Pregnancy #62

[themuffinwoman]

They’ve been on and off too but quite constant today, I do feel like it’s just a leaky bladder as I can barely move without my pelvic muscles feeling like they’re ripping apart.. I might give it a day and then go get checked on the weekend if it’s still happening quite so much. The midwife I called today said it doesn’t sound like waters and if it was waters I’d know (it would feel like a warm trickling..!)

Sorry I feel like I’m trolling the pregnancy thread after leaving it 18 months ago but to confirm I really didn’t know I was erring on the side of caution when I rang them, I had been very sweaty for a few days (everywhere not just between my legs ) and I woke up very hot as usual but between my legs felt a little damp. There was no dripping, trickling, gushing and I didn’t feel anything other than dampness.

I have a friend who had no idea her waters had gone by the time she was in labour and her and her boy ended up with infections, not saying that to scare you but some people really don’t notice at all so for the midwife to say that is really surprising.

 

[Angrysue_]

I will be 38+2 on my last day on Friday. I have a mentally demanding job but it's a desk job so not physically tiresome. It has been hard though, especially the last few weeks. I'm being stingy and want more time on the other side so have tried to last as long as possible.

Yeah that's what I want. More time on the other side, it just makes sense doesn't it. I will be office based towards the end so hoping that will help me. It's just going to be the aches and pains and driving etc. I think I might be due some sickness though towards the end to balance it out

 

[Greencatfysh]

This is my PSA to anyone putting off building baby equipment - we just spent a good four hours building our pram, travel system and this ridiculous bassinet thing we’ve got for downstairs. It turned out ok but it was defective and we had to manually dismantle and fix part of it. Don’t leave it til you’re too pregnant!!

 

[Kaylarina]

Just realised if this pregnancy goes like the other 2, I only have 3 weeks left and we have nothing sorted If everyone wasn't asleep, I think I'd start pulling things out of boxes!

Note to everyone: Do not move (especially countries!) in your third trimester

 

[RoseyThorney]

On another rant about pregnancy things that annoy me.. I have quite a few friends/ family members/ people I know that make no effort to see me now but want to come round as soon as the baby is born and see her?? Like these people live round the corner up to 15 mins drive away and have said stuff like ‘we must meet up when the baby is here’ and ‘you will let me come see the baby won’t you’. But the same people completely ignore me and never see me now despite me asking and always trying; I’m someone who goes out a lot and always makes the effort and makes plans to see people

Maybe I’m being sensitive but.. Our baby is due in Jan and I need a C section.. why the F would I want to see you after major surgery at the peak of all the winter illnesses with a newborn when you couldn’t be bothered to see me while I was still pregnant or even before then?? Or even speak to me for that matter? The same people ignored me during my miscarriages and tough times so I’m feeling extra irate about it

I’m getting this too and I think it’s completely valid to be annoyed by it! People who don’t check in on you but want to suddenly be around when the baby is here just tells me that they only view mothers as incubators. I don’t have a relationship with one of my SILs but she seems to think she can be up mine and the baby’s arse once she’s here. Fat chance.

 

[RoseyThorney]

So sorry to hear this, I can’t comprehend how they could possibly think this!

I can’t comprehend it either. If I told them in person or over the phone, I’d be blindsiding them and not giving them space to react in private. If I told them via text it’s bad sportsmanship blah blah blah.

I told them via text to protect myself from THEIR immediate bad reaction and to take my step-mum’s difficult feelings about not having kids of her own into consideration. Amongst many things said, there was a comment about why they’re the last to know about previous losses… it’s like they forgot how horrible they were to me after my first one!

I have a phone call with them to look forward to later.

 

[101d]

I relate. I'm in a similar position. I have friends who work in the same profession elsewhere and they get full pay for 3-6 months.

Well, there goes my loyalty! At least I won't be pressured into going back I guess.

 

[yankydoo]

I was seen without my notes but they did tell me to try and keep them on me moving forward. Does seem weird to me to take my notes to the office and back but I guess it also makes sense, so I will try and do it from now on.

 

[AL10]

I’ve had my 32 week growth scan today and they’ve estimated she’s about 4lb10oz and they said everything’s normal which I’m so grateful for! Was wondering if anyone had the same size baby for 32 weeks and if so what did they weight when born? I see a big baby in my future lol!

She’s also breech but they aren’t worried until 36 weeks but I’m a bit worried about it, did anyone else have this?

 

[sushimama]

Ahh that's great news, so happy to hear!

I've just done my glucose test, was a little surprised I got a little dizzy after about 30mins but I went out to get some fresh air and felt fine after. But actually the worst part was that I had to be there at 6.30 am.

 

[BWinter]

Just wondered if this is something to be concerned about. I'm 9.5 weeks and just don't feel pregnant anymore. Practically all my symptoms have gone apart from maybe getting out of breath still. Is this normal?

I’m 11+4 and have had the same thing on and off. It’s convinced me there is something wrong and the baby isn’t growing. Between worrying about that and the pregnancy insomnia I’m barely sleeping :-(

Have my scan next Tuesday and can’t wait.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

I’m 35 weeks tomorrow and since last night I’ve had a banging headache which kept me up and hasn’t gone away with 3 doses of paracetamol or the little sleep I managed to get. It’s now travelled down my neck. I also feel sick and keep needing the loo. Anyone know what it could be?

I would call the triage line ASAP. Could be pre-eclampsia which you need to get seen to pretty quick!

 

[Greencatfysh]

Does anyone have any advice on how to navigate in laws being a bit too … excited?
First grandchild on both sides and while I’m grateful (really truly) for all the help and advice we are getting already (25 weeks .. when did that happen ) my experience with my own parents has been so laid back in comparison to my in laws and I’m starting to already get stressed about how much they plan to be involved!
My own parents have offered help and advice when asked and my mums taken me shopping to pick things out myself and has been happy to buy - with a couple of little nice surprises like toys and books. But the “big important things” they’ve always let me and partner choose without any input unless asked.
my in laws are buying are travel system which is lovely BUT they insisted on also coming to the appointment (fine) and gave a running commentary on why the pram/car seat would not be suitable for THEM!! for example, FIL made the sales woman try pram out in both ours and their car - it fits in ours but needs a wheel off to fit in his. He says this is going to be “unmanageable”.
I fear they think they will have the baby a lot without me and partner and I am unsure where they get this from as we have only broached them having a day a week when I go back to work when baby’s 9 months?
They are also already booking weekends away wanting to take us and the baby when I’ve been quite clear to partner I want our first holiday with baby to be the three of us, and I’m already dreading explaining I do not want any visitors to the hospital provided baby and I are well and go home in a day or two after birth.
Partner is aware of my wishes and knows his parents can be “hard headed” but I don’t think he realises how tense I’m getting over this
Maybe I’m being unreasonable but I’m worried about small tensions causing a huge blow up in the future

Argh, I could have written this. My in laws are similar, not as bad as yours sound in terms of the travel system etc but I’m sure they would have been - we’ve had to have a few pretty awkward conversations with them so far about things like this. I’m also anxious about it and my partner wasn’t really taking it seriously til last week. His dad made some comment about my husband “popping round to check on the house once a week” (they travel a fair bit) and husband had to say look, things will be different once baby arrives!


They expected to buy us something “big” I.e the travel system and I think they were taken aback we didn’t include them in that shopping. Our main gripe has been about them “popping over” as soon as baby arrives which we had to correct them on. My husband also seemed to think they’d be having the baby sleep at theirs - I was the same, I said maybe when she’s 9/12 months but it would be very rare for us, the main thing they MIGHT do is come and babysit for us at our own house. My advice would be unfortunately to have some awkward chats now about it and try and get through to them, you’ll only feel more annoyed and anxious as the due date approaches (speaking from experience)

 

[Keera]

I'm in my last week of work before maternity leave starts! Can't believe I've made it this far!

I'm a bit confused on wipes vs cotton wool and water for nappy changes. Is it ok to use water wipes from the beginning? Also will I need nappy cream from the beginning? NHS says to avoid anything on baby's skin for the first few weeks but my friends have been using wipes and cream.

Funnily enough I did an antenatal class at the weekend and the midwife talked about this. She said cotton wool pads and warm water was currently best practice but obviously when your out and about not practical so water wipes were fine. My plan is to do warm water/cotton pads at home and water wipes elsewhere (and have put them in her hospital bag). I just wonder whether she will get used to the warm water and then scream when a cold wipe touches her
she also said no creams to start unless obviously baby has a rash, which the midwife or HV can advise on at the time!

happy last week

 

[anything at all]

I'm in my last week of work before maternity leave starts! Can't believe I've made it this far!

I'm a bit confused on wipes vs cotton wool and water for nappy changes. Is it ok to use water wipes from the beginning? Also will I need nappy cream from the beginning? NHS says to avoid anything on baby's skin for the first few weeks but my friends have been using wipes and cream.

With my first I brought about 3 bags of cotton wool balls/pads before baby was here as I thought that’s what you had to use but you really don’t! I never used them at all!
We ended up using water wipes to begin with but did eventually just move on to Tesco own baby wipes as he got older as it’s much cheaper

- Though some babies skin is more sensitive than others so it may vary what you might have to use Vs someone else is using

Nappy creams, having metanium yellow ready is the best for actual nappy rash if your LO gets it. I think you can use barrier creams to try protect and prevent but I’m not even sure they really do work as we used them with my first and he always got nappy rash early on anyway.

 

[nolongerlurking]

Thank you, did you just take yourself straight to A&E or go through out of hours/111 first? Suppose it might be different with each trust! I don’t want to waste anyone’s time if I don’t actually need to be there.

Most people go to A&E, however it’s worth calling your maternity unit and seeing they see you, at my trust we don’t see anyone under 16 weeks, but will see hyperemisis/pregnancy sickness x

 

[anything at all]

Speaking of scans! When would everyone say is the best time for a 4D scan?

I wonder this too, and are they worth it ?

We had one at 26w2d with our first and got some lovely pictures of his face.

My husband said he didn’t want to bother this time.

I do think the whole appointment felt a bit rushed and short for the amount of money it cost though !

 

[Scorpihoe]

This really made me laugh pregnancy is so weird isn't it haha.

It's smells for me, absolutely everything smells ! I can't bare the smell of outside, I could vomit when my partner gets in the car, I told him recently everything about him smells he just doesn't understand, poor tw*t

I realised I might be pregnant because my wee didn’t smell like wee it smelled soooo strange I can’t put my finger on it! Almost like when you eat loads of asparagus and then wee that and also I was dreaming every night, very vivid dreams too. That was unusual for me

 

[littlepup]

When is too early to buy stuff... I'm 19 weeks but Prime Day has some temptations! I.e. breast pump!

It’s not too early but don’t forget we’ve still got Black Friday to come if you wanted to wait a bit longer.
Breast pumps aren’t usually needed until milk is established so if it’s electric, I wouldn’t waste the warranty time or risk it not working for you and being beyond the return period.

 

[PoppyKJ]

I have fully given up sleeping in the bed. I can’t get comfy, I tried a pregnancy pillow and it’s just so awkward. I dread going to bed. 30 weeks and it’s only going to get harder. My partner keeps telling me he will get on the couch but I just can’t settle in the bed at all!