Relationship help

[Frenchie]

I can tell you love your daughter very much, and as you say, it’s hard to know what to do when he’s being otherwise charming. I just think it’s a shame you feel you have to meet up with your daughter elsewhere because of what your partner thinks. There shouldn’t be an atmosphere, your partner should accept your relationship with your daughter. I hope it all works out well for you, whatever you decide to do x

Thank you

 

[Frenchie]

Please leave him frenchie, go to citizens advice if it’s money etc you’re worried about. My mum was with someone who wasn’t interested whatsoever with her children and it all ended in tears.
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You’d probably be entitled to universal credit if you left him, it depends how much you’re earning? What’s your salary?

I’m minimum wage xx

 

[poppy120]

It’s not really relationship help but I’m posting this on behalf of a friend. My friend had liked this guy for about a year now, they have had a sort of “friends with benefits” situation for a while and she has started to like him. She doesn’t know whether to tell him or not because she is quite certain he only wants her for “friends with benefits” but she thinks he must like her to some extent to keep sleeping with her? I’ve tried to give my advice that she should tell him if she really feels she wants to but to be prepared for his answer which likely will not be what she is looking for

 

[emm]

I echo what everyone here has said but also wanted to ask, What has your daughter said about it?

 

[Frenchie]

God he sounds awful, imagine describing being with your own child as babysitting, she's better rid of him.

Congrats on becoming (or soon to be) a nanny!

Sorry this is my partner, it’s a long story !

When I told him (my partner) she was pregnant he was livid, didn’t talk to me!

 

[CherryAcid]

At the end of the day only you can make a decision. It’s clear you love your daughter and spending time with your family. I hope you work something out.

 

[Frenchie]

You shouldn't have to juggle your relationship with him and your relationships with your mother and daughter - a good partner wouldn't try and make you. At the end of the day, your daughter was there before him and she'll be there after him too.

The fact that you say he doesn't care if you're upset is so concerning too, what kind of partner can't support someone when they're upset?

Ultimately its your choice and its so easy to sit at a keyboard and say you need to end it, but for the sake of your own mental health and your relationship with your daughter, its something you need to give some serious thought.

Thank you

 

[Frenchie]

I know what I need to do; I am working a 30 hour week can anyone help with knowing if I’d get financial help being single?

 

[Frenchie]

Sorry a lurker here but I had to reply. Please leave him I’m the daughter of someone who was married to a narcissist with no social skills who isolated our mum and made us feel very unwanted. He was friendly enough infront of our mum but a total shitbag when it was just us and made it very clear our mum was ‘his’. It became abusive and we had to help our mum leave him and thank fuck she did. Please protect your relationship with your daughter it should be the priority.

xx