Samantha Ravndahl

[Lemonz]

Fairly certain she said she was going to try and remain as gender neutral as possible... not non-binary. And just to clear up a common misconception, raising a child gender neutral does not mean the kid doesnt know what sex they are, it just means not forcing gender norms on them by (for example) only buying pink princess shit for a girl, or telling a girl she's pretty all the time and never valuing her effort or learning and making sure to role model more neutral thinking around them (being careful to not comment on other peoples bodies, or trying not to fall into stereotypical mom = caregiver dad = worker roles at home)
Its not a new concept in the slightest.
There are people out there who are unfortunately not that bright and do try and raise their kids without the kids knowing what sex they are because they want to be inclusive but dont really have the critical thinking skills to understand that referring to your child as they/them from birth really doesnt matter conpared to a lifetime of good role model behaviour and mindful parenting so that a child is comfortable in themselves.
These are the people who end up reinforcing gender stereotypes as in a desperate attempt to be inclusive they reinforce the message that if you are a boy who likes 'pink stuff' you must be trans or non binary - which means you're reinforcing the message that you cant just be a man who likes those things!
Il get off my soapbox now.

 

[Rosie34567-2]

In my opinion...
Matt and Sam both suck. They are both so incredibly selfish, immature and narcissistic.

Matt:
-Sucks for acting like a man-child and relapsing
-Sucks for acting as if Sam made him get married and have kids, which is such BS since it takes two to tango
-Sucks for being a terrible father and husband
-Sucks for not giving a crap about his pregnant wife's safety (covid, not going to the hospital with her, etc.)

Sam:
-Sucks for putting all of this on her youtube channel for the world (and her children!) to see.
-Sucks for intentionally getting pregnant with baby #2, despite knowing it was a bad idea to bring another kid into that situation. Seriously, WTF.
-Sucks for staying married to Matt. It's all for her own ego. Let's be real, it would be best for the kids if they separated.
-Sucks for marrying Matt in the first place (tbh none of his behavior is that shocking, she just ignored the red flags).

 

[Simba88]

When I was pregnant I was absolutely terrified that baby would get here and I would massively regret it. I an not one of those people who longed to have a baby my whole life, I was worried that I would wish for my old life back and hate being a mum.

I was quite vocal about this as I am not the sort to keep things to myself and I wanted my friends and family to reassure me. I actually wish more people spoke up about these fears as it is probably more common than you realise but it is not considered acceptable to talk about.

2 years later and I adore my son more than anything else in life and I would never wish for my life without him. I’m sure Samantha will be the same.

ps. It is also fine to mourn your old life a little, you do give up being able to be selfish as a mother. It is totally worth it but it doesn’t mean you miss lay ins, nights out, summer holidays without screaming toddlers etc

 

[Qwerty333]

What an idiot, though. Putting herself and baby in danger.

 

[donutwitch]

so with all her health issues, she decides to move to an island with no hospital? lol

That whole video my jaw was on the floor at her poor decision-making. I do feel for her with the pregnancy fears and stress she’s been through, but she seems to have awful judgement.

Firstly, trying for another baby and falling pregnant *while* your spouse is relapsing on a serious drug addiction?!
2) Having a very difficult and scary pregnancy that requires bi-weekly ultrasounds, also trying to repair your rocky marriage, and thinking that’s a sensible time to move house (one of the most stressful things you can do)
3) THEN moving to a house on an island without a hospital which would require a ferry journey or a helicopter if you have any more serious pregnancy complications?!

Also, her friend Alyssa lived with her at Matt for the first few years of their marriage, and now after less than a year of finally being alone, she’s moving her parents onto their property… I’m sure the extra help will be nice but it doesn’t sound great for their marriage, it’s a bit weird.

 

[blaze19]

She said she is raising "them" non binary

Shes referred to the baby several times as “them” more so because she just hadn’t mentioned the gender, she never said directly that they were bringing them up non-binary

 

[Lemonz]

Honestly she said in a video that she's not great at expressing her emotions about stuff but its very very very clear that she's reluctant about this baby and i just really hope it works out okay for her. I've never understood her and Matt, especially after that video where she went into great detail about how much they fought and argued and nearly broke up (or actually broke up? Cant remember) and the timeline of stuff made it seem like they were having huge issues even a few mknths before they got engaged.

 

[Lilas]

The part that took my breath away was when Matt said he visited his divorced friends and their situation convinced him to pursue reconciliation. Wow. Bonus points: the video ended when he said he couldnt listen to her anymore. Like dude she barely talked?!??!! What a self-centered a**hole.

He really doesn't like her. I'm not sure why they're still together. He came back for himself and how divorce would affect him, not her or the kids. Tale as old as time.

 

[youguyzzz]

I like Sam and I really feel sorry for her in this whole situation having an actual baby, another on the way and then some therapised man baby trying to turn your life upsidedown misusing prescription drugs

I'm not sure why this video was necessary... He looked uncomfortable and I feel like she didn't need to share all this with the public?

 

[firecracker]

Man, what a bummer it came to that— but honestly good for her for setting up boundaries. She doesn’t need this shit right now. I honestly feel like she’d be way happier if she moved to a full time offline job.

 

[CalatheaLater]

I'll try and recap as much as I can remember, stuff might be a bit over the place

• In November Matt relapsed (I didn't know that he was an alcoholic and had previously been in rehab for this) and this led to problems in their marriage, they were arguing all the time and got so far as seeing family lawyers and getting paperwork in order for divorce. Matt moved out (by the sounds of it, not for long)
• Sam found out she was pregnant around this time, after they had been trying for ~10 months
• CW: bleeding during pregnancy Sam had a variety of different levels of bleeding in her early pregnancy, ranging from bleeding to clotting to what seemed like tissue, she went to the ER 2 times and both times they reassured her that the baby was fine but that she had a low lying placenta (I think) and another condition that meant that she was bleeding. At one point when she was driving herself to the hospital she was fully convinced that she had miscarried
• While this was happening, Matt was not living with her. He came to visit and ended up testing positive for Covid, which Sam and their kid also caught. By the sounds of it he has stayed living with them since then
• Sam got some tests carried out on the advice of her midwife, it turns out that she has placenta previa and a shortened cervix from her leep procedure. She is taking progesterone to combat the shortened cervix and is having ultrasounds every 2 weeks
• Baby is due at the start of Sept!
• Her and Matt are back together and seem to be happy

 

[Qwerty333]

This was bound to happen and she didn’t take any steps to prevent it. She should’ve been staying at an Airbnb on the mainland instead of waiting for ferries when you’re having contractions! Wtf. Her decision-making in all areas of her life is questionable.

 

[Realhousemouse]

Has she posted the birth story anywhere yet? I’m so impatient and curious

She did a live and detailed it there. Basically she didn’t think she was in full labour and they left it too late reaching out for help so the paramedics came and took her on a boat off the island but she gave birth at when they reached the other side. Thankfully everything was fine but the two of them do seem be a clusterfuck imo.

 

[notahaterjustatruthseeker]

She is actually insufferable. Her birth video raised so many red flags. I know a lot of people blame Matt mostly because he is a drug addict but I don’t think it is fair. Just because Sam isn’t an addict does not mean she is not responsible for the breakdown in their marriage too. She seems to be incapable of taking any responsibility and plays it off by mocking or laughing about it.

She blames the one midwife for telling her she wouldn’t give birth on the island yet decided to ignore all the other midwives who told her otherwise. Her apparent ignorance of delivery symptoms and playing it off seems childish especially living on an island. Her carelessly leaving in how matt spoke to the 911 operator is awful, she clearly didn’t care how he spoke to them cause if she did she would’ve said so and to me it shows the kind of people they are.

Just her general attitude towards medical personnel says a lot! I remember in her previous videos how she went on about how this nurse didn’t do this and the breastfeeding specialist didn’t do that, the problem is not them it is sam!

 

[xoxo_a]

Did she delete her Twitter?

I’ve just read that she did. Someone tweeted at her saying she should’ve shared the sex and name of the baby because her audience was invested, then someone else posted a picture of the baby with the name and sex taking from her husbands private Instagram account. While I’d like to know the name, I don’t feel like harassing her for it!

 

[Qwerty333]

Sooo crazy. This is a disaster in the making. Based on the details she gave, they moved to Galiano island. Could be Bowen too, but I doubt they could afford anything there. Either way, for any issues or medical visits she’d have to take a ferry to Vancouver or Victoria or a plane.

One or both of them sound bipolar, actually. This is extremely poor and rash decision-making. Has she ever actually lived a long enough time on a small island to see what it’s like. Living there and visiting are two completely different things. I don’t think they’ll survive there long-term. Frankly, I don’t think their marriage will survive this either.

 

[Lemonz]

There were points in that video that HAD to be a subtle poke at rawbeautykristi - specifically the stuff about birth plans, (as Sam was rightly like 'well they never go to plan anyway so') and doing loads of research before baby arrives etc (Sam saying you get yourself tighter wound by doing SO MUCH research)

But like... she kept mentioning mourning her old life and getting used to the fact that part of her life was over... i found it very telling at one point she touched on a conversation she'd had with Matt where she she says 'i was trying to explain this to Matt...'which was her trying to explain to him that as he's older he's had more 'fun' years than her pre-baby. I honestly think if they werent together she wouldnt be having kids for another 10 years if ever. I know she struggles with her mental health and has discussed that she's not hugely comfortable showing her emotions but this is something else, she just wasnt ready for a baby. Does anyone listen to the podcast? Is she hopefully a bit more relaxed on there and maybe might sound more pleased?

Oh and the bit where she talks about not stopping work on Auric. I would have zero issue with this if it wasnt for the way she said it... like she was trying to pretend it wasnt really happening or irritated that the baby would get in the way?

Im actually really sad for her, i hope this is just her communication style because how scary if not.

 

[donutwitch]

Sam's just posted a story to say she’s had the baby…. made it to the mainland but didn’t make it to the hospital in time.

Apparently everyone is fine thankfully, but she is really lucky that’s the case.

 

[thedevilactuallywearsLV]

The part that took my breath away was when Matt said he visited his divorced friends and their situation convinced him to pursue reconciliation. Wow. Bonus points: the video ended when he said he couldnt listen to her anymore. Like dude she barely talked?!??!! What a self-centered a**hole.

 

[houdini]

I really appreciate how she’s not sharing her baby online. As much as I’d love to see them and know their name etc, I actually think it’s so admirable in this day and age of over sharing on social media. Good on her.