids with her partner and he does naff all. Wouldn't even make her a cuppa or watch the kids when she felt a migraine coming on! If she doesn't clean it, it doesn't get cleaned, if she doesn't watch the kids, they run riot. She also works and is at college, (she's 27 not a teenager) and he doesn't work, one of those who won't get a job. They rarely have sex and I just think gosh, I may do it all because I'm a single mum, but I'd much rather that than someone who could help me but chooses not to
@Thank(space)you I have a fair few friends in an older age bracket and their husbands are quite frankly useless. Helpless, hanging around their wives (they have no friends!), expecting mummy/wife to sort everything as they lament their wicks becoming obsolete in the market.
I've visited and while chatting, in comes the man of the house to remind mummy/wife that it's feeding time
God forbid they might have to make themselves a sandwich!
Ooh and how they come alive when the conversation turns to high blood pressure, cholesterol medications & sorting out the country. I could go on, but believe me I enter my home (a single spinster
) and raise my hands to the sky. Yippee, I'm free.
I've visited and while chatting, in comes the man of the house to remind mummy/wife that it's feeding time
God forbid they might have to make themselves a sandwich!
Ooh and how they come alive when the conversation turns to high blood pressure, cholesterol medications & sorting out the country. I could go on, but believe me I enter my home (a single spinster
) and raise my hands to the sky. Yippee, I'm free.
A shout out to anyone in this thread who is spending Christmas alone.
It may feel like the perfect day, no rows or arguments, no one fighting over whats on tv. There’s no criticism, you can eat as much food as you want and spend the whole day eating all your favourite chocolates, but it can still be a struggle.
Merry Christmas and much love to you all.
It may feel like the perfect day, no rows or arguments, no one fighting over whats on tv. There’s no criticism, you can eat as much food as you want and spend the whole day eating all your favourite chocolates, but it can still be a struggle.
Merry Christmas and much love to you all.
If you have any doubts about being single, have a look at all the useless husband threads on Mumsnet at this time of year. Makes me glad to be solo!
Happy Christmas to everyone 
I won't comment on your other reasons but as a now-adult child of parents who "stayed together for the kids", I beg you not to do this to them or to yourself. They don't deserve the responsibility of your unhappiness, they may want to see their parents together happy but I haven't seen one person who grew up in this situation and said "Boy I'm glad my mother/father suffered for years just to give a cracked illusion of a relationship while increasingly resenting each other and themselves, and I was the reason why." You aren't helping them, and growing up in a separated but calm and content household is better than constantly seeing signs of lack of love or resentment every day. Separation or divorce is painful but you'll be doing them a service in the long run by reclaiming your own life. Otherwise they are just learning that staying in an unhappy relationship for the convenience of having a car with a driver (?) is an option. If you wouldn't want to see your children repeating the same pattern with their lives, please don't do it to yourself either. You deserve to be happy and content and free.
Happy Valentines day you lovely lot!! (And New Year by the looks of things...)
What's the consensus on today? Personally I actually really love Valentines - I see it as an opportunity to celebrate love, which comes in many formats! I send cards to my close friends and my parents letting them know how much I love and appreciate them.
No romance planned of course, but I'm off to the cinema with some girlfriends this evening
Hope you all get the chance to talk to a loved one today - if not, you've got us! 
What's the consensus on today? Personally I actually really love Valentines - I see it as an opportunity to celebrate love, which comes in many formats! I send cards to my close friends and my parents letting them know how much I love and appreciate them.
No romance planned of course, but I'm off to the cinema with some girlfriends this evening
Hope you all get the chance to talk to a loved one today - if not, you've got us! 
happy valentine’s dayHappy Valentines day you lovely lot!! (And New Year by the looks of things...)
What's the consensus on today? Personally I actually really love Valentines - I see it as an opportunity to celebrate love, which comes in many formats! I send cards to my close friends and my parents letting them know how much I love and appreciate them.
No romance planned of course, but I'm off to the cinema with some girlfriends this evening
i celebrate my friends and the folks i love today too: have sent so many soppy messages this morning. it shouldn’t be a holiday just for romantic love, love comes in so many forms!!
have a wonderful day you lovely people. treat yourself to something nice. i, and my “i deserve a little treat” lifestyle, already have
xxx
I think it’s more common than we think- I know it’s a marketing tool, but all I’m seeing on social media is about Galentine’s and self care etcHappy Valentines day you lovely lot!! (And New Year by the looks of things...)
What's the consensus on today? Personally I actually really love Valentines - I see it as an opportunity to celebrate love, which comes in many formats! I send cards to my close friends and my parents letting them know how much I love and appreciate them.
No romance planned of course, but I'm off to the cinema with some girlfriends this evening
I’m a miserable fecker because it isn’t for me. Hate it all and not because I’m single.
I’m celebrating Valentines Day by giving extra love to my cat
I'm single by choice in 40's.
I just can't be doing with a relationship.
I just can't be doing with a relationship.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all the singles on this thread
I got up this morning in a fab mood. Wore red to work with black, heart earrings. Spent time that I don't actually have making sure I acknowledged and had a good chat to all colleagues I crossed paths with. Sent my daughter a lovely Valentine's message. Home for a nice tea and now sitting here listening to chilled music with a scented candle burning. Lots of love to me from me!
Felt sorry for colleagues who were disappointed not getting anything from their partners.
Felt sorry for colleagues who were disappointed not getting anything from their partners.
I like that Valentine's Day seems to be becoming more about loved ones in general than romantic partners. I've had a lovely day! My work gave us all cupcakes, I gifted my Grandma a new book, sent nice messages to my closest friends telling them how much I loved them and my Dad sent me a box of chocolates
You really don't need a partner to have a fulfilling well-loved life!
and my Dad sent me a box of chocolates You really don't need a partner to have a fulfilling well-loved life!
Well I had a smear test today which is the most action I've had in a long time. Take this as a reminder to everyone to book your smears, and have a very happy Valentine's day!
What a joy it is to be living in peace on Valentine's Day! 
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I've always been at my happiest single. Took me a while to realise being single is ok and brilliant too.
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I've always been at my happiest single. Took me a while to realise being single is ok and brilliant too.
I've only ever had galentines, never had a Valentine. I don't have any friends for galentines this year so I just sent 
to my parents/siblings.
to my parents/siblings.