Pregnancy #67

[Bec3007]

I’m tentatively back here as I’m 6 weeks today, after a chemical in October. My first pregnancies so I’m still totally clueless, I have been testing frantically and stopped myself now as the anxiety isn’t doing me any favours!

My NHS trust use Badger notes, and with my first pregnancy in October I only got notification of my first appointment a couple of days before (obviously I then didn’t need it and had to have an awkward conversation to cancel!) I’m a total newbie and don’t even know when I should be having it and if I just need to wait to hear from them.

I’m full of questions about pregnancy, maternity, age (I’m 36 so ancient in baby world ) so been scouring old threads trying to cram some knowledge in, all while desperately trying not to get ahead of myself. I can’t even have a conversation with OH without the caveat “if all goes well”

Don’t mind me, I’ll be here trying to learn from everyone what on earth I’m doing

Congratulations!!

My trust also use badger notes and I hate it With my first it was all paper notes and I honestly preferred that. For my first appointment a midwife called me who was then my assigned midwife when I was around 6ish weeks and said when my appointment date and time would be and this went straight onto the app too. My appointment was supposed to be in my 9th week I’m sure (but ended up being 11 weeks due to errors on their side) but I know it can differ across the board with some being 8 weeks and some being 10

 

[notmybestdress]

Welcome! Totally feel you. I’m currently a 37 yo FTM and 32 weeks pregnant. Before this I experienced 4 MMCs so I was in total denial this was even happening until somewhere between my 12-20 week scans. Had ridiculous anxiety and only just recently stopped saying “if all goes well”. All I will say is that worrying has never helped avoiding a bad situation from happening and has only robbed me from joy when it’s gone well so try and relax and enjoy what you can - we have no control over any of this going “right” or “wrong” for better or worse!

 

[Thatsnotmyname123]

I’m sure it’s different everywhere but I had to complete a form online to say ‘I’m pregnant’ and then I got a call to book in my first (booking) appointment from there. At that appointment my midwife booked me in for my next one and either at that appointment or the next we booked all other midwife appointments. I think scans were different (maybe I got a letter/email?) but all appointments and scans end up in badger notes. I also get a reminder for all via my NHS app.

 

[fishsticks]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

 

[Throwaway89]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

Just sending some love. I’ve not experienced it (yet) so can’t offer reassurance but just wanted to acknowledge your post. Do you feel they are taking your fears seriously?

 

[amarantine]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

I ended up having an epidural and an emergency c section with BabyA and it was honestly absolutely fine. Saying that I don’t have a needle phobia but the needle for the epidural was nowhere near as painful as I thought it was going to be! I will say though because we had an emergency c section we’d done no research around recovery and what to expect etc - I guess it’s different when it’s a planned one, but the recovery and being able to do so little has really knocked me for six a bit, probably because it wasn’t in our plan! But the epidural and section themselves were absolutely fine. I would say that I felt really sick and wobbly after my section so was pumped full of anti sickness meds straight after the operation - if you do not like feeling or being sick make sure you ask for all the anti sickness drugs!

 

[ValleyRay]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

I was absolutely terrified as well! I swore to myself I wouldn't have an epidural with my first because I was so nervous but in the moment, I caved Even after that experience I was still freaking out about having one for my c section even though I knew for sure I was having one. I'm not going to lie and this probably isn't very helpful but I was shaking and crying whilst they were doing it for my c section and the anesthetist actually asked me why I was crying?! Anyway, it was over in no time really and looking back, the IV in my hand was a lot worse! Unfortunately it's just one of those things we have to go through and once out the other side at least you will have your beautiful babies! Just focus on that and it is all for them🩷🩷

 

[Keera]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

I don’t have a needle phobia but truly I cannot remember anything about getting my epidural and don’t remember it hurting. You breathe gas and air while it’s being done and it’s literally the quickest process.

 

[Hammmmmmms]

Is anyone experiencing really bad UTI & Thrush? I’m 28 weeks second week of antibiotics and now a 7 day pessary course of thrush treatment. Im signed off work for another week but my god I am crippled!

 

[opintionatedperson]

Is anyone experiencing really bad UTI & Thrush? I’m 28 weeks second week of antibiotics and now a 7 day pessary course of thrush treatment. Im signed off work for another week but my god I am crippled!

I had thrush before Christmas and it's grim , it really is... Unfortunately it's just one of those things we just have to put up with .a friend of mine had it constantly during her pregnancy I think she just had to take medication for it until the end

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I am absolutely freaking out about a c section every time I think about the epidural I end up in a crying mess and having a panic attack. I'm under the enhanced care midwife due to my needle phobia and pregnancy/birth anxiety. I'm honestly in such a rut with this. I've cried every single day of December and I'm still crying about it now. Does anyone want to tell me this anxiety stops? Not sure how much more of it I can take.

I'm having a walk round theatres tomorrow and will be seeing the midwife then so I'll obviously be discussing this with her again too. I just want some reassurance that it gets better

I don’t have a needle phobia to the extent you do but I was really afraid of the epidural. I honestly can’t tell you anything about it now, 16 weeks on, which is to say it was totally unremarkable to me. For me personally; the thought of it was significantly worse than the reality. If I sit and think about it as a procedure now I’m like ‘eeeesh’, but when I think about my own experience Im like ‘eh, can’t really remember anything about it’.

I say this to attempt to be helpful, I’m not trying to say you shouldn’t be anxious or anything like that because well, if it was that simple none of us would have phobias would we?! The anaesthetic team were the best people in the room for my section, I guess because they were there for me and everyone else was there for BabyDrag, but they were just so nice.

I hope the tour of theatres helps! One thing to maybe mention to the midwife is your section slot. I was 3rd of 4 on the list which I didn’t care about at all except that Woman 1 came back before I left and I had to deal with her ringing what seemed like everyone she had ever met and described her section in quite intense detail. It had not been completely smooth and this was the thing that got me really stressed out. My experience wasn’t at all like hers but it is anxiety I could have done without, she was having her 4th as well so was some sort of season ticket holder and here was little old first timer me shitting myself in the corner!

 

[Tazzie]

I don’t have a needle phobia to the extent you do but I was really afraid of the epidural. I honestly can’t tell you anything about it now, 16 weeks on, which is to say it was totally unremarkable to me. For me personally; the thought of it was significantly worse than the reality. If I sit and think about it as a procedure now I’m like ‘eeeesh’, but when I think about my own experience Im like ‘eh, can’t really remember anything about it’.

I say this to attempt to be helpful, I’m not trying to say you shouldn’t be anxious or anything like that because well, if it was that simple none of us would have phobias would we?! The anaesthetic team were the best people in the room for my section, I guess because they were there for me and everyone else was there for BabyDrag, but they were just so nice.

I hope the tour of theatres helps! One thing to maybe mention to the midwife is your section slot. I was 3rd of 4 on the list which I didn’t care about at all except that Woman 1 came back before I left and I had to deal with her ringing what seemed like everyone she had ever met and described her section in quite intense detail. It had not been completely smooth and this was the thing that got me really stressed out. My experience wasn’t at all like hers but it is anxiety I could have done without, she was having her 4th as well so was some sort of season ticket holder and here was little old first timer me shitting myself in the corner!

I was terrified at the thought of the epidural for my section. Absolutely didn’t feel it at all but unfortunately two of them failed so ended up have a GA which turns out was actually my phobia.. I would love to say I was totally calm
When they said there was no other option. thankfully they got me to sleep really fast so my panic was blissfully short. Not saying this to scare anyone but it was never mentioned to me that this could happen so was totally unprepared for it.. Honsetky took me a good few weeks to come to terms with how scared I was.. But to be fair as long as baby arrives safely we can deal with the aftermath in our own good time..

 

[LavaFlake]

Due date today and no real signs apart from occasional cramps and baby feeling low. I was 5 days early with my first so this is weird.

Also had my last midwife appointment yesterday where she’s now decided I need a growth scan as growth has slowed according to belly measurements. She had to fill in a form and apparently obstetrics will ring me. It could be today, it could be tomorrow, who knows. Looking at my graph I’m not too concerned but it’s just another thing to wait around for when I have to look after a toddler and then find care for and also when I’m waiting for labour! And of course your brain also runs loads of scenarios! Just not what I want or need really sigh.

 

[georgiecait]

Due date today and no real signs apart from occasional cramps and baby feeling low. I was 5 days early with my first so this is weird.

Also had my last midwife appointment yesterday where she’s now decided I need a growth scan as growth has slowed according to belly measurements. She had to fill in a form and apparently obstetrics will ring me. It could be today, it could be tomorrow, who knows. Looking at my graph I’m not too concerned but it’s just another thing to wait around for when I have to look after a toddler and then find care for and also when I’m waiting for labour! And of course your brain also runs loads of scenarios! Just not what I want or need really sigh.

I can’t relate with the second child but I’m 3 days over now and the waiting is so weird.
I find the tape measure thing so ridiculous and old fashioned, I’d really question the need for a growth scan if it were me. Do you not have a 41 wk midwife appointment booked in?

 

[CC1801]

Due date today and no real signs apart from occasional cramps and baby feeling low. I was 5 days early with my first so this is weird.

Also had my last midwife appointment yesterday where she’s now decided I need a growth scan as growth has slowed according to belly measurements. She had to fill in a form and apparently obstetrics will ring me. It could be today, it could be tomorrow, who knows. Looking at my graph I’m not too concerned but it’s just another thing to wait around for when I have to look after a toddler and then find care for and also when I’m waiting for labour! And of course your brain also runs loads of scenarios! Just not what I want or need really sigh.

I had a growth scan at 40 weeks as part of scheduled growth scans. The sonographer couldn't get a decent scan as the baby was so low they couldn't get any decent measurements. I know they midwife is just doing their job.

 

[LavaFlake]

No 41 week appointment but do have a stretch and sweep booked for next week if no joy. Had my scan today and all was well with baby. Just a weird waiting game now! Didn’t love the extra worry I had for the day but feel reasssured now

 

[georgiecait]

Right
I’m determined to get this baby out by the next Traitors episode.
Tried the Miles Circuit today and it left me so sore

 

[Curly]

Had a pretty scary time since new year with this baby. Had a huge bleed and had to be hospitalised, thankfully baby is ok but wow it has taken everything out of me. I was so looking forward to second trimester being better for me now my sickness has gone but it’s replaced with bleeding heartburn and exhaustion

 

[anonymous_flower]

Plonking myself here as I took a test on Saturday & I'm 2-3 weeks preggo! this will be my second and I know I'll be eating my words when it really hits me, but I'm SO excited, I have a 2 1/2 year old girl currently and I feel like she was just MEANT to be a big sister if that makes any sense
Self referred to the GP and got an early scan booked already LOL

 

[amarantine]

Congratulations! I have so much respect for anyone who decides to have second and even third babies - BabyA is 3 weeks old and I am never doing this again