I’m not disputing this and that there is a level of acceptance of mysogynistic behaviour as the “lad culture” and I also agree women are not to blame for the violent and aggressive behaviour of men towards them. I’m simply stating not all men “hate women” or want to do them harm.it’s not as simple as men are more able. It’s that society is set up that means women are questioned or deemed responsible. It’s always what we wear, out too late, shouldnt have stayed with that abusive man (never why is he abusing her?), should have known that something was wrong with that man/situation but don’t suspect that all men are cruel cause that’s not fair. It’s not just that men hurt women, it’s the men who make comments to their mates as a joke, it’s degrading pornography, its books and films where men pester until the woman gives in, it’s women being viewed for consumption instead of actual humans with brains, I could go on forever.
Again I’m sure your facts are correct. And I’m more than aware that women are more likely to be killed by a man known to them. But let’s not pretend that I don’t know my father and how he is as a person. Or other men I know well and care for. I’m not going to label them as potentially women hating and violent when I have seen no such behaviour from them. I’d also like to add I’m a woman working in the CJS (and no not police).93% of killers convicted of murder and manslaughter between March 2018 and March 2020 were men. Most of them known to the victim. So be careful of these kind and caring men you know and the nice male dog walker you see of a morning. Women are that low risk of offending opposed to men that they do not use category’s in female prisons. A petty young thief can be sharing a cell with the likes of Myra Hindley.
It's not all men and we all know good and decent men but we can't tell a predator so we have to assume its all men. I'm not taking any chances and if that means I have to offend a few blokes by crossing the street or not letting them access my personal space then so be it.Im
I’m not disputing this and that there is a level of acceptance of mysogynistic behaviour as the “lad culture” and I also agree women are not to blame for the violent and aggressive behaviour of men towards them. I’m simply stating not all men “hate women” or want to do them harm.
Don’t disagree we all need to take precautions when it comes to unfamiliar or unknown men and keeping safe. I was responding about not all men in relation to a comment further up the thread that said the reason is “men hate women” and a few posters discussing why men are so awful and someone used Hitler as an example. I was simply pointing out there are many women just as culpable for horrific actions and crimes as well.It's not all men and we all know good and decent men but we can't tell a predator so we have to assume its all men. I'm not taking any chances and if that means I have to offend a few blokes by crossing the street or not letting them access my personal space then so be it.
Men are awful though! Is the bar we are going to set a man is that at least he's not a rapist or killer? Men who are "decent" do awful things to women all the time. Everyday sexism is something most men are guilty of.Don’t disagree we all need to take precautions when it comes to unfamiliar or unknown men and keeping safe. I was responding about not all men in relation to a comment further up the thread that said the reason is “men hate women” and a few posters discussing why men are so awful and someone used Hitler as an example. I was simply pointing out there are many women just as culpable for horrific actions and crimes as well.
I am a woman that works alongside male peadophiles and violent offenders. It really opens your eyes how vulnerable women and children really are. I am trained in different levels of restraint, even chemical and I still carry a dog lead when I go out on my own. What makes me good at my job is my insight of these men due to my personal history of substance abuse, child abuse and domestic violence as I have spoken about before on various threads. I hate when we speak ok violence on women there is always somebody that will quote the typical ‘not all men’. We have a system in society that protect men while females and children are being abused or at risk of being abused. Look at WC and the safety net he had from his peers.Im
I’m not disputing this and that there is a level of acceptance of mysogynistic behaviour as the “lad culture” and I also agree women are not to blame for the violent and aggressive behaviour of men towards them. I’m simply stating not all men “hate women” or want to do them harm.
Again I’m sure your facts are correct. And I’m more than aware that women are more likely to be killed by a man known to them. But let’s not pretend that I don’t know my father and how he is as a person. Or other men I know well and care for. I’m not going to label them as potentially women hating and violent when I have seen no such behaviour from them. I’d also like to add I’m a woman working in the CJS (and no not police).
Just gotta hope that mothers of boys raise their sons better. I think these day's people are more "woke"... Like, before black people used to get beat in the street for being black, same with gays - now hardly anyone cares if your black, gay, trans, asian, whatever. My son is in secondary school and they have kids that come "out" all the time and no one bats an eyelid. It's just "oh okay, what do you identify as now? What's your new name?" And that's it. They have PSHE in schools now too and they never had that when I was at school. They have people go in and do plays about being in abusive relationships and then discuss with the kids what they thought was bad and what to do if ever in that situation, etc. It starts at home and education.I don't see how we can protect our daughters in the future, I was in tears last night and could not sleep thinking of this case, as I'm sure many women are up and down the country. I don't know what the answer is.
With all due respect to you and your point cause I do understand what youre saying but I truly don't care. I don't care that not all men hate women. I don't care that there are lovely men in the world. I and fellow women (you included) have to live in fear and I've had a bleeping enough of it. All you do by saying "not all men" is deflect from the actual issue which is that women are constantly victims to the nasty men and the lovely men need to start listening and acting. I am sick to death of people saying "not all men" every time something like this happens. It was this man! It is other men. It's is still bleeping men! You don't get a pass for being a lovely man. You are SUPPOSED TO BE a lovely man! That is not a standard to reach to! You don't get a pat on the back and a cookie for not abusing women.Don’t disagree we all need to take precautions when it comes to unfamiliar or unknown men and keeping safe. I was responding about not all men in relation to a comment further up the thread that said the reason is “men hate women” and a few posters discussing why men are so awful and someone used Hitler as an example. I was simply pointing out there are many women just as culpable for horrific actions and crimes as well.
The book 'Men who hate women' by Laura Bates Id also recommend.They hate us. There is a book called why men hate women by Dr Jessica Taylor, I recommend it if you havent already read it.
It reminds me of that Margaret Attwood quote.With all due respect to you and your point cause I do understand what youre saying but I truly don't care. I don't care that not all men hate women. I don't care that there are lovely men in the world. I and fellow women (you included) have to live in fear and I've had a bleeping enough of it. All you do by saying "not all men" is deflect from the actual issue which is that women are constantly victims to the nasty men and the lovely men need to start listening and acting. I am sick to death of people saying "not all men" every time something like this happens. It was this man! It is other men. It's is still bleeping men! You don't get a pass for being a lovely man. You are SUPPOSED TO BE a lovely man! That is not a standard to reach to! You don't get a pat on the back and a cookie for not abusing women.
Yes there are a women who capable of horrific things but men don't live in fear of women like women do of men. Men don't panic if they encounter a woman late in the night for fear of being attacked. Men won't go forward fearing being stopped by a sole woman police officer. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing!!!!!!!
We really need to stop patting men on the back for the most basic of things. Not being a rapist/murderer doesn't make you a good guy, it doesn't deserve praise. Men need to be called out for everything they do that feeds into the culture that allows crimes like this to happen. Every joke, inappropriate comment, every time they laugh along with a mate who makes a crude remark - even the nice guys who love their daughters and who wouldn't harm a fly.With all due respect to you and your point cause I do understand what youre saying but I truly don't care. I don't care that not all men hate women. I don't care that there are lovely men in the world. I and fellow women (you included) have to live in fear and I've had a bleeping enough of it. All you do by saying "not all men" is deflect from the actual issue which is that women are constantly victims to the nasty men and the lovely men need to start listening and acting. I am sick to death of people saying "not all men" every time something like this happens. It was this man! It is other men. It's is still bleeping men! You don't get a pass for being a lovely man. You are SUPPOSED TO BE a lovely man! That is not a standard to reach to! You don't get a pat on the back and a cookie for not abusing women.
Yes there are a women who capable of horrific things but men don't live in fear of women like women do of men. Men don't panic if they encounter a woman late in the night for fear of being attacked. Men won't go forward fearing being stopped by a sole woman police officer. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing. It is not the same thing!!!!!!!
Testament to that exact sentence: on twitter just now -Sarah is a reminder that women are not safe we are out numbered by opportunist men. There have been many more before Sarah and sadly they’ll be many more after her but I think this one has hit home because it was a police officer someone were taught to trust and keep people safe abusing his power to live out a twisted urge of rape and murder, they’ll be plenty of men like Wayne Couzen’s in all area’s of work life but they are always caught to late.
OMG where did you see thisThey’re saying Couzen’s might have murdered before and have asked anyone who might know something to come forward. It might be that he preyed on the homeless and panicked when he realised Sarah wasn’t. Hopefully the police find out if he has
Sorry I wasn’t clear. The first part is in the news. The second part I.e homeless is my assumptionOMG where did you see this