Pregnancy #64

[jimmyj123]

ketones in urine should I be worried? Guessing it wasn’t too much as midwife didn’t seem that bothered by it but this is the first time it’s happened so confused

 

[Keera]

ketones in urine should I be worried? Guessing it wasn’t too much as midwife didn’t seem that bothered by it but this is the first time it’s happened so confused

was it an early morning appointment and had you had much to eat before?

 

[jimmyj123]

was it an early morning appointment and had you had much to eat before?

Mid morning and I had eaten! Not drank much though

 

[Keera]

Mid morning and I had eaten! Not drank much though

sometimes not eating a lot of carbs for a while before testing or suffering badly with vomiting can cause it (unsure if you have or not). If she didn’t indicate anything it was likely just a trace of ketones and they’ll monitor to make sure it isn’t increasing then test for gestational diabetes if it does (unless your getting tested for GD already for any other reason) xx

 

[calabazarock]

What week did you guys tell work? My work isn’t particularly arduous. Just sit at a desk all day tap tapping. Nearly all of the top dogs are men so I (immaturely) feel a bit icky telling them I’m duffed, but will need to spill the beans eventually. I’m not really showing yet and still wearing all my usual work gear so nobody suspects anything. There’s a huge part of me that hates that I have to tell them. I love only a small group of people knowing and I just don’t want to have to talk about every symptom, ache and if I have a name chosen yet every time I bump into someone in the canteen. Especially when I know these people do not actually give a tit and are only asking because I’m now the talking point.

I told my manager at 11 weeks and my team at 13. I was asked to switch to my old team few weeks ago. Some people knew because we are close. Since it's wfh, I've pretended to just not listen when people that I don't like ask stuff or plainly tell them I don't wish to discuss my pregnancy.

 

[ahtisyourself]

Another anxious pregnancy brain fart incoming! Hear my irrational thoughts out so I’ve been trying to eat super healthily this pregnancy and have been eating an avocado with my lunch everyday.. but had this intrusive thought that avocados are vitamin a, and vitamin a isn’t good for baby… so why are encouraged to eat them and should I limit my daily consumption I love them, so hopefully not! But the vitamin a thing confuses me

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Another anxious pregnancy brain fart incoming! Hear my irrational thoughts out so I’ve been trying to eat super healthily this pregnancy and have been eating an avocado with my lunch everyday.. but had this intrusive thought that avocados are vitamin a, and vitamin a isn’t good for baby… so why are encouraged to eat them and should I limit my daily consumption I love them, so hopefully not! But the vitamin a thing confuses me

I think that you would need to eat a significant amount of avocado to get an overdose of vitamin A. And I’m sure the healthy fats, fibre and Folate balances that out. If there were any danger there’d be advice like how you shouldn’t eat too much tuna.

 

[calabazarock]

Exactly, I understand only something like liver could be too much vitamin A, but like eating the whole thing or something.

 

[ahtisyourself]

Ah great, thanks! Stay tuned for more anxious and whacky intrusive thoughts live as they happen

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I’m really struggling with the nausea and fatigue of the first trimester. I work a corporate job and worked most of the weekend... Any tips to make things easier? I’ve not told anyone at work yet (and don’t want to until after the 12 week scan).

The struggle is real! I nibbled on food all day because I was lucky not to be vomiting, just nauseous. Salty snacks were my preference (lightly salted tortilla chips were god tier!) but I tried to keep it varied and relatively healthy.

The fatigue was awful. I would go to bed at 8pm at night and sometimes just have to sleep my whole weekend away. It’s hard when there is an expectation that you’ll put in extra hours. I did once to get a funding application done and it about ended me. I ended up having to tell a very select few people a bit earlier than I’d wanted but I personally felt I had to because of reasons. I’d rather not have! But they are obliged to get a risk assessment done as soon as you disclose and make reasonable adjustments. Working to your contracted hours is a reasonable adjustment!

 

[Patsy Stone]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

 

[Keera]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

I went away at 20 weeks and my regular swimsuit fitted fine x

 

[Spencerskates]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

If you’re between sizes, go for the bigger size, otherwise your normal swimwear should be fine at that point (assuming you mean swimsuits?). I went swimming at 38 weeks and just wore a bikini in my usual size - I did try my swimsuit and was violently humbled

 

[calabazarock]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

I think maternity sizing will be too much. As long as is not one of those that has extra compression in the tummy, you should be good with regular sizing. Do bare in mind boobs grow, so something stretchy there as well.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

I went at 19-20 weeks and took bikinis I had worn before and maternity swimsuits. I’m a plus size lady anyway and both types fitted fine. The swimsuits were designed to be a bit ruched so they were a bit roomy in the belly but looked ok.

 

[Londonsays]

Advice needed please… going on holiday end of June for 2 weeks (booked beforehand, not sure how pregnant me is going to cope with the heat ). I will be 17-19 weeks. Swimwear - do I buy the same size and hope it will stretch or do I size up or do I buy maternity sizing?

I went to Shein and got maternity swimwear as I got a swimming costume in a bigger size from Matalan and it doesn’t sit well so I thought I would get a couple of cheaper bits from Shein. I just went with my normal size and I’ve tried it all on and it seems like it would be flattering for smaller or bigger bumps.

 

[sushimama]

I bought one size up (because my boobs were non existent before pregnancy) and bottoms that tie and was able to wear them at 20week holiday, 34 week babymoon and will also be able to wear them this year while BF!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I had a right hormonal wobble yesterday. I told some people at work my news and I read a bit too much into their facial expressions. I’ve not even been in my job a full year yet (but nearly) and the timing of my pregnancy isn’t brilliant from a work perspective, based on everything that’s going on there. However, babies don’t work like that, I get it. I am the ‘top of the hierarchy’ at work but I don’t think I’m some sort of essential person at all. There are probably better people than me who could lead the place. I just felt this weird pang of having let people down, let the organisation down, and being denied the chance to truly sink my teeth into the work that needs to be done. Which of course was immediately matched by feeling horrendous for thinking this way when the road to getting pregnant was a bit miserable a lot of the time and I’m so lucky to have fallen pregnant naturally and having a healthy pregnancy. So I cried quite a lot last night and I still feel tit today about absolutely all of it. My hormones don’t help, ofc. I don’t even really know how to resolve this one in my head. Next week I have to tell the rest of the staff (though I suspect I actually won’t have to because once enough people know, everyone knows!), and I’m dreading it anyway without thinking about my own reaction to this.

I guess this is coupled with feeling a bit overwhelmed about absolutely everything. Work is insane, I feel like there’s a crazy list of jobs at home and all I really want to do is have a nice cosy nap or ten.

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

I had a right hormonal wobble yesterday. I told some people at work my news and I read a bit too much into their facial expressions. I’ve not even been in my job a full year yet (but nearly) and the timing of my pregnancy isn’t brilliant from a work perspective, based on everything that’s going on there. However, babies don’t work like that, I get it. I am the ‘top of the hierarchy’ at work but I don’t think I’m some sort of essential person at all. There are probably better people than me who could lead the place. I just felt this weird pang of having let people down, let the organisation down, and being denied the chance to truly sink my teeth into the work that needs to be done. Which of course was immediately matched by feeling horrendous for thinking this way when the road to getting pregnant was a bit miserable a lot of the time and I’m so lucky to have fallen pregnant naturally and having a healthy pregnancy. So I cried quite a lot last night and I still feel tit today about absolutely all of it. My hormones don’t help, ofc. I don’t even really know how to resolve this one in my head. Next week I have to tell the rest of the staff (though I suspect I actually won’t have to because once enough people know, everyone knows!), and I’m dreading it anyway without thinking about my own reaction to this.

I guess this is coupled with feeling a bit overwhelmed about absolutely everything. Work is insane, I feel like there’s a crazy list of jobs at home and all I really want to do is have a nice cosy nap or ten.

I understand that. I used to have quite a high powered job and I felt like that. Until they utterly screwed me over and now I just think I won’t ever pour myself into a company (unless it’s one I own) ever again because ultimately I was just a drone and if a company ever needs to “save” money they don’t care. I miss the money

 

[lilykestrel]

I've been signed off work for two weeks with stress work related not related to the pregnancy (although the small green olive sized guy/gal was of course a factor in me stopping trying to put up with the rit and just temporarily get the hell out of there and consider my options)

On a scale of 1 - Absolute head, how much of a cheeky wotsit would I be if I started going for other jobs and should I get it pull a Cilla "surprise surpriiiiiise"

(I'm in the public sector and not planning on leaving my organisation because no chance am I sacrificing the maternity entitlement I've earned through my years of service because someone else is playing silly buggers)