I agree with most of what you said,
EZBR33-Z. The one spot where I would disagree is around trauma: I can accept that Kristi had a traumatizing birth. I can also accept that she's a selfish enough person to go, "Oh wow nobody's had such a traumatic birth as me" and that's a
crappy thing to say. But she's completely allowed to feel shaken up by the birth experience. The problem is that she has CLEARLY been battling PPD/PPA and isn't getting appropriate help for it. This video is just another in a long line of examples where she is not coping and her mental health is deteriorating.
Her son would be much better off with the tiny fraction of Zoloft that might be in her breast milk because his mom would be more mentally stable.
What worries me more is what you said about personality disorders. I do think she's morphing into a narcissist (in the clinical sense) before our eyes and that will be a HUGE problem for her kid and any future kids. A lot of the feeling she's describing right now sounds like classic enmeshment -- perfectly normal at the baby stage, but not normal if it carries on into the rest of his childhood. I worry that she doesn't see the separation between herself and her son, and like several people have said this will mean awful things for when he starts dating or just getting friends.
I agree with a lot of what's been said -- she needs help and an intervention from her family. And I guarantee you she's filtering comments on the video because no one could watch that and think, "So true sis!"
I’m almost 39 weeks pregnant, baby could come any day now. The ONE good takeaway I have from this video is to try to live in the moment when she’s a newborn, even when it might feel tough because I might be sleep deprived and ready for the next stage. But other than that, this video was just too much…
You're going to do great! Just know that PPD/PPA is super, super common and to get help if you need it. I feel like living in the moment is a great lesson but honestly the newborn experience really is gruelling and it's completely fine to not love it and still love your baby.
Sleep deprivation is tough but you'll get through it. You'll get through all of this, but the first two weeks are probably the absolute toughest.
Also, I had a ton of "when I'm a mother I'm going to do [x] and anyone who doesn't do [x] clearly doesn't know what's best!!!" arrogance. I'm not saying you have that, but I will say that parenthood has been super humbling so far. A lot of the time choices aren't in your hands as much as you'd want them to be (birth plan, breastfeeding, etc.) and it's good to get comfortable with having preferences but ultimately doing what works best for you, your partner, and your baby.
Also: buy a bouncer! Do tummy time, but buy a bouncer. You will desperately want a place to gently set them down when you need to run to the bathroom or something. Also stretchy wraps and carriers are great.