Pregnancy #62

[Shinythings]

Just to reassure you that I had this, I went to a spin class and came back to some spotting, lasted a few hours and then stopped. It's highly likely to be implantation bleeding and is totally normal.

(When I called our midwifery service about it they wouldn't even entertain talking to me before 10 weeks... just in case you get the same response!)

It's stopped again, but might start again like it did before. I'll call them in a bit. It just amazes me they don't tell you what's normal. I know everyone is different but they could at least have something that says X is normal but call us if you see Y.

 

[Greencatfysh]

37 weeks and I can’t believe it writing this but what is with all the discharge? I constantly feel like my waters have broken but they deffo haven’t!!!

Yep, it’s lovely!!

 

[littlepup]

Unfortunately the statistics have caught up with me. I had a 10 week scan this morning and the baby died at 8 weeks. I always knew that she had a miserable chance of survival, but I honestly thought I'd be one of the lucky ones. It wasn't to be.

Not the best topic for a pregnancy thread, but I have a choice of letting things go naturally (it's been 2 weeks and nothing has happened, except I thought I was handling the sickness too well ). I have the choice of taking drugs, this will force the miscarriage before half term next week, but I'm concerned that it might be more painful? Can anyone help?

Spoiler: Reply TW

I’m so sorry.
Regarding the way forward, I would personally be inclined to take the drugs. The longer it goes on, imo, the harder it becomes mentally. Waiting turned into medical management for me.

 

[Elisha97]

I've been told I will have consultant led care for my current pregnancy due to my previous gestational hypertension induction. Can anyone advise me on what this means/entails? Had my booking appointment tonight and I've struggled to retain what the midwife said thank you in advance x

I have a consultant and honestly I don’t feel like it means a lot of difference I still see the midwives but I have extra appointments and extra monitoring (no extra scans yet) at our local hospital and they have me in around the same time I’m due at the midwives to basically do all the same tests and ask the same questions. It’s the basic tests each time and they ask how you’re doing and would maybe send you to triage if anything was off. The only thing they really do is chase up my other consultants for advice and I’ve had appointments with other specialities much faster. I’ve like 8-9 weeks left so I’m not sure if anything else would change, it probably would if they weren’t happy with any of my test results

 

[anything at all]

I have a bit of an embarrassing question - how do you tell the difference between leaking waters, wee and discharge?! I’m experiencing fairly wet underwear mostly in the mornings, it doesn’t smell of nothing but it also smells of something… it could also just be sweat because I’m waking up so sweaty during the night. I’m 37+6 today. According to Google I would know if it’s my waters breaking and also that leaking urine is very common… I don’t really want to have to go in to get checked unless I really need to

For me when mine was leaking it was a constant leaking.. so I was certain it was that. I think it can be a slower trickle though so it would be worth going in and getting checked I’d think!

 

[LockdownLurker2020]

With my first baby i had a 4d scan a bit late i think i was almost 33 weeks and i deffo regretted not going sooner as her face was all smushed cos she was so comfy and low and i had an anterior placenta. Ive got my 4d scan booked in this time for 27 weeks and again i have an anterior placenta but hoping because im going earlier this time baby 2 wont look as smushed… thats if they stay still long enough theyre a right wriggler!

 

[littlepup]

I’ve never heard of this place but it sounds wild!

https://www.bongosbingo.co.uk/ they do events around the country. It’s fun but nuts!

 

[Poppykisses87]

Has anyone done the sneak peak test at 6 weeks? Tempted to order it and do it in 2 weeks, I’m just so impatient 🥲 but I also want to ride the wave and just enjoy the pregnancy and all the wondering haha

OMG I’ve just realised you are from the TTC thread too! Congrats!

I shall be doing the sneak peak test in a couple of weeks too x

 

[Vmanxx]

Nearly 14 weeks, bought a bunch of clothes and nothing looks good I look frumpy, mumsy or just chubby tummied but all my clothes are tight and uncomfortable now.
went for a mix of maternity and just stretchy but it all looks shit

 

[Greencatfysh]

Fingers crossed you get a positive experience. I’m with you on the shared wards. I hate hospital wards.

totally agree - I hate that you either have to pay £20k to go private here or hope you can get a private room. Our hospital has them but it’s a gamble whether you get one. Seems such an added stress when the year is 2024! Also ditto with the partners having to leave. Why should I have to go through birth and then my partner has to leave and I have to lie there in pain looking after a newborn!

 

[Scorpihoe]

is it okay to get BIAB done? Just wondering if the gel and the uv lamps are safe?

also I know I should limit my caffeine intake, so I’ve stopped all coffee and fizzy drinks, but is decaf alright? Or should I look for something with 0 caffeine like fruit teas?

sorry if these questions are so silly, I have no one else to ask and no midwife yet my gp just referred me today!

 

[JombleWomble]

Hello ladies.

I was looking to book antenatal classes for me and my husband and was wondering if any of you have any strong opinions on NCT or Bump and Baby Club?

A pregnant friend is doing them both (?!) but I will definitely only get hubby to go to one lot, not to mention the expense. Does anyone have any experience with either? Xx

We had our first NCT group last night. I only really booked it because I wanted to meet other people whose babies will be growing up at the same time as mine, but I really enjoyed it! It was just the right mix of information and casual chat. I have heard that Bump & Baby Club is better for diversity, but they don't run one in our area so I can't confirm whether that's true.

 

[Greencatfysh]

Which one did you get?

Ours came last week and currently sitting in the house waiting to be put together.

How do women get through the last weeks of pregnancy functioning at work? I'm 33 weeks today and have 5.5 weeks left before maternity leave. I loathe to go off earlier but really don't know how I'm going to get through the final weeks. I have an office job and can WFH so it's not even that bad. I really admire women with physical jobs because I wouldn't survive.

Totally agree! I WFH and have basically given up now even trying luckily my team are pretty chilled. I’m off camera now for all calls and on the sofa as was finding my desk chair too uncomfortable. I’m 37+3 so in the same boat with wanting to take it as close as poss to the due date.

 

[Shinythings]

That’s awful!! I would put in a complaint


I think unfortunately a lot struggle with wakeups and staying asleep in the first trimester, I know mine got better in the second. I’m not actually sure what can be done about it though

I know it's par for the course but figured if the midwife was suggesting it might be worth sampling some sleep meds I thought it was worth a try. But now she was so horrible I almost don't want to try it now

 

[Bingobango]

Slight trigger warning of infection and loss ahead!

Not sure what to do.. I’m sure I’m only panicking as I’m pregnant after a couple of losses/ scares but I’m 30 weeks and I’ve raging sinusitis and a temperature too. The baby feels like she’s moved less today but then I wouldn’t know as I’ve spent loads of it asleep and couldn’t manage any food, just water. I’m trying to work out if she’s following her normal pattern now I’m up but so far she’s moved a little but pretty quiet.. but is it just because I have been?! Google says I only have to worry about temperature in the first trimester but I’m scarred by some of the loss groups I attended where some of the poor women sadly lost their babies to infection at all stages.

Would you ring triage? Would you take anything for this? Is sinusitis at 30+ weeks a worry?

I had Covid a few weeks ago and it felt like baby was moving less. Was worried all my coughing was hurting the baby I phoned triage just cause the more I thought about it the more I worried they were happy to out my mind at ease and as soon as they placed the copper on we could hear his heartbeat going strong. They said that because I had changed my routine, staying in bed all day that the baby could have changed his.
But deffo get it checked if worried. It put my mind at ease

 

[Greencatfysh]

Did anyone go on a babymoon or are any of you planning a babymoon? If so, where are you going (or where have you been?) and how far along will you be (or were you?)?

Baby is expected about 8 weeks before our wedding so Mr Rosey and I have canned our joint hen/stag do (which was honestly just going to be us two going out on the piss in Glasgow ) and we’re wanting ideas on babymoons or things we can do before she arrives.

We went to Turkey when I was about 16 weeks along and then a weekend in Spain when I was 22 weeks. Highly recommend! Obviously it was summer so had a few more choices on where to go! But I would squeeze in as much as you can xx

 

[Angrysue_]

I feel like that would happen to me

I would be gutted if that happened to me jesus you need a few weeks to prepare

 

[anything at all]

Prams/travel systems really are so expensive for something that’s not even used for that long really. I’m glad we never spent thousands on our first!
As soon as they’re sitting up you likely consider replacing the travel system with a compact stroller that takes less room in the boot/house so the travel system is then a waste of money.

With my first pregnancy someone on the threads here recommended kinderkraft, only downside is I don’t think you can try them out in stores but their prices are much friendlier!! We had their b-tour system with my first and will clean it up and use it again for the second (unless we need a double pram). Maybe not to everyone’s style but thought I’d mention them as a cheaper option.

But absolutely get an idea of what you want and check Facebook marketplace, don’t feel like you have to spend thousands just because others do

 

[Spencerskates]

I had one at 16 weeks with my 3rd, it was very very obvious he was a boy at that stage, no mistaking it. They went to 3d for a bit as well which was even more clear. I’ve got one booked for 16+4 in 2 weeks x

I think boys are usually a little clearer. Baby Skate no1 loved showing his tail off on his scans. 20 week one he was literally positioned with his bum against my belly and legs apart so that was the first shot we got . Luckily we’d already found out what we were having and didn’t want a surprise!

 

[themuffinwoman]

When I had my daughter 17 months ago it was notes notes notes and still is apparently at the hospital I gave birth at. That being said, I had to go to A&E when I was 14 weeks pregnant and offered everyone Inc the drunk on the floor (no, really) my notes and nobody wanted to look through them