I’m only 16 and a bit weeks but I’m being destroyed by nighttime bladder weakness and constipation. I’ve always been the kind to need to get up once in the night most nights for a wee but now it’s 3-4 times a night waking up absolutely desperate and sometimes having leaks. I have so long to go I’m worried I’m going to need some industrial strength tena lady come the third trimester. I do lots of kegels but I’m now seeing TikTok’s talking about how too many kegels can mess your bladder function up so I’m like

. I get super thirsty in the evenings no matter how much I drink in the day. I have one cup of caffeinated coffee in the morning, a very occasional daytime can of full
large coke, otherwise I am on the fruity teas, water, squash etc. any tips?
Constipation is totally new to me. I used to have some sort of self-diagnosed IBS pre pregnancy which I think was a manifestation of my anxiety, so I’d have the runs every morning pretty much without fail. Now going to the toilet is a serious challenge. I never took the iron supplements I was given at the maternity unit because my iron levels were fine in my blood. I was taking the iron supplements I used to take pre-pregnancy which was the same stuff at a much lower dose but I stopped that over a week ago. I take magnesium 3 in 1 at night one of which is supposed to have a bit of a laxative effect. Nada. The internet says I should increase my fibre which I’ll try and to also increase my hydration. If I increase my hydration my bladder problems at night will get considerably worse and I’ll be forced to sleep on rubber sheets
I have a midwife appt this week and I’ll raise it but tbh she talks too fast and too furiously for me (which is really saying something) and bamboozled me last time. And my poor husband, who is from another part of the UK, struggles with everyone’s accents so just feels lost in the appointments! I’d prefer not to take ‘stuff’ although there will be pregnancy safe things I could take, but I am really struggling with this now and again, there’s a long way to go!