I agree with this - 3 months is nothing and really shouldnt be having a break after such a short time like seriously? How can the "love be gone" if you have only been together 3 months? Really think you should walk away but i know it is easier said than done.So you got together during lockdown? Had this discussion with a friend..it’s like men were happy to be in a relationship during lockdown when no pubs etc open but once everything is back open they want their single life back again.
If he said he didn’t love you anymore and wanted a break it sounds to me like he used you during lockdown and now he’s off enjoying the single life again. Sorry to be blunt.
I dont agree with this I have had guys up and leave me before that I have been seeing - for various reasons and it wasnt another girl. I have also up and left a guy I was seeing for certain reasons, no other men involved.Totally agree with some of the comments on here, sounds like there's someone else that he has feelings for. A man never up and leaves unless it's for a reason, trust me. I've seen it happen too many times x
Yeah, many women do it, so i don't see why men are any different tbh.My brother has his own house and split up with a girlfriend because he just didn't feel the same anymore and didn't see a future with her, despite being together for 4 or 5 years and there wasn't another woman involved.
He remained single for about 2 years after.
My boyfriend and I split up during lockdown, I’d really like to know how long you and your partner split up before getting back together? Of course every one is different but did you both stop all communications during this time? We’ve been seeing each other 3 x per week for weeks which hasn’t allowed either of us to really see what life is like without each other. But I suspect it’s what we need in order to actually see how much we mean to each other.Not quite the same scenario, but my partner and I actually split up and then got back together, and it did us the world of good!
For us though, it was more separate issues that we needed to deal with, rather than a lack of love or either of us seeing anyone else. I’d say that for it to work you need to be really open with each other and figure out what you want from the break, and what the terms and conditions are. If he suggests that seeing other people, I feel like it’s an excuse to sleep with someone else.
For us, we broke up at the end of July and had just over a month of no contact at all, blocked from social media etc. Then from the end of August/early September to January ish we started to regain contact, friendly conversations, unblocked on social media, and started spending time together as friends at the end of Jan, talking through our issues and figuring out what we both wanted, then got back together early April.My boyfriend and I split up during lockdown, I’d really like to know how long you and your partner split up before getting back together? Of course every one is different but did you both stop all communications during this time? We’ve been seeing each other 3 x per week for weeks which hasn’t allowed either of us to really see what life is like without each other. But I suspect it’s what we need in order to actually see how much we mean to each other.
My now-husband and I had similar about 11 years ago. We split up because we both had separate issues to work on. Stayed apart for about 9 months with occasional contact. Saw other people but came back together when we were ready. We are now married with a child so when something similar reared its head a couple of years ago, a split wasn’t really an option so we went to counselling together and that was really good for usFor us, we broke up at the end of July and had just over a month of no contact at all, blocked from social media etc. Then from the end of August/early September to January ish we started to regain contact, friendly conversations, unblocked on social media, and started spending time together as friends at the end of Jan, talking through our issues and figuring out what we both wanted, then got back together early April.
Long process but we’ve been back together over two years and our relationship is better than it ever was! Best of luck to you, I hope you get the outcome that you’re looking for.
Thank you for sharing!! I’m so happy for you both.For us, we broke up at the end of July and had just over a month of no contact at all, blocked from social media etc. Then from the end of August/early September to January ish we started to regain contact, friendly conversations, unblocked on social media, and started spending time together as friends at the end of Jan, talking through our issues and figuring out what we both wanted, then got back together early April.
Long process but we’ve been back together over two years and our relationship is better than it ever was! Best of luck to you, I hope you get the outcome that you’re looking for.
Me and my partner did this too. Had about 18 months apart. Lived separate and had separate lifes.Not quite the same scenario, but my partner and I actually split up and then got back together, and it did us the world of good!
For us though, it was more separate issues that we needed to deal with, rather than a lack of love or either of us seeing anyone else. I’d say that for it to work you need to be really open with each other and figure out what you want from the break, and what the terms and conditions are. If he suggests that seeing other people, I feel like it’s an excuse to sleep with someone else.
I got broken up with during lockdown, been together 5 years. It was unexpected for me (we’d had our rows due to constantly being in each other’s space during lockdown but took separate walks etc and made up). 4 months on, I’m still heartbroken and miss him. He does text me and has mentioned meeting up (I still have some of my things at his place) but I just don’t feel ready to see him yet. I hope I can meet up with him as the break up was all on his terms.My boyfriend and I split up during lockdown, I’d really like to know how long you and your partner split up before getting back together? Of course every one is different but did you both stop all communications during this time? We’ve been seeing each other 3 x per week for weeks which hasn’t allowed either of us to really see what life is like without each other. But I suspect it’s what we need in order to actually see how much we mean to each other.
This is really interesting to hear - did you both go with other people in this time if you dont mind me asking? If so, how did you deal with that? As thats something that has always bothered me, I always feel i cannot go back to someone who has slept with someone else in a time apart - however I am an overthinker.Me and my partner did this too. Had about 18 months apart. Lived separate and had separate lifes.
Got back together about 2 years ago. I think the time appart made us really appreciate each other and he's alot more hands on the before.
Sorry to hear this! This is the issue and ive had it done to me before, they stay in touch with the odd text here and there to make sure that they are still on your mind so that you dont fully move on - and that really isnt fair. How are you? xI got broken up with during lockdown, been together 5 years. It was unexpected for me (we’d had our rows due to constantly being in each other’s space during lockdown but took separate walks etc and made up). 4 months on, I’m still heartbroken and miss him. He does text me and has mentioned meeting up (I still have some of my things at his place) but I just don’t feel ready to see him yet. I hope I can meet up with him as the break up was all on his terms.
I’m OK, good and bad days! It’s weird just going from being together all the time to nothing, no contact. The urge to text back is there but I’m staying strong. His loss!Sorry to hear this! This is the issue and ive had it done to me before, they stay in touch with the odd text here and there to make sure that they are still on your mind so that you dont fully move on - and that really isnt fair. How are you? x
We only went on a few dates each and then I think we soon realised the grass isn't always greeneryou just need to water your own grass.This is really interesting to hear - did you both go with other people in this time if you dont mind me asking? If so, how did you deal with that? As thats something that has always bothered me, I always feel i cannot go back to someone who has slept with someone else in a time apart - however I am an overthinker.
So strong! you should be really proud of yourself as thats really strong to not text back! do you think he has changed his mind?I’m OK, good and bad days! It’s weird just going from being together all the time to nothing, no contact. The urge to text back is there but I’m staying strong. His loss!