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[Truthslayer]

Oh here we go with a humble brag disguised as support for breastfeeding post. Is she competing with Lucy Meck? Because she seems to struggle to make it though a day without mentioning that she breastfeeds, and it’s really hard, but she’s managed to get to 6 months? Wish these bellends would just shut up and feed their baby, breast or bottle it really doesn’t matter or make a difference in the grand scheme of things.

Totally agree. Her ‘fed is best’ as an afterthought is ridiculously patronising. It’s just so smug! The truth is she has been able to afford private support getting Z’s tongue tie cut and having support from a lactation consultant which isn’t available on the NHS. If she cares that much why isn’t she campaigning for more funding so that those who aren’t as privileged as her can get proper support!!

Let’s see how she copes when she has a second baby! It’s much easier to BF one when there isn’t a toddler running around!

 

[Cariad]

Totally agree. Her ‘fed is best’ as an afterthought is ridiculously patronising. It’s just so smug! The truth is she has been able to afford private support getting Z’s tongue tie cut and having support from a lactation consultant which isn’t available on the NHS. If she cares that much why isn’t she campaigning for more funding so that those who aren’t as privileged as her can get proper support!!

Let’s see how she copes when she has a second baby! It’s much easier to BF one when there isn’t a toddler running around!

Wonder how she'll cope with a teenager wanting Maccies and Pizza and sneaking off to parties ...
I bf my middle daughter for 21/2 years! Had a wonderful experience and felt very fortunate...however she turned out to be a bit of a wild child in her teens and caused a lot of grief for me and my husband at the time! ( thankfully now she's 23, got a first class business degree and is a very driven individual who loves travelling ( pre Covid!) and will try her hand at most anything

 

[MakeDamnSure]

Her post today has just really annoyed me to be honest. It’s definitely a humble brag just to make sure everyone knows she’s still breastfeeding (because a post everyday of her in the dark with him attached to her tit isn’t enough ). It makes people feel bad because she is basically saying I’ve found it really hard and my baby had a tongue tie and I still carried on. It makes people feel bad for putting their mental health first when they decide to give up breastfeeding. I could have carried on trying to breastfeed but I would have been miserable and I would have hated every single day so what would have been the point? The main reason I didn’t want to give up on breastfeeding was because I was worried that people would judge me for not doing the best thing for my child and these kinds of posts don’t help. Also formula feeding isn’t easy either, they all just act like such martyrs for breastfeeding!

 

[majestic26]

I've managed to breastfeed for 8 months with my little boy but it started out very tough and we gave him a lot of formula in the early days. I found formula so much more stressful! All the sterilising, wondering if you have enough with you when you're out, all the calculations about how long milk has been out of the fridge and whether it's still fine to drink. There were so many times we were caught out, didn't have a sterilised bottle and he was hungry and upset, I found it a real challenge.

I feel really lucky to be able to breastfeed him, and I'm proud that I was able to persevere with something I really struggled with at first. But I always feel wary of bringing it up because I worry I sound like one of these preachy influencers who become breastfeeding evangelists as soon as their baby latches on. And anyway, surely all mums are proud of how they've overcome challenges to care for their babies? It's not just breastfeeding mums that need a medal, it's all mums.

 

[Eltonjohnsflorist]

Urgh so annoying. I bf both my children to 9m and in many ways it wasn’t hard at all (I must admit FF is easier in terms of sharing the load with your partner, feeding them full feeds regularly rather than constant snacking) but it’s hardly an accomplishment.
It’s just feeding, and many women don’t struggle. They’re not better than the ones who do, they’re just lucky.

 

[Truthslayer]

I've managed to breastfeed for 8 months with my little boy but it started out very tough and we gave him a lot of formula in the early days. I found formula so much more stressful! All the sterilising, wondering if you have enough with you when you're out, all the calculations about how long milk has been out of the fridge and whether it's still fine to drink. There were so many times we were caught out, didn't have a sterilised bottle and he was hungry and upset, I found it a real challenge.

I feel really lucky to be able to breastfeed him, and I'm proud that I was able to persevere with something I really struggled with at first. But I always feel wary of bringing it up because I worry I sound like one of these preachy influencers who become breastfeeding evangelists as soon as their baby latches on. And anyway, surely all mums are proud of how they've overcome challenges to care for their babies? It's not just breastfeeding mums that need a medal, it's all mums.

Well said. Her post does rather smack of ‘BF may be hard to begin with, but formula is the easy option’. I understand that baby feeding is always going to illicit strong opinions, but her tone on this issue is all wrong (and I say that as someone who breastfeeds).

Also she is presumably flouting the rules again today by having anorexic Sophie round to do some stretching! Why does everything have to be for the Gram??

 

[Truthslayer]

And once again the narcissist is making lockdown 2 all about her and her traumatic birth back in April. I would never diminish another woman’s experience but I have literally known people whose partners have been told they had haemorrhaged so badly they might not survive!

 

[Begborrowsteal]

I still cry about my labour 5yrs on

 

[Truthslayer]

I still cry about my labour 5yrs on

Did you ever have a birth debrief? They can be really helpful x

 

[Begborrowsteal]

Did you ever have a birth debrief? They can be really helpful x

Yeah, and therapy PND dragged it on for 3 years so a work in progress! X

 

[Truthslayer]

Yeah, and therapy PND dragged it on for 3 years so a work in progress! X

So so sorry to hear that. That must have been really tough. Really hope it improves for you

 

[Truthslayer]

And now she’s claiming to have had post partum psychosis! I’m sorry but having worked with numerous mothers who have actually suffered from it, I very much doubt she’d have been able to be posting on social media within days of Z’s birth if she truly had it!

Also felt the need (again) to state boob feed just in case we’d forgotten she breast feeds!

 

[MakeDamnSure]

Also I don’t know why she is saying that tap water is safe for babies? I had a baby last year and the advice was always cooled boiled water. She also put ‘do bit feed’ instead of ‘do not feed’ bottled water. She should really check her spelling mistakes as some people may take this to mean that they can feed their baby a bit of bottled water when they can’t as there is too much sodium in bottled water.
If I had post partum psychosis I don’t think I would be doing Instagram stories in my maternity pants just days after my baby was born but maybe that’s just me!

 

[Truthslayer]

Also I don’t know why she is saying that tap water is safe for babies? I had a baby last year and the advice was always cooled boiled water. She also put ‘do bit feed’ instead of ‘do not feed’ bottled water. She should really check her spelling mistakes as some people may take this to mean that they can feed their baby a bit of bottled water when they can’t as there is too much sodium in bottled water.
If I had post partum psychosis I don’t think I would be doing Instagram stories in my maternity pants just days after my baby was born but maybe that’s just me!

On the NHS website it says cooled boiled water until 6 months but tap water is fine afterwards.

She really is so lazy - it takes two seconds to research this and she must know people will follow her advice as she always goes on about how qualified she is.

Totally agree. Post partum psychosis is a truly horrifying condition and a significant number of people who suffer from it end up in special hospitals and sometimes even separated from their babies.

 

[Eltonjohnsflorist]

I was told tap water fine with my second (1yr) but cool boiled with my first 4 years ago.
I don’t really get his schedule- I’m no expert (probably more so than her though ha ha) but isn’t he too old for so many naps and so much milk? It’s like a newborn schedule in that respect

 

[Rosie878]

I don’t believe she had psychosis either. She’s a drama queen. Everyone feels like their going mad a few weeks after having a baby. I kept diagnosing myself with horrific diseases and crying to the midwife - it turned out to be mastitis and a pile (), it’s just emotions and hormones. If she genuinely had psychosis she wouldn’t be able to balance work, socialising, exercise, looking groomed all the time, the way she does.

I still think she’s just bitter she didn’t get her idyllic birth experience. The perfectionist in her can’t stand it. She’s a total control freak - I think that’s where all the anxiety stems from, because you can’t control your baby’s behaviour and have to be adaptable/flexible. The ridiculous lists re weaning were a case in point.

 

[Aardvark]

It feels bad to say I don’t believe her, but I agree with all of you. Post partum psychosis is a major psychiatric condition that requires emergency treatment. She was on Instagram almost constantly post the birth, making it very unlikely she fitted having this behind the scenes.

The sleep deprivation after birth is extreme, it made me feel sick and hallucinate. But that isn’t psychosis - it goes away as soon as you are able to sleep for longer periods at a time (three hours of sleep has never felt so good!)

She is irresponsible to use the language of a serious condition for what she went through.

 

[MakeDamnSure]

On the NHS website it says cooled boiled water until 6 months but tap water is fine afterwards.

Yes sorry that’s what I meant, but even so before 6 months there’s no need really to give them water as if they are thirsty you give them milk!
She’s being so irresponsible using that language imo she’s diminishing real peoples experiences who have actually gone through post partum psychosis.

 

[Truthslayer]

It feels bad to say I don’t believe her, but I agree with all of you. Post partum psychosis is a major psychiatric condition that requires emergency treatment. She was on Instagram almost constantly post the birth, making it very unlikely she fitted having this behind the scenes.

The sleep deprivation after birth is extreme, it made me feel sick and hallucinate. But that isn’t psychosis - it goes away as soon as you are able to sleep for longer periods at a time (three hours of sleep has never felt so good!)

She is irresponsible to use the language of a serious condition for what she went through.

Totally agree. Plus post partum psychosis rarely just goes away - it can take weeks or even months of intensive treatment and therapy. It is a seriously horrible condition that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

As someone else said, she planned a home birth or minimal interventions and the fact she had to have interventions meant she couldn’t control it and we all know she is a control freak.

Being a new mother is HARD especially during lockdown. Having a new life that is solely dependent on you is tough. Your whole life is turned upside down and suddenly you are on someone else’s ‘schedule’ if you can even call it that. I actually admire her posts where she says it’s tough (albeit they are few and far between). But again she is being irresponsible bandying around terms and misinformation. It’s such a shame there is no way to regulate this sort of behaviour from influencers.

 

[MakeDamnSure]

Rhi needs to remember what she’s posted! In her last story she says she didn’t announce she had given birth for 2 weeks because she wasn’t ready to share it. Zachary was born on the 19th of April, she announced it on the 24th. I know she’s a nutritionist not a mathematician but that’s 5 days Rhi! She also did a post about being 10 days post partum! If I remember correctly, she also did a few stories whilst she was still in hospital. What’s the point of lying about this?