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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
 
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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
Wait and see once your baby is born to see what name suits his or her little face. Lists can go out the window if needs be. If you need to take the whole 6 weeks then so what, do it. You've nobody else to please, take your own time naming your child, it's your choice.
 
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Has anyone had a slightly elevated blood pressure reading in the first trimester and managed to bring it down to normal? I read that normally your BP is lower than normal in 1st trimester so I'm worried it's only going to get higher and higher and cause me loads of problems throughout this pregnancy. If anyone has managed to bring it down how did you and how long did it take? Thanks!
Yes. I’d never had any higher blood pressure measurings until this pregnancy. I had my 16wk midwife app last week and the midwife was so kind and patient. She made me take several deep breaths and did it. Then said right let’s try that again and the second time it lowered so she said right I reckon it’ll come down because high blood pressure doesn’t just lower - it stays high. So we did it again. Turns out I’m just really anxious when I go in for my appointments.
 
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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
MrDragName refuses to take this seriously and his current name, which is just a wind up, is completely daft and makes it sound like our child is one of the Gladiators 🤣 I’ll be 17 weeks this week so I do have time on my side but if MrDragName doesn’t take it seriously I’m picking by myself!
 
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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
We've got 2 boy names we both really like. We are struggling for girl names though.

Annoyingly the girl names we've liked for years are super popular right now so we want to avoid them but then again if it's a lovely, classic name should you avoid it just because it's popular?

We want timeless names that are always in style.
 
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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
We’ve got our name picked so I hope she suits it when she arrives 😂

Has anyone has had experience with PGP but I mean severe PGP or a trapped nerve or sciatica ?
 
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is anyone else trying to hide their pregnancy as long as possible?

besides some extremely close people and my direct HR people, I have told nobody and kind of feel is the best till I am like, 30 weeks or so (now around week 12-ish). I just can't cope with unwanted opinions, odd comments, I am low-key traumatised by how it went when I overshared other life situations such as work changes, partner issues, health struggles etc

I am also realising I do not have as many friends as I thought, at least not in the sense of "I know this person wouldn't be weird about this" -- somehow almost nobody decided to have kids neither planning, I'd say is the stereotypical I may end up finding my new tribe soon
 
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is anyone else trying to hide their pregnancy as long as possible?

besides some extremely close people and my direct HR people, I have told nobody and kind of feel is the best till I am like, 30 weeks or so (now around week 12-ish). I just can't cope with unwanted opinions, odd comments, I am low-key traumatised by how it went when I overshared other life situations such as work changes, partner issues, health struggles etc

I am also realising I do not have as many friends as I thought, at least not in the sense of "I know this person wouldn't be weird about this" -- somehow almost nobody decided to have kids neither planning, I'd say is the stereotypical I may end up finding my new tribe soon
This!! I am shocked at how reluctant I’ve been to tell people. I’m 12 weeks later this week but I always knew I wouldn’t tell people apart from close family and my best friend about any pregnancy until after the 12 week scan but I’ve not even told the majority of close family. My boyfriend’s mum still doesn’t know (she can be OTT and we didn’t want to be overwhelmed by her) and our siblings don’t know. Seems like most people will be finding out after my scan next week. Even then that will still just be family members and some close friends. I’m not announcing on SM as I know how gutting a pregnancy post can be for others but I also just don’t want everyone knowing. I thought I was being a weirdo. 😂
 
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I’ve not been reluctant to tell people per se - it’s more everything feels too good to be true and the more people I tell the more I feel like I’m jinxing stuff. We waited until 12 weeks to tell immediate family and close friends. But also - I cannot hide because I look like I’m 7 months pregnant already 🙃
 
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We've got 2 boy names we both really like. We are struggling for girl names though.

Annoyingly the girl names we've liked for years are super popular right now so we want to avoid them but then again if it's a lovely, classic name should you avoid it just because it's popular?

We want timeless names that are always in style.
Our little boy has a top 10 name but actually we don’t know anyone else with a similar age toddler with the same name and no one in his nursery with it! Having another boy and gone for another top name. I think if it’s a classic you can’t really go wrong
 
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How is everyone getting on with names? I’m 34 weeks and don’t feel particularly close to settling on anything. We’ve separately been through the top 1000(!) and picked shortlists, but only ONE name was on both our lists and not a particular fave by either of us. We have the added complication that we’re a mixed race couple so the name needs to work in both cultures. I can see us needing the whole six weeks before the registration deadline!
We are 19 weeks with our 2nd (already have a boy) and we’re not finding out the gender but we are convinced we’re having another boy. We have our girl name which we have loved from the start but have no boys name. It’s not even that we can’t agree, we just cannot find one we like enough to discuss properly. I know we have lots of time but we’re finding it quite stressful.
 
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is anyone else trying to hide their pregnancy as long as possible?

besides some extremely close people and my direct HR people, I have told nobody and kind of feel is the best till I am like, 30 weeks or so (now around week 12-ish). I just can't cope with unwanted opinions, odd comments, I am low-key traumatised by how it went when I overshared other life situations such as work changes, partner issues, health struggles etc

I am also realising I do not have as many friends as I thought, at least not in the sense of "I know this person wouldn't be weird about this" -- somehow almost nobody decided to have kids neither planning, I'd say is the stereotypical I may end up finding my new tribe soon
I’ve told the people I work closest to at work, the teams I manage. But, in terms of my organisation I am ‘high profile’ and the thought of having to send out some sort of email or something going ‘yes, that’s right, I’m knocked up!’ Gives me the ick. I’m sure people will either be happy for me or not particularly bothered but I just don’t like the attention. I’ve also fallen pregnant earlier in my time in the job than I thought I would so it feels like I only just got here and now I’m off….
 
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The past couple of days I’ve had heart palpitations. Nothing serious, but so unnerving. Had a google and I can see it’s ’normal’ though I will mention it at my midwife appointment. I’ve also felt a bit like Sigourney Weaver in the famous scene in alien, I assume young Junior is having a little growth spurt or something.

Still, heart palpitations to add to a seemingly never ending list of symptoms nobody tells you about. Pregnancy is a non-stop party 🙃
 
Yes. I’d never had any higher blood pressure measurings until this pregnancy. I had my 16wk midwife app last week and the midwife was so kind and patient. She made me take several deep breaths and did it. Then said right let’s try that again and the second time it lowered so she said right I reckon it’ll come down because high blood pressure doesn’t just lower - it stays high. So we did it again. Turns out I’m just really anxious when I go in for my appointments.
This is me generally and always has been I have to say, slap a blood pressure monitor on me and away it goes I've had the most deranged readings all throughout my twenties and thirties, thankfully most doctors are super experienced and relaxed about it but I've struck fear into a few dramatic nurses and Boots pharmacists with my mad readings so my pregnancies were always fun in that department.
I've definitely got white coat syndrome and need get a grip but something just takes over the moment the cuff goes on, like you during the appointments my BP just naturally starts to lower but it's very frustrating I've ended up on 24hr ambulatory monitors and ECGs all fine, I don't pay much mind to it all now tbh.
 
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I’ve told the people I work closest to at work, the teams I manage. But, in terms of my organisation I am ‘high profile’ and the thought of having to send out some sort of email or something going ‘yes, that’s right, I’m knocked up!’ Gives me the ick. I’m sure people will either be happy for me or not particularly bothered but I just don’t like the attention. I’ve also fallen pregnant earlier in my time in the job than I thought I would so it feels like I only just got here and now I’m off….
It's honestly so embarrassing basically announcing to work you've had sex with your Husband.
 
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We’ve got our name picked so I hope she suits it when she arrives 😂

Has anyone has had experience with PGP but I mean severe PGP or a trapped nerve or sciatica ?
Meeeeeeeeeee!! See my posts from 2 weeks ago about being unable to walk 😂😂
 
It's honestly so embarrassing basically announcing to work you've had sex with your Husband.
EXACTLY! And at 40 there are people in the team who are almost young enough to be my children (if I wasn’t arriving so late to the parenthood party) and so I am sure the idea will be beyond gross to them 🤣🤣🤣
 
EXACTLY! And at 40 there are people in the team who are almost young enough to be my children (if I wasn’t arriving so late to the parenthood party) and so I am sure the idea will be beyond gross to them 🤣🤣🤣
I went a shade of beetroot and mumbled it quietly in the team meeting but that backfired because no one heard and I had to say it again louder 😭
 
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