Relationship advice

[HitchhikingGhost]

This is quite a common thing with men I find. Everything gets downplayed because most are really confrontation-averse and poor communicators. Now personally I would bring it up, outside of obviously wanting an answer I find these things only explode out of them at a later date and leave you feeling blindsided. HOWEVER, expect 1) for him to feel cornered and be very defensive, through no fault of your own it may not be a productive conversation and 2) for him to tell you something that may be hard to hear.

On the former, I'd maybe give him a heads up via text earlier in the day for a discussion when you get home? As with things like this they never seem to respond well in the moment. Have a response ready for why you're "stalking him online" or similar though, they always seem to play that card. On the latter, I do think you just have to be brave, forcing men to be honest about whether they want to be with you has never caused a breakup, only sped it up, which in the long term is the most beneficial thing.

Thank for your reply. Much appreciated

 

[theweekend]

Thank for your reply. Much appreciated

Good luck with it all and I hope you're okay, those messages must have been anxiety-inducing to read. I have been in a similar situation and it's horrible having the reassurance but not knowing whether to believe it or not. Also frustrating we have to do so much work to ensure they are honest when they should just be in the first place! But as I said you're not the first woman to deal with this and certainly won't be the last