Ruby Granger #15 Dustcore

[emmer_moans]

Okay this is a couple of pages back now but I am in this EXACT position and my parents live about 8 miles away from RoOoObee's CoTtAgE. I would never be able to afford to rent in my home village, let alone buy. My mum was born and raised there, my grandad was born and raised there, his family was born and raised there etc etc. Yet my brother and I are totally priced out. For context, a fucking 4-room (not 4-bedroom, 4 room) old people's bungalow thing (literally tiny kitchen, tiny living room, tiny bedroom, tiny bathroom) a street over from my parents recently sold for £500,000. Half a fucking million for FOUR ROOMS. And it is directly people like Reuben Sandwich and her fucking filthy rich Tory parents who are the cause. My tiny little traditional Bucks village (where the older people still speak in the Buckinghamshire accent) is being gentrified to FUCK because it's a 'commuter' hub, or because people want houses on their property portfolio that they can rent for extortionate prices.

/endrant

That's such a shame

 

[passiflorae]

I'm not going to waste 40 precious minutes of my life knowing in advance that her bookshelves follow a stupidly aesthetic order (although I don't know what kind of aesthetics include a Coraline doll next to Dickens). Let me know if she's removed the "In the Kitchen" book from the classics and "Far from the Madding Crowd" from contemporaries, that's all I ask

 

[Saskia69]

I had a scroll through her website and saw the description for “Mina’s meal planner” - is it just me who finds it bizarre that there is no mention of this being a collaboration, or even specific mention of who Mina is?

It’s as if she just expects people to know, but what if someone found her website who isn’t a diehard follower of hers on social media?

The product/description itself also feels very clunky and not at all connected to the rest of her site. Right down to the fact it’s italicised - is that code for “collaboration?” Perhaps the code on her “master” to do list can tell us!

The final line also got me… it feels so random! For starters, surely the product dimensions should be front and centre, not phrased as a “also” afterthought. As for the “so sustainable” part… tell me that when you stop buying a new backpack every half term.

 

[i_wanna_see_pictures]

At the time when I clicked on the bookshelf tour video, the top comment is "Who needs therapy when you can binge watch Ruby's aesthetically pleasing videos." And Ruby liked it. Kind of indicative of how everything she says about mental health is just performative. (I know it's just a joke, but you all know what I mean.) When I started watching Ruby, I was in the midst of an eating disorder, and back then her content was not triggering for me at all. Now that I'm recovered, her channel is no longer safe and I have to remind myself that it isn't normal. She's disappointed me.

I'm new to this forum (have only been lurking for a week), and I was wondering if there has been discussion already about her comment section. It seems like _everything_ is positive, and given that this forum is so active, I find it kind of suspicious. There has to be more criticism from her viewers in the comments, right? Is she deleting negative comments? It's somehow hard to swallow that someone you looked up to as a young teenager is so performative, resistant to criticism, immature, and unaware. Sorry for the unproductive ramble haha

If you scroll down to the bottom there are usually some concerned people commenting about her triggering behaviour and weight loss

 

[phantomsbaebe]

Your thoughts and experience would be of more value to people than those of the study-tubers who try to present themselves as having perfect lives. They are doing a disservice to their many fans who think this is what to aim for. One of Ruby's followers recently wrote how perfect Ruby's life seems and hers is nothing like that as she is in another country without all the advantages Ruby has and cannot have a perfect life like that. Neither Ruby or her followers see the damage being done with this pretense of seeming "perfect."
I do remember when Ruby didn't get into Oxford, her parents did tell her it was good for her experience failure and redo her plans, etc. I wonder how aware they are of her current ED issues--sometimes it is hard to notice change when you see someone everyday and they are often wearing loose clothing. I have not been a regular viewer of the posts, but when I saw one from recent weeks where R. showed her morning routine--popping out of bed in her linen sleep shorts and camisole--I was stunned by how thin she had become--her legs were almost like sticks. Is it possible her parents are not aware? It is really past time for some intervention before the situation get worse.
I do enjoy the gossip here and the witty things posters say give me a much-needed laugh, but I do feel real concern for R., as I'm sure most posters do. The ramifications of ED can be very serious. R. reminds me a lot of VeganHolly who is also a high achieving ED type and in both cases I think social media has given them at outlet that prevents them from facing reality. They get money and praise and the illusion of many friends. H. barely seemed to interact with anyone in her 3 months in Australia, except for her instagram family and her mother through daily phone calls. She seemed very isolated at Cambridge too, which is sad---you just don't have these opportunities to meet so many new people once you are an adult and working.

I agree. I am also very concerned for Ruby. I have never had an eating disorder so I don't know what that feels like. I cannot imagine what that hell must entail. I do know, as a parent myself, that denial is incredibly easy when you deal with a child going through something worrying. I will not say what it was my own child was going through but it was only when it was pointed out to me in the most devastating and undeniable way that I was able to break through that denial and do what was necessary to help my child. Denial is addictive. It actively works against logic because logic is a painful, real and raw monster that demands an answer. Denial is nicer. Denial is easier. Denial lets you write the narrative.

For people like Ruby who live by the numbers and clicks and pats on the head, social media is the perfect storm and I agree that it does her no good to present her life as being perfect. I wish she had the guts to be so brave as to be truly real but to do that, she has to let go and be vulnerable enough to fall. Her personality type and her possible ED won't let her do that. It's so sad and I truly and sincerely hope she has a breakthrough soon and can get better.

 

[3calico3]

Omg did she actually go with the angle that the house is like, a way for her to overcome her anxiety of being alone? It's ridiculous

Yeah, I don't get how throwing yourself in at the deep end (and spending loads of money in the process) is actually going to help.

omfg you can tell I'm northern £1600 a month over here would get you a 3 bedroomed dethatched house. If she's still renting it out she won't need to worry about income, weird it would be available though given she's had it for so long unless the lease has ended recently

I imagine the tenancy ended recently, and she's maybe put the price up since the last tenant left - similar 1 bed properties in the same area aren't as expensive as that, and some actually have more amenities (and parking!).

 

[threeSMEGfridges]

Yeah, she would definitely benefit from having more desk space. In terms on stuff actually on the desk, both her and Holly's setups drive me crazy. They spend the whole day staring at a tiny 13 in screen and typing on that macbook butterfly keyboard everyone hates. In their vlogs, it's obvious that Ruby is constantly going back and forth between windows, and Holly split screens things so they are even tinier than they already were. Like if your whole life revolves around computers, spending some money to renovate your workspace would be a great investment. In Ruby's case, I bet her parents would gladly buy her a fancy external monitor for Christmas if she just asked.

that would be far more useful than a fortnums picnic basket!

 

[i_wanna_see_pictures]

Is this relevant to English literature? It sounds like the most boring topic in the world to me lol

It's definitely a niche topic, but I would be interested in seeing what she says about it. Although, if it's just a mumble-jumble of misused words I won't waste my time. Do undergrad dissertations get made public at all? (Apologies, not very familiar with how these things work, I'm a while away from it!)

 

[howaboutnot]

I am feeling a bit stupid right now as that is hoe ive always pronounced it! I’m also an English grad and my seminar tutor also pronounced it “ca-powt” (rhymes with goat).

So I did check online and the first three videos I came across also pronounced it like this. How is everyone else pronouncing it?

As he's from the US it's pronounced Capohtea or /kəˈpoʊti/ in case you're familiar with IPA. If not then hover over the letters and it *should* show the pronunciation. Here's a (self-described) friend of his introducing Capote on his talk show in 1972 . Other show hosts use the same pronunciation.

Another word that blew my mind when I learned the pronunciation of it was "Yosemite".

Maybe it's a British tendency to use the French pronunciation in these circumstances? ie. "-te" is pronounced, "t"? Please correct if I'm wrong as I've never actually studied English pronunciation.

 

[alligatorshades]

I couldn't find the cottage she bought when I searched on Google. Can anyone post a link? Given that it's a publicly available rental and she doesn't live there, I don't think it would be problematic to post it.

The let has been agreed but if you search Rightmove for 1 bed cottage in Little Missenden and include let agreed properties you should be able to find it for now

 

[Calla6]

I had another deep dive into Ruby's videos today and the more I watch her, I find that I have changed my view of her and I almost (and I hate to say this because I believe her to be a really good person at her core) pity her. She is a prisoner of her fear of failure and I cannot imagine how dark her feelings for herself and her place in the world can be if she paralyses her development into full adulthood with her very narrow and childlike view of the world. Yes, see the magic, see the beauty but don't be blinkered. We all need to grow up sometime.

I am nearly twenty years older than Ruby. I have lived a full life with a marriage, children and a whole other way of seeing life and my achievements. I am not academic. I think I could have done well at English actually as I love reading and analysis and I can just about string a sentence together but at the time, I was more interested in my boyfriend who is now my husband and father to our kids. I messed up my A Levels and didn't go to uni. I got a job, drifted into and out of them and then had my children which is an education all on its own. Once my kids were old enough, I decided to change my life and retrained to be a pre-school teacher. I love it and I actually think the path I took has led me here to what I am supposed to be.

What does any of this have to do with Ruby? Well, one of the fundamental things we teach children in pre-school is how to fall. What I mean by that is what do you do if you fall over? You assess the damage, you treat the wound and you learn a lesson. This can be taken literally or figuratively. This can be applied to running into things, learning how to manage your feelings, learning how to mend friendships if you fall out. The only way to learn is to make a mistake and try again until you know how not to fall in the first place.

Perfectionism is the war that occurs when a child fears the fall because shame becomes their teacher instead of the mistake. It is such a terribly self destructive, deeply damaging and pointless pursuit. I absolutely loathe how academia rewards and encourages people like Ruby to be this way. Yes, you'll get top marks and tick all the boxes and probably earn more money as a result but what has it cost you? You cannot live a life dependent on never ever making errors. It is completely unsustainable and unrealistic. To quote the incomparable and unmistakeably wise woman that is Taylor Swift "....if you never bleed, you're never gonna grow...". She's entirely right.

I have made mistakes in my life and I am so grateful I did. I am so glad I was so lazy as an 18 year old who thought she could do no work and pass. That girl was too immature and ignorant to survive university. I'm so glad I drifted from job to job with no purpose because I met so many different people from different backgrounds. I'm so glad I had my babies early because as exhausting as it was, I learned SO much from that. I learned from the inside how parents feel and cope with their lives which is a huge advantage in my job.

I'm rambling but to conclude, mistakes are the most necessary part of life.

You cannot avoid them, so embrace them.

Fall, bleed, grow.

It's alright now.....

Your thoughts and experience would be of more value to people than those of the study-tubers who try to present themselves as having perfect lives. They are doing a disservice to their many fans who think this is what to aim for. One of Ruby's followers recently wrote how perfect Ruby's life seems and hers is nothing like that as she is in another country without all the advantages Ruby has and cannot have a perfect life like that. Neither Ruby or her followers see the damage being done with this pretense of seeming "perfect."
I do remember when Ruby didn't get into Oxford, her parents did tell her it was good for her experience failure and redo her plans, etc. I wonder how aware they are of her current ED issues--sometimes it is hard to notice change when you see someone everyday and they are often wearing loose clothing. I have not been a regular viewer of the posts, but when I saw one from recent weeks where R. showed her morning routine--popping out of bed in her linen sleep shorts and camisole--I was stunned by how thin she had become--her legs were almost like sticks. Is it possible her parents are not aware? It is really past time for some intervention before the situation get worse.
I do enjoy the gossip here and the witty things posters say give me a much-needed laugh, but I do feel real concern for R., as I'm sure most posters do. The ramifications of ED can be very serious. R. reminds me a lot of VeganHolly who is also a high achieving ED type and in both cases I think social media has given them at outlet that prevents them from facing reality. They get money and praise and the illusion of many friends. H. barely seemed to interact with anyone in her 3 months in Australia, except for her instagram family and her mother through daily phone calls. She seemed very isolated at Cambridge too, which is sad---you just don't have these opportunities to meet so many new people once you are an adult and working.

 

[sleepypasta]

Confused millenial here. I thought dark academia means reading a lot/being interested in the classics (both music and literature). Or is it a literary genre of its own?

It’s an “aesthetic.” Like how y2k is considered an aesthetic now. Dark academia does revolve around literary stuff though.

 

[gossip_guy]

All the talk about Ruby's busywork has made me realize I do so much busywork.
Except that I usually retain things better by printing them out, so in a way it does make me more efficient at my job?

But do you then type up those printouts in 15 different system, handwrite them in 25 more, paint them in watercolour on dead flowers and etch them into the layers of dirt on your windowsill?

 

[dodadedo]

I mean, that's not wrong...

Also I love how they proudly announce it's a "sell out" brand, when there's nearly 1400 out of 2000 ribbons still in stock that they've struggled to sell to anyone, even at the reduced price of £1.

It's also not hard to sell out of stock when you only have very small quantities (1,000 planners in this case) and never restock.

Never restock, and never send to half your customers, it would seem...

 

[abcd22]

whatever talk she gave in that video, it obviously wasn't for one of her normal classes. she introduces herself as a second year english student according to her notion notes, which she wouldn't have to do in a class full of her english student peers. i assume it was some kind of extra lecture series exeter organised, accessible to all their students, and invited speakers to. in that context i think it's fair for ruby to introduce herself and explaining that she is an "influencer", as this is the norm for events like that, for speakers to say a few words about who they are. just wondering why exeter thought her being an influencer makes her equipped to speak on digital learning

 

[MGB01]

Indulge me please, for I cannot face watching 40 mins of a book shelf tour. How did she pronounce both Evelyn Waugh and Truman Capote?

I didn't hear her saying Evelyn Waugh but she said Truman cap-oht instead of cap-o-tay

 

[Deeznutslol]

"Oposiciones", as this girl says, are like public exams for Spain's administration. It's totally normal for someone who is pursuing these exams to expend 10-12 hours/day studying. So in this case I would say it's not "Ruby vibes" related haha

Oh shit I didn’t even read that, I just saw the study with me in summer title and was like WHAT!!!! Fair play then, my bad haha

 

[neina]

This annoys me so much those books aren't cheap.
I donated my first year books to the university who gave them to someone that was struggling financially
There's no way they could do that if I had scribbled all over them

exactly! Also, when moving/cleaning I give away a lot of the novels in my collection to local libraries/friends and give them a new life. Nobody will accept books which are written over like this, and she does that in her regular books as well, not only textbooks...While buying used books I get a lot of ones with notes written around in pencil, but usually in a way that doesnt go over the printed text, and you can either erease it or keep it, since writing in pencil is faint and doesn't disturb from reading much. What she does on the other hand, is just destroying those books in my opinion, they loose both their value and any aesthetics they may posses

Also,I didn't know about that brown noise thing, thanks guys! This is such a helpful tip, why hasn't any studytuber shared it earlier... Oh right, they don't face the same struggles as regular people who are studying lmao

 

[NorthernValkyrie]

She didn’t just give The Famous Five 2 out of 5 stars omgView attachment 725516

I used to read my parents’ old Famous Five books when I was a kid and I LOVED them.

How dare she?! How many children through how many generations have come to know and love literature through the Famous Five?
Perhaps she finds it triggering because George is a girl who doesn't have pigtails and prances around fields sipping tea from delicate china cups?

aaaand she's given The Song of Achilles 5 stars on Goodreads. No written review as of yet, presumably because she has no genuine thoughts about it... But oh look, it's gotten 273 likes, her next most liked recent update had 106. Imagine lying to get good engagement on your fucking goodreads account jfc

Did she manage to find a love of Greek mythology before not finishing it? I would say I look forward to seeing a well-written review by her on SoA, but I don't want hold my breath that long...

 

[lottie28]

lol I posted this in the Holly thread by accident, and I haven’t even had a drink yet Let’s try this again. I desire most respectfully to see your least flattering screenshots of Roobee and would like to open with one I call ”Just fucking swallow it like an adult!”

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Do you ever get to the stage of the day where you’ve drunk just too much water/tea and your throat just won’t swallow for a sec? (just me?)
This is what I always think when Roobee looks like this. Fits with the ED narrative of replacing food with empty liquid too.