Pregnancy

[Kitt]

Thanks everyone for concern. Don’t really have the shoulder pain and no abdominal pain or blood this morning so I know the GP won’t be concerned. She said to me on the phone that EP wouldn’t be til 6-8 weeks anyway. I’m feeling a lot less worried now the pain is gone. Just feel nauseous which is normal for the mornings for me.

 

[Definitelyme]

I got to see my wee bean last night (they dated me at about 11 weeks), was a private scan. It wouldn't stop moving about it was amazing to see definitely only one in there now too. The toilet bowl has become my best friend and that's me signed off work for another 2 weeks praying this eases off soon

Sending love, the sickness is horrendous. I feel horrible today. Great to hear you have been able to get a few more weeks off work, will hopefully make life much easier for you having one less thing to worry about while you feel so awful

 

[jazyblu]

Calling the GP in the morning to get the ball rolling and to be referred to midwife etc. Going to mention that my shoulder is hurting. No other significant pain anywhere else but my left shoulder is very painful. Probably nothing but definitely worth mentioning, right?

Absolutely worth mentioning asap, shoulder pain can be unrelated, not to scare you but it could also point to an ectopic pregnancy so it needs to be checked out.

 

[Kitt]

After my sweep at 12 midday had contractions at around 12 midnight, worst feeling was felt like my bum was about to fall off! Unexpected ha
Called hospital told me to take paracetamol etc but ended up going in as felt I was in too much pain, was 9cm and gave birth a few hours later!
Super quick progression

Totally like nothing I expected (though I had no birth plan and tried not to read too much) but it’s beyond surreal having her here

Congratulations!! Amazing. Are you both happy and healthy? Does she have a name? (Don’t worry if you don’t want to share!)

 

[LittleMy]

This is my first and I’m nearly 29 weeks and I think it’s flew in personally up to now anyway. Doesn’t feel like that long ago that I found out.



It did drag a wee bit up to the 12 week scan but from there I think mine has flew in

It usually does, and then you get to the final hurdle and time seems to stop. I went to 42 weeks with my first and vividly recall how miserable I felt in those last couple of weeks. It dragged. I was so heavy and sore (he was almost 11lbs at birth).

 

[NP]

Hello I’m 26 weeks with baby number 3. Having the worst acid reflux at the moment and eating Rennie’s like sweets. Other than that I’ve been very lucky this time. Completely skipped the sickness and nausea although I felt like I spent the first trimester asleep. Having an elective c-sec in March. This will be my third c-section (first was an emergency) so I’m feeling very relaxed and positive about it.

Further up, someone asked about partners at scans. My trust is allowing partners at the 12 & 20 week scans only. The rules changed after my 12 week scan so my other half has only been to the 20 week one which was really rushed but at least he got to come to something!

 

[Gilmoregirl18]

I am 28 weeks with my 2nd, when having my son we were in hospital for most of it due to complications, so once he was born I chose to bottle feed him, so my partner and family could help and I get a bit of me time, call me selfish but I felt like thats when i needed to do for my own sanity.
The midwifes, health visitor, even my Mil immediately judged me, constant "breast is best" when my son was thriving on formula.
This time I am planning on trying to breastfed her, but if it doesn't go to plan then I will use formula and will not be made to feel a monster for it.

 

[Greys1324]

Thank you all I feel a bit better that I’m not the only one panicking. I think I will have to buckle down and start doing some research online just in case! It’s so hard when everything’s changing daily, I think I was far too optimistic thinking things would be back to normal by now. Thanks for the recommendation for Halfords and I’m going to start reading some reviews online and having a browse for secondhand prams as a back up option too.

 

[WhatABore]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

I had this happen with all my pregnancies. Especially as I've never had sickness or anything.
I've also never done any of that stuff your friend is doing so don't worry at all!
I still didn't feel pregnant after my 12 week scan. Even after that I'd completely convinced myself it wasn't real. I even took another test at 14 weeks just to remind myself

 

[Octopies]

I agree, I try hard not to moan and to be honest have very little to moan about apart from all the usual covid related shit we are all dealing with. I had a loss in April and my SIL had a miscarriage not long after, after nearly a year of trying with PCOS. She’s now waiting for IVF with my BIL so I’m very aware of fortunate my husband and I are to have had two pregnancies, even though one was not successful.

Also love the baby kicks, I felt movement fairly early (16 weeks) and it was so incredibly reassuring after that to know that he is ok in there.


You won’t pick much up on a scan that would cause symptoms like that. Sounds like dyspareunia or vaginismus? I think it definitely needs discussing with your midwife and if they don’t take it seriously, your GP. They may not want to do a speculum in pregnancy but if you struggle with tampons they may need to consider how that might affect internal examinations in labour. The blood supply to your pelvis/genitalia increases by 30+% in pregnancy and the tissues get more stretchy and pliable so this won’t necessarily cause you any problems, but I think if you’re mentally worried about it that could make you tenser and exams more uncomfortable. Definitely worth mentioning! But you shouldn’t be too small for a baby, vaginas are very stretchy!!!!

Thank you (and to the others who answered) i
Will defo raise it with the midwife even though it’s a bit awkward ‘can you check if my vagina is normal please’

 

[Jg182]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

I get days like this in the morning, feel perfectly fine... start to worry then the sickness catches up and hits me in the afternoon!

 

[Stimpii]

I wasn’t at all bothered when my second was a boy, I was quite excited that my son was going to have a little brother to play with. We’re planning on trying for a third sometime next year, and while we’d be happy with a healthy baby no matter what, we have both admitted we would love to have a girl as it would also be our last - don’t think my body could take anymore c-sections. Congratulations on your pregnancy, I wish you the very best.

Yeah I was so happy when my 2nd was another boy. Had so many ‘aww that’s a shame’ comments and it made me so mad. So then we’ve always been asked when we’re having a girl and I was like ‘er never’

This baby was a lockdown surprise

 

[Definitelyme]

Also feeling heavy and uncomfortable and sore over here (23 weeks with No4). Some days I wonder how I’ll make it to the end, then other days I think “oh I’m not even that big!” (Lies. I am always massive )

@Octopies best thing you can do to prepare is to read up on the 4th trimester and prepare yourself for normal newborn behaviour, IMO. But having a newborn for the first time is exhausting and overwhelming at times, it’s such a change so there isn’t much you can do to ready yourself!

 

[LittleMy]

I found out both times. I’m so impatient, plus it’s more practical imo and I like to be prepared over surprised. We even paid for a private early gender scan second time. Knew I was having a boy straight away, saw his junk on the screen and called it before the lady even said anything.

 

[Macmama]

Told my mum today and she reacted exactly how I thought she would, like I’m 15 and up the duff.

‘Why would you do you that?! What you gonna do for money? (I earn more than her and my stepdad combined) You don’t have any family where you live. I’m so disappointed. I told Sharon at work that my kids are better than that and I’ll never have grandchildren!’

Tried to hold back the tears tbh.

Merry Christmas I hope you all have better and more supportive reactions.

What a horrible, awful thing to say

In the spirit of Christmas, I’ll leave it at that. She’s lucky I’ve put away my Halloween voodoo doll.

Congratulations to you and your partner. What exciting news, and I hope you have a smooth pregnancy!

 

[Greys1324]

Hi I’m 8 weeks and have been thinking of getting a private scan just before Christmas as were both off and thought it would be special. We’re also not allowed partners into the 12 week scan and can’t imagine not having hubby there. Do you think it was worth it? I will be just over 9 weeks. We feel it would be special to tell close family over Christmas if everything seems fine. Do people think that silly? I’m really in two minds and would love any advice X

I had a private scan at 8 weeks as i wanted to see the baby for the first time with my partner. We couldn’t really see much, it just looked like a blob but it was a lovely thing to do together and it put my mind at rest that things were ok. We told our parents and siblings after that scan and then told everyone else after the 12 week one. If you want to go for it

 

[MrsJones83]

Thanks hun, I just feel like I’m missing some sort of maternal gene that I’m not getting excited like my friend and buying all this bump stuff- I’m actually just really anxious about the scan. I feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up in a way. Just feel really weird about it all today. Abit detached. X

Don’t forget your body is also adjusting to growing a baby and hormones will be flying all over the place, making you think and feel all sorts of emotions x

 

[MrsJones83]

Mentally preparing myself for the possibility of a c section, but people I know who’ve had emergency and planned ones rave about how nice the planned ones are.

Huge difference between emergency and elective c-secs.

My first baby was an emergency c-sec after a horrific labour, the baby was in distress and I was very poorly. The section is an absolute blur. I was in hospital for 5 days afterwards.

I attempted a vbac with my second but that also ended in emergency c-sec. It went better than the first, but still not great. I was in hospital for 3 days.

My third I had an elective c-sec. It was calm and chilled, lots of laughter, we had the radio on (he was born to a spice girls song), they lowered the screen so I could see him being born, had delayed cord clamping, and he was straight on my chest for skin to skin. My recovery was also MUCH easier than the other two. I was home the next evening.

 

[elloelloello]

We are booked in for our amnio test today. Woken up feeling awful. I believe this is the best thing to do for us personally..... this all just seems like a bad dream in desperate to wake up from

Thinking of you. I hope all goes well today, please keep us all updated. I know we are all strangers on the internet but I think I speak for us all when I say we are all here for you

Sending all my love xxx

 

[Chopsuey]

We must have the same DD! I know how you feel about pain. My hips are so bad and if I try to walk after sitting I limp around for ages as can't put my foot to the ground
I also am so clumsy and fell over yesterday lol. Only in my front room. I hope things ease for you soon people don't tend to say how hard pregnancy can actually be.

4th May is due date,you the same?

I honestly thought in pregnancy women were out on roller skates, cartwheeling down the street bit like the tena lady adverts lol!No one tells you about the sickness, the aches, the pains etc.