Pregnancy #64

[Spencerskates]

newborn and toddler was easy to a point for us … it felt like for the first 6 weeks all my baby did was sleep and rarely cried, after that hell broke loose it did get easier again at 12 weeks .. and we still have bad days but you figure things out to make things work and it does get easier again.

all babies are different of course but for 6 weeks I really thought what on earth have we done

I’ve suddenly lost the ability to read

 

[anything at all]

I’ve suddenly lost the ability to read

aw they’re all different though !

I’m sure my first was never as much trouble as this second one

 

[ahtisyourself]

Have my first scan in a couple of days, where I will be 8 weeks. Am nervous as I still don't feel any symptoms at all but over the last few days I’m definitely noticing a bloated stomach. Did another test last night to ease my mind and still very much pregnant. Just hope there is something in there and that all is well. I just keep having this reoccurring thought that she will say there’s nothing there and I’ll be like of course there isn’t, what did you expect sure you felt nothing! But I’m sure those thoughts are all normal

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Have my first scan in a couple of days, where I will be 8 weeks. Am nervous as I still don't feel any symptoms at all but over the last few days I’m definitely noticing a bloated stomach. Did another test last night to ease my mind and still very much pregnant. Just hope there is something in there and that all is well. I just keep having this reoccurring thought that she will say there’s nothing there and I’ll be like of course there isn’t, what did you expect sure you felt nothing! But I’m sure those thoughts are all normal

I STILL get anxious before scans and I’m 21 weeks and I get days like today where I don’t “feel” my baby like all of a sudden my stomach muscles have come back and I can pull them in, also bump is slightly smaller and instead of appreciating a good day I just worry something has happened. Pregnancy is joyous….

 

[nolite]

Have my first scan in a couple of days, where I will be 8 weeks. Am nervous as I still don't feel any symptoms at all but over the last few days I’m definitely noticing a bloated stomach. Did another test last night to ease my mind and still very much pregnant. Just hope there is something in there and that all is well. I just keep having this reoccurring thought that she will say there’s nothing there and I’ll be like of course there isn’t, what did you expect sure you felt nothing! But I’m sure those thoughts are all normal

Exactly me last Thursday prior to my first scan, because I have been amazingly symptom free! I wouldn't even look at the monitor and just lay there studying the Consultant's face, convinced she was going to give bad news. We got good news thankfully and I am really hoping you do too! I'm already on to worrying now till the next one in a few weeks!

I really hadn't anticipated how constant the worry/anxiety is. It was so difficult and took so long for me to actually get pregnant (and came as a surprise as I was preparing for IVF) that I kind of hadn't even thought about what it would be like mentally if I actually got here. Bloody exhausting! It's like I can't fully relax and enjoy it/be excited at all.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Have my first scan in a couple of days, where I will be 8 weeks. Am nervous as I still don't feel any symptoms at all but over the last few days I’m definitely noticing a bloated stomach. Did another test last night to ease my mind and still very much pregnant. Just hope there is something in there and that all is well. I just keep having this reoccurring thought that she will say there’s nothing there and I’ll be like of course there isn’t, what did you expect sure you felt nothing! But I’m sure those thoughts are all normal

I get pre-scan anxiety, I think it is normal but saying ‘it’s normal’ doesn’t make the anxiety go away! Everything in there is teeny tiny at this point and some people don’t feel much if anything going on symptom wise. We’re all different! Don’t forget there are some women who don’t know they’re pregnant till they go into labour yes, that’s pretty extreme but it happens, we all exist on a glorious spectrum. Going to keep everything crossed for you

 

[calabazarock]

Ihave to say at 25(26?) weeks I don't feel anxious, but why people keep telling me about late losses and premature births? Wth? Don't need that right now.
It's so weird how people are present and not as well. A friend that we have never met IRL is very much always asking how I'm doing and to please relax and take it easy, as other people that live in the same city haven't asked much.

 

[LavaFlake]

Omg the early pregnancy tiredness this time around is brutal especially when you’ve got a 14 month old awake for hours in the night and then up at the crack of dawn because he’s done a massive poo How am I ever going cope with this ‍

 

[ollieplimsolls]

How long after referring yourself do they contact you to make your booking appointment?

 

[Hinchhater1442]

I had my NHS scan today and all looks good which is reassuring but now I’m convincing myself I still can’t tell anyone until my bloods are back to test for downs etc.. I bet after that I’ll find a new reason not to share the news!

 

[Scorpihoe]

I’m 34 weeks, I have all the symptoms, I feel my baby move constantly, I’ve had about 10 scans…

and last week I took a pregnancy test husband thinks I’m mad
Pregnancy is a wild ride, hormones are all over the place and the anxiety never goes away!

 

[lilykestrel]

How long after referring yourself do they contact you to make your booking appointment?

I did the self-referral on a Thursday (when I was estimated at 4 and a bit weeks) and had the call to arrange the booking appt a week and a half later, booking appointment was 9 days after

however probably massively depends on your trust and also I had the Easter bank hol in the middle of all that

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Went off to my obstetric physio appointment this morning, I’d been referred by the midwife because I’m having bladder weakness at night. She was lovely, the physio. It was a really intense hour of having to talk about something I’m fairly mortified about, so I was really uncomfortable but she did everything she could to make me not feel like a freak. She thinks I have an overactive bladder made worse by pregnancy. I have to keep a liquid input/output diary for 3 days, preferably consecutively, and am going back in a couple of weeks where I might have to have my pelvic floor muscles scanned and stuff. I’ve also been referred to a different physio team for my lower back and hip issues. She seemed a bit perplexed as to why I’d never been to the GP about any of this stuff. I pointed out that I once waited 6 months to go to the GP about my bad back, which had ‘gone’ when I got out of the shower one morning after going for a run and had never recovered and her diagnosis was ‘clinical obesity’. And that is pretty much all the GP (pretty much any GP) has ever wanted to say to me about anything. So, it’s weird to be pregnant and getting all this no questions asked, no judgement referrals to different places without anyone peering down their nose at me going ‘yeah but you’re just large, though’.

I guess the moral of the story is speak up to your midwife about any health things as there’s some amazing referral pathways I didn’t know existed until I was supported in here and now I’m finding even more now I’m in them!

 

[ollieplimsolls]

I did the self-referral on a Thursday (when I was estimated at 4 and a bit weeks) and had the call to arrange the booking appt a week and a half later, booking appointment was 9 days after

however probably massively depends on your trust and also I had the Easter bank hol in the middle of all that

Thank you! It’s just annoying because of my BMI I should take higher strength folic acid and my GP won’t prescribe unless the midwife contacts them but I don’t currently have a midwife

 

[RedPotter]

Went off to my obstetric physio appointment this morning, I’d been referred by the midwife because I’m having bladder weakness at night. She was lovely, the physio. It was a really intense hour of having to talk about something I’m fairly mortified about, so I was really uncomfortable but she did everything she could to make me not feel like a freak. She thinks I have an overactive bladder made worse by pregnancy. I have to keep a liquid input/output diary for 3 days, preferably consecutively, and am going back in a couple of weeks where I might have to have my pelvic floor muscles scanned and stuff. I’ve also been referred to a different physio team for my lower back and hip issues. She seemed a bit perplexed as to why I’d never been to the GP about any of this stuff. I pointed out that I once waited 6 months to go to the GP about my bad back, which had ‘gone’ when I got out of the shower one morning after going for a run and had never recovered and her diagnosis was ‘clinical obesity’. And that is pretty much all the GP (pretty much any GP) has ever wanted to say to me about anything. So, it’s weird to be pregnant and getting all this no questions asked, no judgement referrals to different places without anyone peering down their nose at me going ‘yeah but you’re just large, though’.

I guess the moral of the story is speak up to your midwife about any health things as there’s some amazing referral pathways I didn’t know existed until I was supported in here and now I’m finding even more now I’m in them!

I have an overactive bladder as well id just been through various tests with a urologist (which took about a year for the referral to come through after going back to the doctors repeatedly) and finally got some medication that helped before getting pregnant and then had to stop taking it!
My midwife suggested seeing an osteopath for back issues I had. This has helped massively as she discovered I had some damage potentially from a previous fracture which, when I'd been to doctors about after falling down the stairs they told me on two occasions it was just muscular and to take strong painkillers!! So I gave up pursuing it.

I'm so glad the physio went well for you as well and sounds productive!! I definitely agree with raising stuff with the midwives as well!

 

[MissP]

34+1 and I’ve hit a wall today. I’m really hoping when people say newborn plus toddler is easier than pregnant plus toddler that they’re not lying! 4 more weeks at work to go and considering finishing earlier. I really want to maximise time with baby though and went 15 days overdue first time so not sure what to do

Newborn + toddler is so much easier than heavily pregnant + toddler! (Although I would imagine it kind of depends on how chilled your newborn is - my toddler was incredibly high needs as a baby but my newborn is chilled AF.)

 

[ValleyRay]

Had my 12 week scan today, I was absolutely terrified as I had a period a few weeks ago where a lot of my symptoms seemed to have lessened (I even posted on here at the time), anyway... turns out I'm having twins twins don't run in either of our families so it's come as a complete shock

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Had my 12 week scan today, I was absolutely terrified as I had a period a few weeks ago where a lot of my symptoms seemed to have lessened (I even posted on here at the time), anyway... turns out I'm having twins twins don't run in either of our families so it's come as a complete shock

Wooooo!!!! What an incredible surprise.

 

[Shinythings]

Had my 12 week scan today, I was absolutely terrified as I had a period a few weeks ago where a lot of my symptoms seemed to have lessened (I even posted on here at the time), anyway... turns out I'm having twins twins don't run in either of our families so it's come as a complete shock

Oh wow! Congratulations!

This baby is what feels like twisting and squeezing my bladder and it's sending shooting pains through me. Not really sure what I can do about it but I'm having a moan.

 

[hazmaz]

38 weeks and loving hearing that people have found it easier toddler + newborn than toddler + pregnant. I am struggling!!!!