Bit of a rant sorry.
Right?! I have tried my hardest to ensure my 16 year old has been taught right from wrong (he is autistic), and he can still be very hard to handle! He used to bite as a toddler, I’d tell him no, I’d let him feel how hard teeth are by getting him to press his own finger into his teeth. I’d let him feel how sharp mine are and tell him that hurts, they’re sharp or ouch no. It was hard to make him understand I was getting hurt. Only thing that stopped him was when he bit my thigh while we were playing a silly game. It took me by surprise and I burst into tears, he was heartbroken, scared and cried too. I was never bitten again thankfully. Guessing my reaction got through to him.
Letting your child just do as they please is dangerous and lazy parenting. Autistic or not, you can’t just let him bite you for the gram. He won’t implode if you set boundaries, meltdowns can get pretty aggressive and the bigger the child, the more damage they can do (to themselves, you, siblings, the home).
We do whatever we can to ensure our child doesn’t reach that point. I watch his demeanour and body language and redirect whenever I see him getting overwhelmed. It doesn’t always work, but if Raquellllll can’t even be arsed to teach Wilbs biting is painful and to pack it in, she isn’t going to be arsed to learn when he’s getting overstimulated/overwhelmed/stressed etc and try to help him regulate. He will get stronger and he will hurt her/others sadly.
I wish she wouldn’t portray autistic kids as naughty, or bad tempered or frightening. I mean, they do be naughty or bad tempered, but they’re human and all human kids get like that. She pisses me off with it all!
I won’t pretend to be an expert, but if I’d known my kid was autistic when he was Wilbs age, I would’ve done SO much differently. RattleSnake has this privilege some of us parents didn’t have, but has she decided to actually parent her son, let alone appropriately parent an autistic child? Has she hell!