Sam was literally pushed into having a kid though, it’s literally what happened. She would always get Q&A questions about it like a year or two before having Indie and she always seemed v clear and adamant that it was something she wanted many years down the line. Then enter The Michalaks. Jason developed a weird friendship with Stef Michalak (more of a hero worship type thing) and as a result they all started hanging out as two couples. Jason started emulating Stef’s filming style and also became obsessed with having a child (I guess to further emulate them)?
So they stopped using contraception in a kind of, if it happens it happens kind of way. Although Sam did continue drinking which is why I don’t see it as them really sincerely trying for a baby and more so just Sam bowing to Jason’s demands. And ofcourse as we know she did get pregnant, and was absolutely miserable the whole way through and for long after the birth. She put it all down to hormones but honestly I also think it was not actually wanting a child yet. Plus the fact that Jason was absolutely the driving factor behind it and was then too depressed to actually take a hands on role and ‘didn’t even love his baby for the first few months’. I’d have been miserable too.
Ultimately Jason felt lacking in his life and thought a child would give things meaning. When it didn’t he mentally checked out and left Sam to deal. Do they love their child? Obviously, but are they both totally loving devoted parents, eh. At the end of the day Indie comes across as happy, healthy and taken care of which is more than can be said for many many children. She’s also not the first child to be born to parents who weren’t ready to be parents and she won’t be the last. Ultimately it’s sad that Sam so desperately needs to be partnered up that she has put up with Jason for so long. I know gossip forums can be nit picky towards YouTube bf/husbands but in this case it’s completely justified. No one likes him not youtube subbies, not us, not even her own family! The wrong partner will literally drain your life and that’s what we’ve seen happen to Sam bit by bit over the years.
The way his anxieties would force her to leave trips and events early, his weird snide digs towards her. How to tried to take over her channel and how he has alienated her followers. I even remember how much she used to subtweet about him never doing any household chores and how exhausted she was - and this was long before they had a child together! Honestly his joblessness wouldn’t even bother me so much if he was a sweetheart and super fun to be around. Or okay, be mean and annoying but pull your weight! The fact that he is neither yet she insists on being with him is mind boggling to me.
At the end of the day the boom years are long gone. Sam’s career is only going to get more difficult. As someone further up put beautifully ‘she had fans in the way all young beautiful women have fans’. There is nothing of substance or real talent in what Sam does. She hopped onto YouTube at the perfect time, and solidified herself by being a pretty girl with naturally tan skin and green eyes. Her style as an early 20 something was cool and fun. Now almost a decade later the landscape is saturated beyond belief and there are 1000s of women doing the same thing. Sam never really had much presence or a striking personality so she can’t cash in on that either. She is staunchly resistant to transitioning into a mummy/family vlogger (and good for her!). So at this point it’s just hoping the goodwill of old loyal subbies remains or her platform will disappear in the next couple or years. And the fact that she has to deal with this reality coupled with an awful partner at home, no wonder she’s been mentally spiralling.
So many high profile youtube divorces have been happening recently, Nikki Perkins, Naptural85! And I know she follows Nikki and I’m glad she does. To know that she can be enough and in fact is enough on her own! That there can be more to life. I think trying to divorce a guy like Jason (and being tied to him forever regardless due to a shared child) is not an enviable position. But a single Sam would honestly be a beautiful sight. It’s a shame she never took time after Ricky (at the peak of her career no less!) to just be alone and focus on herself instead or accommodating the whims or yet another selfish and difficult man.
