It’s not a pointless post. You needed to get your worries and feelings out and this is exactly what this group is for. I’m so sorry about all the comments as you say you know these people don’t mean it but they really need some thought before speaking. It’s an incredibly vulnerable time where you are analysing everything. I’m showing much quicker than my first BUT some days it’s pronounced and other days like today it’s like I’m not pregnant at all and it’s a real head duck. women can’t win. We’re too big, too small. Sending love - just try to breathe and at your next midwife app mention the anxiety. They will listen with a Doppler (mine managed to at my 16wk). Just keep talking to your baby and focus in on the positive xxxI've just had a bit of emotional breakdown this evening I am just feeling very overwhelmed. People keep making comments about my bump and how I'm not showing much etc etc, like I know people aren't meaning harm by these comments but it's adding to my anxiety that there is something wrong with the baby. Even my osteopath today though was like have your midwives said anything about the size of the baby as you haven't got much of a bump. Rationally everything was developing fine at my 20 week scan and I am naturally quite petite anyway my next midwife appointment is Friday, I am 25 weeks now and I know everyone shows differently as well.
And I went to put some pyjamas on this evening and nothing fits which isn't in the wash so that just started me off crying.
Also I find everyone keeps asking me questions about the baby and what we've got what we still need to get etc and never my partner which is just frustrating
This is a pointless post I just needed to let it all out sorry! Ah mental health and hormones are fun!
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Honestly everyone carries differently. If your medical team aren't worried, then you shouldn't be. I didn't really start to show until my late 20's/early 30's and even now at 34 weeks ish, I have a small bump but baby is bang on size and everything is as it should be. I am also petite and everyone said my bump would be huge but it just hasn't been like that. People are still incredibly ignorant when it comes to pregnancy and what a pregnant woman should look like.I've just had a bit of emotional breakdown this evening I am just feeling very overwhelmed. People keep making comments about my bump and how I'm not showing much etc etc, like I know people aren't meaning harm by these comments but it's adding to my anxiety that there is something wrong with the baby. Even my osteopath today though was like have your midwives said anything about the size of the baby as you haven't got much of a bump. Rationally everything was developing fine at my 20 week scan and I am naturally quite petite anyway my next midwife appointment is Friday, I am 25 weeks now and I know everyone shows differently as well.
And I went to put some pyjamas on this evening and nothing fits which isn't in the wash so that just started me off crying.
Also I find everyone keeps asking me questions about the baby and what we've got what we still need to get etc and never my partner which is just frustrating
This is a pointless post I just needed to let it all out sorry! Ah mental health and hormones are fun!
Thank you guys for the replies 
! I feel a bit better this morning had a good cry yesterday!
Exactly I do feel like some days my bump looks more pronounced then others and everyone shows differently and no two bumps are the same!
I have my 25 weeks appt Friday so will speak to my midwife then and I am sure they will say if they think there is any issues!. They are aware of my anxiety anyway. The reassuring thing is I feel baby girl moving around a lot!
! I feel a bit better this morning had a good cry yesterday! Exactly I do feel like some days my bump looks more pronounced then others and everyone shows differently and no two bumps are the same!
I have my 25 weeks appt Friday so will speak to my midwife then and I am sure they will say if they think there is any issues!. They are aware of my anxiety anyway. The reassuring thing is I feel baby girl moving around a lot!
Thank you for all your kind words
I keep thinkingI’m ok and I keep having waves of just sobbing. Right now I just don’t know how I’ll ever stop feeling sad
Nearly 12 weeks and I’ve stared to pee less.
Still twice in the night but in the day hardly. I am drinking as normal and quite worried.
Still twice in the night but in the day hardly. I am drinking as normal and quite worried.
Everyone always said to me my bump was tiny, then when I was being measured at my antenatal appointments it was on the 50th centile so actually bang average! Midwife made a comment while I was pregnant and then after that my bump was “all baby” so it’s just the way I carried.Thank you guys for the replies
Exactly I do feel like some days my bump looks more pronounced then others and everyone shows differently and no two bumps are the same!
I have my 25 weeks appt Friday so will speak to my midwife then and I am sure they will say if they think there is any issues!. They are aware of my anxiety anyway. The reassuring thing is I feel baby girl moving around a lot!
I struggled with digestive problems and was on and off antibiotics all through 3rd trimester so barely put on weight that wasn’t fluid or baby, which I think also made a difference to my overall shape.
Anyway sorry that me rail was just meant t show everyone carries differently and the only thing that matters is your midwives/team are happy
This has appeared on my face. Nearly 12 weeks, anyone else had this?
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I’m so sorry. Get all the support you need. Some counselling, when/if you feel ready, could help just to process things.Thank you for all your kind words
I’m ok and I keep having waves of just sobbing. Right now I just don’t know how I’ll ever stop feeling sad
I feel like my bump is bigger than average. I was measuring above the 97th centile on my 25 week appointment, but my growth scan was all fine. Baby is big (high 80’s centile), but nothing concerning.
people have asked how many weeks I am, and when I tell them they seemed shocked, they’re about to say “oh I thought you’d be further along” and then stop themselves
But I don’t care, my baby’s living in a villa
People need to stop commenting on women’s bodies, pregnant or not!
people have asked how many weeks I am, and when I tell them they seemed shocked, they’re about to say “oh I thought you’d be further along” and then stop themselves
But I don’t care, my baby’s living in a villa
People need to stop commenting on women’s bodies, pregnant or not!
Love that! My baby is living in a villa.I feel like my bump is bigger than average. I was measuring above the 97th centile on my 25 week appointment, but my growth scan was all fine. Baby is big (high 80’s centile), but nothing concerning.
people have asked how many weeks I am, and when I tell them they seemed shocked, they’re about to say “oh I thought you’d be further along” and then stop themselves
But I don’t care, my baby’s living in a villa
People need to stop commenting on women’s bodies, pregnant or not!
Has anyone ever rented bits for their babies??? We’re looking at renting a double pram as I don’t think we’ll need to use it long, but my eldest will still need one for a few months I reckon and I don’t want to buy one as it seems like a waste. I can rent a bugaboo donkey for £65 a month for 3 months? 
Personally if I had the money I’d buy then resell, it’d probably end up costing similar overall but at least if you find you want it longer than 3 months it gives you the option. That said, if you’re confident 3 months will do it, it saves the hassle of trying to sell if you rent. I’d just check the small print re any damage charges.Has anyone ever rented bits for their babies??? We’re looking at renting a double pram as I don’t think we’ll need to use it long, but my eldest will still need one for a few months I reckon and I don’t want to buy one as it seems like a waste. I can rent a bugaboo donkey for £65 a month for 3 months?
I think it's absolutely normal to be incredible sad even though you've decided it's the right decision. It's a very tough one. With time, you'll feel better.Thank you for all your kind words
I’m ok and I keep having waves of just sobbing. Right now I just don’t know how I’ll ever stop feeling sad
Thank you for all your kind words
I’m ok and I keep having waves of just sobbing. Right now I just don’t know how I’ll ever stop feeling sad
It’s a feeling I unfortunately know. You could have been me 3 years ago. Just know that we made the same decision you did, planned for our future and now have our baby years later in a much improved financial situation. I was extremely sad at the time but made the decision knowing it was the right thing to do in my heart, time really does heal all wounds even though it may not seem that way right now 🤍
Just had my 31 week midwife appointment and guess who is measuring above the 97th centile again they’ve sent me for a scan on Tuesday. I measured above the 97th centile in my last appointment so they referred me for a scan but the baby was all okay! A bit chunky but nothing concerning. I just don’t get it! My OGTT was negative. Am I just giving birth to a giant??
they’ve sent me for a scan on Tuesday. I measured above the 97th centile in my last appointment so they referred me for a scan but the baby was all okay! A bit chunky but nothing concerning. I just don’t get it! My OGTT was negative. Am I just giving birth to a giant??
My first consistently measured above the 97th centile. He was 8lbs 11oz when he was born so not quite as big as they expected!Just had my 31 week midwife appointment and guess who is measuring above the 97th centile again
Did he fit into newborn clothes by any chance? I’ve packed only newborn in my hospital bag but now I’m reconsidering 🫣
I gave birth to my 96th centiler last Wednesday and he doesn’t fit into any of the beautiful newborn or up to one month clothes I spent loads of money on 🫠 straight into 0-3.
My son was 97th centile I think??? Newborn did ‘fit’ but it was a bit snug and I didn’t like the fit so he went into 0-1 which was a bit more roomy for him - luckily I’d packed both into my hospital bag.
Noooo I’ve bought the most gorgeous onesies and little jumpers in newborn sizes 🥲 I don’t have that many 0-3
I’d better repack my hospital bag then! Thank you for the tip xx
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