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Hello all!
36 weeks today, I’ve had to go ahead from midwife to start colostrum harvesting. My first baby was born in one of the covid lockdowns, my appointments were always rushed and with different midwives each time so I didn’t really understand the benefits of colostrum harvesting and had no support with breast feeding so I was straight to formula- which we actually had no issues with and have a wonderfully healthy toddler!

Has anyone else had any success with collecting? I didn’t get much today and a bit disheartened, probably just overthinking about my last experience. Is it something that’s going to increase in time? I’m not going to stress too much about it as I got by without last time but really just wanted to give it a good go!
I’m in a local WhatsApp breastfeeding support group which you can join before birth and they were talking about this the other day and saying that sometimes you get what seems like hardly any out but that newborns wouldn’t need much at a time and not to be disheartened. Don’t know if that helps?
 
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Hello all!
36 weeks today, I’ve had to go ahead from midwife to start colostrum harvesting. My first baby was born in one of the covid lockdowns, my appointments were always rushed and with different midwives each time so I didn’t really understand the benefits of colostrum harvesting and had no support with breast feeding so I was straight to formula- which we actually had no issues with and have a wonderfully healthy toddler!

Has anyone else had any success with collecting? I didn’t get much today and a bit disheartened, probably just overthinking about my last experience. Is it something that’s going to increase in time? I’m not going to stress too much about it as I got by without last time but really just wanted to give it a good go!
Don’t stress! As others have said, it’s a wonderful bonus but not essential to a successful journey :)
I’ve fed 4 children, including twice through pregnancy and 2 tandem journeys so clearly have a strong supply…yet can’t for the life of me - harvest colostrum, hand express or pump! Maybe it’s my technique or maybe my boobs just don’t respond well but either way it’s not the be all and end all x
 
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Thank you so much everyone for your advice, feeling a lot better in myself now ❤

Now to just overcome feeling uncomfortable 24/7 😂😂
 
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I’m 36 weeks today and also planning to colostrum harvest as I didn’t get on with breastfeeding at all first time round and plan to
formula feed from the start. I’m going to hold off for a couple of weeks though as my partner goes away for 5 nights in a week and I don’t want to accidentally kick off labour early! 😂
 
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I’m 36 weeks tomorrow! The hospital gave me a colostrum harvesting kit so I’m gonna give it a go

the midwife told me if I can harvest colostrum it makes breastfeeding easier…but from what I’m hearing it doesn’t matter either way?
 
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22 with my first. Posterior placenta but there’s a fair amount of tummy large in front of the baby so that probably masks it a bit!
I felt a few movements at 22 weeks, very very sporadic so I panicked all the time but it does get stronger.
Sounds totally normal 💓
 
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Work’s really been doing a number on me this past week. We’re understaffed (arguably this is my fault because I’m the big boss and I haven’t hired someone new so I’m just knocking about trying to do the work for myself but it’s obviously a bit more complex than that) and a really really major Thing came along with an impossible deadline which I’ve had to go along with.

I’ve had to work a load of extra hours and I’m lucky because it’s all desk based stuff but I just can’t do it on this level like I did before getting knocked up. I worked super late on Friday night, spent Saturday going to IKEA on a 3 hour round trip to buy the Bub a cot and a chest of drawers to use as a changing table and a bunch of other things, then had to have a sleep when we got home, then yesterday spent some time with MotherDragName before coming home to do about 5 hours of work. I booked today off because a) it’s a bank holiday b) I’m pregnant and tired and c) MrDragName is going away for work for a week and I was going to spend today getting my tit together so me, the bump and the cat will survive the week in one piece and get enough nutrition etc. But no! Can I please join a Teams meeting because if I don’t then this big deadline (which I didn’t set even though I’m the client?!) falls apart.

I have literally had to tell people I’m pregnant and on the high risk pathway as a result of this nonsense that’s flared up and that they need to back off (as if I want to use my pregnancy as a weapon but I was being absolutely hammered) but it’s making no sodding difference. I could take TOIL later in the week or next week but hey, what’s the point? Nobody does my work when I’m not there and I’ve had to abandon a lot of work to attend to this deadline. I don’t need my weekends for rest in the same way as I did in the first trimester, but I really value the chill time because I still don’t sleep properly at night and I also appreciate being able to tick off a few ‘personal life’ tasks in readiness for JuniorDragName’s arrival. Not be chained to my work desk for hours on end doing work I arguably shouldn’t be doing, wishing I could instead spend the time loading all my worldly goods onto eBay and Vinted to a)make space for the bub and b)earn some pennies for the staggering pay drop I have ahead of me during Mat Leave. And other such things.

Sorry for the moan. I’m being a total princess diva I think. I show no signs of actually having a high risk pregnancy, but I do know I am the sort of person who gets stressed easily. And I’m large and old, which is excellent news for me. I have never really had that much regard for how much stress I’ve put on myself before but I am quite fiercely protective of the ear of corn sized fella lodging in my body right now.
 
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Had my 8 week scan a few weeks ago and all was looking great. The lady was very reassuring and we heard the heartbeat. I’m now almost 10 weeks and in typical form for me, am anxious that everything is okay as I just don’t feel anything at all. The mad bloating I had for a few weeks there has kind of calmed down and apart from heavy boobs in the morning, I just feel completely and utterly normal. Not due another scan until nearly 14 weeks, so am hoping I can relax a bit and just enjoy that I’m pregnant without the back of my mind going but are you really????
 
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Had my 8 week scan a few weeks ago and all was looking great. The lady was very reassuring and we heard the heartbeat. I’m now almost 10 weeks and in typical form for me, am anxious that everything is okay as I just don’t feel anything at all. The mad bloating I had for a few weeks there has kind of calmed down and apart from heavy boobs in the morning, I just feel completely and utterly normal. Not due another scan until nearly 14 weeks, so am hoping I can relax a bit and just enjoy that I’m pregnant without the back of my mind going but are you really????
I get you completely. It’s sort of a relief when the pregnancy symptoms subside/you learn to roll with them a bit more but it also makes you feel super anxious! I’d get a scan every week if I could just for the reassurance/to see him and know he’s still in there!
 
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Tell you what snack has been carrying me, (home done) popcorn. I popped 150g of kernels and that's TONS and is sat in the cupboard in airtight containers and the internet says it will keep for a week. It's low(er) calorie (not that I'm fastidiously counting but with every other day being irrational permahunger, I do not need to eat as much as I have been) but high fibre (helpful with fullness, helpful for my one of my other main symptoms which you can probably fathom)
 
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Work’s really been doing a number on me this past week. We’re understaffed (arguably this is my fault because I’m the big boss and I haven’t hired someone new so I’m just knocking about trying to do the work for myself but it’s obviously a bit more complex than that) and a really really major Thing came along with an impossible deadline which I’ve had to go along with.

I’ve had to work a load of extra hours and I’m lucky because it’s all desk based stuff but I just can’t do it on this level like I did before getting knocked up. I worked super late on Friday night, spent Saturday going to IKEA on a 3 hour round trip to buy the Bub a cot and a chest of drawers to use as a changing table and a bunch of other things, then had to have a sleep when we got home, then yesterday spent some time with MotherDragName before coming home to do about 5 hours of work. I booked today off because a) it’s a bank holiday b) I’m pregnant and tired and c) MrDragName is going away for work for a week and I was going to spend today getting my tit together so me, the bump and the cat will survive the week in one piece and get enough nutrition etc. But no! Can I please join a Teams meeting because if I don’t then this big deadline (which I didn’t set even though I’m the client?!) falls apart.

I have literally had to tell people I’m pregnant and on the high risk pathway as a result of this nonsense that’s flared up and that they need to back off (as if I want to use my pregnancy as a weapon but I was being absolutely hammered) but it’s making no sodding difference. I could take TOIL later in the week or next week but hey, what’s the point? Nobody does my work when I’m not there and I’ve had to abandon a lot of work to attend to this deadline. I don’t need my weekends for rest in the same way as I did in the first trimester, but I really value the chill time because I still don’t sleep properly at night and I also appreciate being able to tick off a few ‘personal life’ tasks in readiness for JuniorDragName’s arrival. Not be chained to my work desk for hours on end doing work I arguably shouldn’t be doing, wishing I could instead spend the time loading all my worldly goods onto eBay and Vinted to a)make space for the bub and b)earn some pennies for the staggering pay drop I have ahead of me during Mat Leave. And other such things.

Sorry for the moan. I’m being a total princess diva I think. I show no signs of actually having a high risk pregnancy, but I do know I am the sort of person who gets stressed easily. And I’m large and old, which is excellent news for me. I have never really had that much regard for how much stress I’ve put on myself before but I am quite fiercely protective of the ear of corn sized fella lodging in my body right now.
A) no apologising for venting. B) no you’re not being a diva - and if the company falls apart without you then you really need to be getting paid much much more. C) even when I was a management consultant and on the very rare occasions we would have to work on a bank holiday - it was exceptionally rare. So the fact that you are expected to work on a bank holiday is really tit. D) your body is growing life - easy to dismiss ourselves as old and large because society vilifies both but it’s doing something pretty epic. I have friends who are 10 years younger than me and they’ve had seriously rough pregnancies and all sorts of crazy medical issues - they’re also a. Size 10 so it’s not the be all and end all.
 
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Work’s really been doing a number on me this past week. We’re understaffed (arguably this is my fault because I’m the big boss and I haven’t hired someone new so I’m just knocking about trying to do the work for myself but it’s obviously a bit more complex than that) and a really really major Thing came along with an impossible deadline which I’ve had to go along with.

I’ve had to work a load of extra hours and I’m lucky because it’s all desk based stuff but I just can’t do it on this level like I did before getting knocked up. I worked super late on Friday night, spent Saturday going to IKEA on a 3 hour round trip to buy the Bub a cot and a chest of drawers to use as a changing table and a bunch of other things, then had to have a sleep when we got home, then yesterday spent some time with MotherDragName before coming home to do about 5 hours of work. I booked today off because a) it’s a bank holiday b) I’m pregnant and tired and c) MrDragName is going away for work for a week and I was going to spend today getting my tit together so me, the bump and the cat will survive the week in one piece and get enough nutrition etc. But no! Can I please join a Teams meeting because if I don’t then this big deadline (which I didn’t set even though I’m the client?!) falls apart.

I have literally had to tell people I’m pregnant and on the high risk pathway as a result of this nonsense that’s flared up and that they need to back off (as if I want to use my pregnancy as a weapon but I was being absolutely hammered) but it’s making no sodding difference. I could take TOIL later in the week or next week but hey, what’s the point? Nobody does my work when I’m not there and I’ve had to abandon a lot of work to attend to this deadline. I don’t need my weekends for rest in the same way as I did in the first trimester, but I really value the chill time because I still don’t sleep properly at night and I also appreciate being able to tick off a few ‘personal life’ tasks in readiness for JuniorDragName’s arrival. Not be chained to my work desk for hours on end doing work I arguably shouldn’t be doing, wishing I could instead spend the time loading all my worldly goods onto eBay and Vinted to a)make space for the bub and b)earn some pennies for the staggering pay drop I have ahead of me during Mat Leave. And other such things.

Sorry for the moan. I’m being a total princess diva I think. I show no signs of actually having a high risk pregnancy, but I do know I am the sort of person who gets stressed easily. And I’m large and old, which is excellent news for me. I have never really had that much regard for how much stress I’ve put on myself before but I am quite fiercely protective of the ear of corn sized fella lodging in my body right now.
Are you me lol or are we the same person? Had the same weekend work rit all weekend and I’m pissed off going in tomorrow which is never a good sign

They need to back off you or get some additional help for you!
 
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A) no apologising for venting. B) no you’re not being a diva - and if the company falls apart without you then you really need to be getting paid much much more. C) even when I was a management consultant and on the very rare occasions we would have to work on a bank holiday - it was exceptionally rare. So the fact that you are expected to work on a bank holiday is really tit. D) your body is growing life - easy to dismiss ourselves as old and large because society vilifies both but it’s doing something pretty epic. I have friends who are 10 years younger than me and they’ve had seriously rough pregnancies and all sorts of crazy medical issues - they’re also a. Size 10 so it’s not the be all and end all.
In Scotland the bank holidays are not so much of a thing. And my workplace is not the sort of place that shuts down for bank holidays in the main. However, being the big boss who has done her time of working bank holidays in her past, and pregnant, and facing a week flying solo without MrDragName who has been incredible throughout this whole pregnancy, I thought I’d take the day to relax a bit, sort through some things, make sure I have good food for the week and so on. Instead I worked for over 5 hours. I’ve cancelled it off as annual leave and will use some of the many, many toil hours for the extra time I didn’t work in the day.
The reason I was working will benefit me too, and it will be a cool thing to say I did in the organisation, but it’s still been an absolute ballache and I really hope I now get left alone for the rest of the week whilst the people I’m paying to do stuff get stuff done. I have no more info to give them!
 
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Are you me lol or are we the same person? Had the same weekend work rit all weekend and I’m pissed off going in tomorrow which is never a good sign

They need to back off you or get some additional help for you!
I’m so sad someone else got a battering at work. I am sort of glad I wasn’t alone but I would rather neither of us had this happening!

At the next directors meeting I’m probably going to ask to hire an administrator. We don’t have a dedicated admin person and that seems mad to me? I’d love a PA but can’t justify one. But someone with absolutely tit hot organisational skills would be an absolute god send for me right now generally because there’s just so much ‘stuff’ to do and so much ‘stuff’ that needs to be co-ordinated and catalogued and archived and scanned so the paper copies can be shredded and so on. Would genuinely enrich my life!
 
I’m so sad someone else got a battering at work. I am sort of glad I wasn’t alone but I would rather neither of us had this happening!

At the next directors meeting I’m probably going to ask to hire an administrator. We don’t have a dedicated admin person and that seems mad to me? I’d love a PA but can’t justify one. But someone with absolutely tit hot organisational skills would be an absolute god send for me right now generally because there’s just so much ‘stuff’ to do and so much ‘stuff’ that needs to be co-ordinated and catalogued and archived and scanned so the paper copies can be shredded and so on. Would genuinely enrich my life!
I hear you!! I have meetings this week to decide who can cover my role when I am on maternity as they don’t replace senior directors
I can tell they are starting to panic which makes me panic 🫣
 
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So I’m 36+1 and I tried to collect collostrum…guys it was a big fail 🤣 sat there for literally 40 mins massaging my boob, after a nice hot bath, lit a candle and everything. Not a single DROP. I wanted to cry 🤣

Do I just need to keep trying? Are my bits broken? 😢
 
So I’m 36+1 and I tried to collect collostrum…guys it was a big fail 🤣 sat there for literally 40 mins massaging my boob, after a nice hot bath, lit a candle and everything. Not a single DROP. I wanted to cry 🤣

Do I just need to keep trying? Are my bits broken? 😢
No, not at all! Baby will find the colostrum just fine. I'd give it a go next week again and see how you get on but don't sweat if you can't get any out, a lot of women struggle. The best I've got so far is a drop!
 
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So I’m 36+1 and I tried to collect collostrum…guys it was a big fail 🤣 sat there for literally 40 mins massaging my boob, after a nice hot bath, lit a candle and everything. Not a single DROP. I wanted to cry 🤣

Do I just need to keep trying? Are my bits broken? 😢
It took me a few nights to start getting even a drop. But about a week later I was getting 1ml, I don’t know if I was getting better at getting it out or it was my boobs, but keep trying. That said, baby will still manage to get colostrum out of you even if you can’t if you want to feed them when they’re here. They’re got very efficient little mouths 😂
 
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I’ve definitely got an aversion to certain smells. I’ve completely gone off whatever deodorant my husband uses to the point that I kicked him out of the bed last night as it’s all I could smell. Walked into the office this morning and someone is wearing that Sol De Janerio stuff which, typically, I found a bit naff but kind of inoffensive; but now feel like I’m choking on it it’s so strong and all consuming. Once again I’m sitting with my window open freezing my titties off cos it’s either that or smother. It’s unusual as before pregnancy I used to think my nose was broken as my sense of smell was so weak
 
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I’ve definitely got an aversion to certain smells. I’ve completely gone off whatever deodorant my husband uses to the point that I kicked him out of the bed last night as it’s all I could smell. Walked into the office this morning and someone is wearing that Sol De Janerio stuff which, typically, I found a bit naff but kind of inoffensive; but now feel like I’m choking on it it’s so strong and all consuming. Once again I’m sitting with my window open freezing my titties off cos it’s either that or smother. It’s unusual as before pregnancy I used to think my nose was broken as my sense of smell was so weak
I’ve always been a bit smell sensitive but it’s on another level now. I feel like a sniffer dog 🤣. Now it’s nice smells and not nice smells that send me into a tailspin whereas before it was usually only gross smells.

I’ve become really noise sensitive as well. I get very irritated by hearing other people’s music in the office (why no headphones?!) and the insanely loud way my husband coughs, sneezes and clears his throat is going to get me life in jail for murder 🤣 it’s such a heinous sound I can’t even replicate it without hurting myself!
 
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