Can see where you're coming from...i maybe should have prefaced that by saying on the face of it....it just seems that there are lots of couples out there who can't have kids and would give everything to have what Rebecca's got and treat them a lot better....however, I would just like to say that I know people who lived with their parents until they were 18 and now have severe trauma as adults which affects their day to day life 25 years later due to their parents neglecting them and putting them last for a variety of reasons such as finding a new partner, alcohol abuse or just being a selfish lazy parent
That's definitely also the case. It's a very difficult decision and that can seem "wrong" in hindsight. It is also practically impossible to say in hindsight in most cases whether removal would have led to better outcomes because it is such a nuanced and multi-factoral decision and children ( because they are humans and not things to be shared out amongst adults or prizes to be won) are bonded with their parents.
That said, children aren't removed because other adults "deserve" children. But because it is in their best interests and it is still hugely traumatic for them.
I'm just uncomfortable with removal being talked about as fix all which it most definitely is not. We need to move fully away from seeing adoption a "reward" for "more deserving" parents because that really adds fuel to the fire of "social services stole my kids" and understandably means that parents who could be helped by intervention won't engage and that leads to much poorer outcomes for children.
This is obviously off topic but I know a lot of people read here and I think we should be really careful discussing such a sensitive subject