Pregnancy #62

[Keera]

This is probably a stupid question but are the pads that are labelled as "for postnatal incontinence" also suitable for bleeding? Or do I need thicker ones for dealing with the blood? For some reason postnatal pads is what my mind is choosing to overthink today

I am a first time mum so perhaps others can offer a first hand experience of this BUT I am a nurse and did deal with assessing and organising continence pads for the elderly. We had a younger patient who had issues with vaginal bleeding who wanted the tena continence pads provided by the NHS for this but tena explained they aren’t made for menstruation/bleeding and would not absorb to the same level or as quickly as a sanitary pad.
This could make you more uncomfortable and lead to infection etc etc.

bur perhaps any of the ladies who have actually tried it could advise better!

 

[Jaybob]

anyone else’s gut feeling about their babies gender correct?
I’m sure with my first I thought he was a boy from fairly early and was correct. I did have boy feelings at first this time but more recently over the last few weeks been feeling more toward girl. Maybe wishful thinking since we already have a boy.

I was told at my fetal medicine scan on Wednesday that I have a left lateral placenta some theory says girls on the left and boys on the right - but not always the case

it really is just one of those things that’s 50/50 isn’t it?

I’m still waiting on test results so I don’t know why I’m letting myself get attached here 🥲

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When I had my first kid, my cousin and I were convinced I was having a girl. We planned to visit her so she could "buy the baby two dresses". Instead I took her for a 4D scan, found out the baby was a boy and got a good deal on a giant rabbit from Pottery Barn Kids

 

[ASAnigel]

Saw my mum yesterday and we were talking about who I wanted around when I give birth. I told her I was happy for visitors but no kissing baby and she looked stunned and then in a really moody voice said she'll maybe just on the top of the head and when I said no she said well you'll have to remind me or the emotions will just take over and I won't help myself. Had a feeling she would be like this. MIL was instantly like whatever makes you guys comfortable
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I'm a bit more of silent follower on here but have been thinking about you. Glad to here your home.

Def good to make those boundaries as clear as possible now.
my MIL can be very sensitive so I didn’t want to tell them what to do but subsequently nearly burst into tears when she kissed his face I then had severe anxiety he was going to get seriously unwell. Didn’t help that my FIL coughed over him too like wtf what is wrong with people??
I know they were just excited to meet him but the way I felt with it all it’s definitely worth “upsetting” people first by setting boundaries than it is you getting upset when they do something you don’t like!

 

[Super_Berry]

Just coming on to moan… rung up my GP this morning as really struggling again with sickness, only to be told can’t do anything today or to call 111 sobbing in the office at 10:30 wasn’t on my plan today

I'm really sorry. My midwives just kept brushing my sickness off as normal and I didn't get tablets until week 32. And it was just so upsetting that no one was listening. I hope that you can get something sorted asap. Sending you love!

 

[Keera]

Well done! I never managed. I’m still in hospital (all ok but being observed) and baby is two days old, colostrum would have been handy as ive not been able to express more than 0.1ml and milk hasn’t come in yet. Baby has had to have formula which is fine but wasn’t the plan! Just bring it with you to hospital

oh congratulations 🩷 it seems like 5 minutes ago we were chatting on the TTC thread! Hope all is well xxx

 

[Amylaauren]

Unfortunately the statistics have caught up with me. I had a 10 week scan this morning and the baby died at 8 weeks. I always knew that she had a miserable chance of survival, but I honestly thought I'd be one of the lucky ones. It wasn't to be.

im so sorry. Sending you lots of love and please be gentle on yourself xxx

 

[scouseconstantine]

Got a letter from my health visiting team that basically said ‘hey we hear you’re pregnant, congrats! Here’s a qr code if you want any information’

please tell me that means they won’t be coming round my house before babies born because I do not have time for that

 

[anything at all]

Joining back on this thread, totally unexpected (to a degree!!) but have found out I’m pregnant and very early…. Can someone with an age gap of 20 months please tell me it’ll all be OK?

I don’t know for sure yet but I think the harder part might be being pregnant while still looking after a baby/toddler tbh

I’m 16 weeks at the moment and my first is now coming up to 20months, I’ve thankfully not suffered much with sickness this time round but I’m always so very tired and obviously can’t just go off and take a nap. Do feel like I’m struggling to keep on top of things around the house because the second LO is in bed I want to go to bed too 🥲

 

[Greencatfysh]

Next thread for Pregnancy

 

[anything at all]

After my gender reveal was ruined last week by my boss, I've come in today after a week off and my lovely work pals decorated my desk with boy banners, boy balloons and boy gifts

I have mixed feelings about my baby’s gender being out there already .. I wanted to keep it a surprise. Hubby let it slip to his family by accident on Friday and my mum drove me up to hospital last night and I accidentally said ‘I have felt him move today at least’ so I went and ruined that for myself

 

[JombleWomble]

Also do they give you a hospital gown to give birth in? I'm not sure I want to give birth in my own clothes, getting all sorts of bodily fluids on it.

I've been wondering this too. Do I just go to the hospital in whatever I'm wearing at the time, or should I change into something more suitable for giving birth in? I'm dreading how hot hospitals usually are so I'd rather be in something really airy, but I don't want to turn up in a massive nightie if I'm going to be getting changed anyway

 

[RoseyThorney]

Hey all thank you all so much for your well wishes !

Baby Girl arrived at 14:42 and weighs 7lb7 and she’s perfect I can’t believe I made her (along with Mr10 of course lol)!

I’m doing okay but haven’t moved much but from the small bits I have I can tell it’s going to be a painful time ahead, going to the ward now and first night on my own as mum lol xx

Congratulations!! Enjoy those newborn snuggles!

 

[Crypticqueenie]

I was terrible for it in the first trimester and then it settled in the second. The second tri is like a fever dream - so much energy in the day, no pain, sleeping through the night then wham, back to this now at the end. Just had to have toast and then granola and yoghurt as I’m soooo hungry

Ok that sounds promising!
I'm starving as well debating getting out of bed for a piece of toast, maybe I will 🫠
Hope you get some sleep soon!

 

[littlepup]

I definitely agree that once you’ve physically breast fed a baby, getting your head around *stuff coming out of your boobs* MUST be easier. Right now it just feels icky to me. My midwife gave me a kit. The first instruction is to massage your boobs for a solid 10 mins and then squeeze them gently. It’s a bit like perineal massage for me - the suggestion was husband could help. So far in my 35 years both my boobs and my perineal area have been purely for pleasure, so spending time at home “treating” them in a medical way is just a weird, mind bending concept…

Oh it was still weird just the concept of “milking” myself is so ick and bizarre. But it was almost leaking so pretty much came without trying and I was more keen given my difficulty last time. I wouldn’t have stressed myself over it though, I’m pretty sure no baby has suffered by not having it, same as breast feeding in general.

re feeling nauseous I still get that but I believe it’s to do with the oxytocin so if you get that while expressing colostrum, it’s a good sign really if you’re looking to stimulate labour!

(Don’t know where the word “buy” came from in my last comment btw)

 

[Kaylarina]

Anyone who has a physically demanding job, when are you going on mat leave? I work for the NHS and do 13 hour long shifts, but I’m considering working up until 37 weeks and taking annual leave until 39 then starting mat leave but I’m worried I won’t last that long I just can’t afford to take a year off so want as much time afterwards as possible

I am a surgeon and was working in the NHS in my first pregnancy- went on mat leave at 36 weeks and my daughter was born on the first day of my Mat leave

 

[Elisha97]

I think I know the answer to this but I'm not sure I've felt the baby move today and my stomach feels so tight and achey. I should call triage shouldn't I to see what they say? Silly question too, if they ask me to go in will they see me without my maternity notes? My notes are at home but I pass by the hospital on my way home from the office so it makes sense to go straight there from work.

Just call and reassure yourself I’ve never needed my notes, it’s always been fine

 

[scouseconstantine]

Hi ladies,

I am 15w3d today. We had our dating scan at 13w6d and baby was perfect. Everything as normal.

Since then my energy has come back a lot and my nausea is much less frequent. I am occasionally getting crampy/stretchy feelings in my lower stomach and sides. Nothing painful just uncomfortable. I don't massively have a bump yet, it slightly appears sometimes and then other times it isn't visible.

I have myself completely wound up that something is wrong. I know I am probably being irrational but any reassurance would be gratefully received.

I know it's too early to feel movements so I don't even have that for reassurance. So annoying as I thought after the first trimester I would relax and enjoy this pregnancy!

this was me to a tee at this time! I’m still anxious st 28 weeks I feel baby kick and then nothing for half an hour and I’m halfway on the phone to triage haha.

I’ve had the pains all through, it’s apparently normal as your body stretches to fit baby. I would recommend not to Google too much! I gave myself such fear googling as for every positive link there’s always one that tells you it’s a sign for concern and you’re about to miscarry

 

[themuffinwoman]

Interesting!! I’ll go and get checked later today. It’s crazy the amount of conflicting info! She said unless I’m noticing it going through onto other things (I.e my trousers or the bedsheets) and only noticing it when I go to the loo (I.e seeing it in my knickers) then it’s not enough to worry about.

I had no idea until my waters went but there’s multiple sacs around the baby? The slow slow trickle was from the one by her head so it had a way to travel good luck!

 

[anything at all]

Me too. Do we have to do it? I know no one has to do anything but won't it come out anyway after birth? My midwife hasn't spoken to me about it and I'm not quite sure I understand it. I plan on breastfeeding but the thought of massaging my own boobs like this makes me feel weird.

With my first pregnancy the few times I tried to do it I couldn’t seem to get much at all! But then my waters broke at 36+5 so I never really got much of a try at it. Then we couldn’t get the hang of breastfeeding (mix of tongue tie and me not wanting to accept any help with it). So my son never got any of it and he’s 20months now and is completely fine

I’ll probably give it a better go this time unless I don’t make it far enough to try !

 

[Kaylarina]

Hello ladies. Does anyone know what prams/travel systems they are going for yet?

We went to the baby show this weekend and despite our efforts not to, we have fallen completely in love with the Bugaboo Fox 5. I found it looked the nicest but it was also the easiest to put up and down.

We are planning on travelling to NYC when baby is 4 months old (crazy I know!) and have been advised by multiple couples we know that the YoYo would be best for this.

My question is- do any of these ever go on Black Friday sales? And are there any other prams we should be considering.

We have the Bugaboo Donkey Duo - it has done our first 2 girls a treat and as we have such small gaps between ours we are sticking with the same and we've just ordered the comfort wheeled board as we'll have under 3. That being said, we've never travelled with it. We have a Cybex Coya and we will use that when we are flying anywhere as you can also attach the car seat.