She claims that he gets fed at nursery before home time and that he’s never hungry when he gets in.....
Well yes, I’m sure he does get something to eat at nursery at 4.30ish.... but he doesn’t get picked up until what,6pm?6.30pm? And then by the time he’s home again it’s near 7. Even if she gave him some cereal or banana on toast or a toastie or just anything. And just include him in family life - give him something on a plate to eat and a drink and encourage him to sit at the table and engage in conversation with them. They don’t do anything to help his social development at all, that’s why he’s so unruly and won’t sit still at a table - it’s because they never enforce anything and instead of actually putting boundaries in place they take the easy route and let him and isla do whatever. That’s why the kids are always jumping around and playing up during meal times or at bed time.