I have so many problems with this for two reasons. The first is being a bit naughty at three is normal. I have never met a three year old who doesn't at some point push their boundaries. You don't know how to NOT push boundaries until you DO. Secondly, the reaction of the teacher was (to me) perfectly normal. The sight of three three year olds about to jump out of a window would make me shout too out of fear and to regain control. Even at three, you as the adult have to assert authority. The fact of whether or not Ruby jumped out of the window is fuzzy so that probably means she didn't do it. The school would HAVE to tell her parents if she did that as a safeguarding issue and you can bet your bottom dollar, if she had jumped put of a window, her parents would remember it. The fact this teacher never came back is very odd to me. She was fired? For what, having a normal human reaction to children in danger? That's very very strange.
As I have said before, I am a pre-school teacher and this is so far off base, I'm legit amazed at this. Firstly, being in nursery at age three is quite usual as in the UK, children go to school the school year after their fourth birthday. Some unfortunate children who are born in September are only a few weeks away from five when they start so Ruby going to pre-school at three is not unusual at all.
The ethos of Early Years is to create an environment where learning through play is the norm. Ruby says she was only in nursery for three days before this happened so she was still settling in. Settling in is actually a vital part of the journey a child takes in pre-school. It is where a child learns the routines, what is expected of them and slowly gets to know people. If on the third day of pre-school, Ruby jumped out of a window and ran around with no thought of how an adult would react, I think that is indicative that Ruby had no boundaries as a very young child. She was centre of attention, apple of Mummy's eye, doing ballet, used to being filmed and followed around. Ruby is the star of the show. Ruby is in control. How typical.
So, then she goes on to say that this is the worst thing she's ever done and her mother told her the teacher was fired when she was seven. My question is why? Did she tell her just to tell her or was she telling her as a cautionary tale so Ruby would see how out of control she was and how she needed to stop pushing her boundaries creating guilt, a desire to please and to do her best to atone for such behaviour? That's mad!
When she talks about her "detention" (you don't give three year olds detention - it's pointless!), it's the next day which is a waste of time because it's been and gone. If they were going to give her time out, it needed to be when the incident happened. Sit her down, explain why she had to sit still and then give her no attention. To do it the next day is beyond pointless. Sitting inside drawing pictures isn't a punishment. It's a play activity. It doesn't give any indication to the child that they are being admonished for poor choices. Something about this does not add up to me at all.
It reminds me of Taylor Swift's lyrics in her song, seven -
Please picture me in the weeds
Before I learned civility
I used to scream ferociously
Any time I wanted
Three year olds are supposed to push their boundaries and adults are supposed to correct them. This video is so worrying to me because Ruby should not feel guilty for how she was as a child. We are what we are but moreover, it is bizarre and worrying that the guilt from this is still with her fifteen years later. It's just more proof that her spirit was kind of broken by the weight of expectations and demands.