I can see the very human side of wanting a particular gender, I’ll be honest I really wanted a girl and before I got pregnant I had to give myself a very serious talking to about a baby being a baby and that gender disappointment was not cool. As it turned out, I did have a girl but honestly, when it came down to it I soon realised I didn’t really care either way, I just wanted a healthy and safe baby.I always think gender selection or keeping going until you get a .... is terrible. The pressure on the child to conform to its gender expectations must be huge, and thats before you look at favouritism and "golden child" syndrome.
Also, irrelevant but even at 2 and a half years old my daughter naturally has more stereotypically “boy” interests - she loves busses, planes, trains, tractors etc, loves rough and tumble play, refuses to wear skirts or dresses and says her favourite colour is green. She showed a slight interest in Frozen so I bought her an Elsa dress and she will not go near it! It just goes to show, gender really isn’t important at all and each child will have their own interests and ways to express themselves male or female.
it’s totally ok to “want” a certain gender but for me, going down the gender selection or popping them out until you get a certain gender just doesn’t sit right.